Im drinking my pain away, and I feel like $hit.....?

Question

I've been crying, I've been betrayed. I feel like giving up, whats the point. My question is how can I find myself.

I started drinking today, just to be numbed from the pain. But it's just hard to think he would of done something like this. I just think of all the good time and good memories and I just can't belive he would do this.

Answer 1

I have no idea what he did, but it must have been really bad. So, you just started drinking today. OK. Go for it. See if it helps. Just don't keep drinking more each day. I find that sometimes giving in for one "pity party day" helps get that out of my system so I can think better the next day. Once you get over the hangover the problem is still there. Try to look at all of your options. Make a list of things that are on your mind. Put pros and cons for each item on your list. Putting things on paper often puts them into perspective.

Answer 2

Well stop drinking first. It's when we hit rock bottom that we get the opportunity to work ourselves or build ourselves back up stronger and better. What you experienced was painful but was also a valuable lesson in relationships. Just learn to make better choices next time and always remember to not dwell on the past. You trip, you fall, you get up, dust yourself off and move forward and look for bumps in the future that will make you stumble. There is so much beauty in life to let one instance rob you of the ability to enjoy it. I hope you feel better soon and good luck.

Answer 3

Go to AA and talk to someone. Find a counselor who isn't biased like friends and family would be. Then find a passion. I used to drink a lot and I did all the things I mentioned above. Now I get my feelings out on a canvas and some of my paintings are being displayed in galleries.

Answer 4

Stop drinking. That will just make you more depressed. Call someone to talk to. Everyone feels betrayed and like giving up at some point, but those are just feelings. They will pass.

Answer 5

First you need to put the bottle down. You won't find who it is you were created to be behind a bottle, or at the bottom of a bottle. You need to take some time to really look at the things you want out of life and go for them!! Noone is holding you back but you!

Answer 6

God loves you. Doesn't give up. Possibly been betrayed too. Hopefully doesn't drink too much.(Though that might account for a great many things.) I think your pretty cool too. I'm sorry. Live and learn. Beats the alternative.

Answer 7

First of all, drinking isn't going to solve your problems, it just makes things worse for you. I feel like you almost everyday of my life... strict parents, stupid co-workers, limited freedom. All of those things can be reasons and excuses to drink but you have to be strong. Don't give up. I know it's easier said than done but you have to find it in you to keep moving and to motivate yourself. I'm going to pray you can make another day.

Answer 8

Others advice cannot help you. You will be helped when YOU are ready to help yourself. It's o.k. to feel bad when things go wrong or people hurt you. But don't let them win and turn you into someone you don't want to be. Take stock of your valuable qualities and unique gift that you have been given. Most of all, refuse to be abused or belittled by anyone. It is not their right. You deserve love and respect from anyone who calls themself your friend or more.

Answer 9

Betrayel is a part of life. How you deal with it separates you. You musn't give up over someone who didn't love you with all their heart. You find your self and your strength by overcoming what has betrayed you. Don't waste your tears on crap suckers like him. You find yourself by realizing who you are and who you represent. Not by who goes out with you. Love yourself before someone else does.

Answer 10

well.. ive been there.. my ex bf cheated on me... so i turned to booze and sex.. it only temporarily eases the pain.. just like loosing someone you love.. you never really get over it.. you just try to block it away.. First Face the FACTs.. and accept it.. Move on.. GO OUT AND ENJOY BEING SINGLE.. being depressed only makes things worse.. I became an alcoholic and a sex attict.. not good combination.. so please stop drinkin so much and get out and have some fun!!!!!!!