My hubby just went nuts?

Question

My hubby & I are both disabled but I love him to death & take marriage VERY seriously.....
I also love my 3 children very much...
Tonight my husband finally lost it - he picked up my 10 month old son by the arm & practically threw him at me then hit our 3 yr old daughter on the head - Then he sliced his wrist wide open!! I called the police & for now he is in a mental ward , my kids are with my friends till I can be sure they are safe!! HELP??? ADVICE???
We have been so upset over my medicaid being cancelled & we are dirt poor right now - we have both been under huge amounts of stress!!

Listen people....this computer is my very LAST luxury & it was given to me by my MOM you idiots!!! she also pays for my internet!! We don't have cable or anything & you guys are already judging!! He is deaf & really arthritic - it was more than enough to get disability!!! I am trying my best here!!! all you judgemental assholes can go to hell.
My husband just tried to KILL himself & most of you can't even offer any advice, you would rather drag people down even deeper.......

Also the kids were born BEFORE the car wreck that put me in a wheelchair - That could happen to ANY of YOU!!!

Answer 1

Attempting suicide is a sign of weakness, and this type of person can not care for himself, muchless be the leader of a household. Being disabled does not have any affect on the mistreatment and/or abuse of children. If you have to send your children away to insure their safety, obviously they are not.

I too have been "dirt poor", and at other times have had overwhelming, emotional times. AT NO TIME did I take my frustrations out on my children. Any parent should know that a child picks up on the moods and emotions of their parents. Hence, if you are stressed, I assure you so are your children! And as an adult, you have had many years of experience dealing with stress - a 3 year old has not!

There are other people and outlets that are more than willing to help people with disabilities. The disabilities that you mentioned in no way keep you from being loving, caring, responsibile parents. Once you have children, they are your first priority - YOU are responsible for their well being and safety! I am confident that this isn't the first time your husband has had an outburst and taken it out on your kids. BEING A GOOD MOTHER IS FREE!!! IT COST NOTHING!! Force your husband to get help by not letting him return to your home until he does - he obviously needs counseling. Ask your mom for help. God Bless You and Your Family and God Luck

Answer 2

Wow... that is really scary... I think you should talk to the doctors at the hospital. Maybe take a vacation from the Marriage for now. When someone hurts your kids you should take a break and maybe seek some counselling. He has he ever done this stuff before? If so please get out of this marriage. Before he seriously damages your children.. Look into alternatives for medicaid, contact for your family doctor for support. Remember a little time right now to make a decision in regards to this outbreak could either save or break your marriage. But do you really want to be with someone who is capable of hurting your children. Good luck. Being poor doesnt give you an excuse to act like a jerk. You did did you?

Answer 3

your husband don't seem all that disabled if he can do all that. Why can't he get a job disabled people can work too you know. A husband should always look for ways to support a family not rely on the hope of charity handouts.
Anyway the children are the innocent ones and he is hurting them and he has no right what so ever! He is a brute and a dog and have no sympathy for his excuses..

Anyway what can we do about it? Send you five bucks or something?

Answer 4

Your husband is in need of a great deal of professional help. I am sure your lives are full of stress but physical violence is never acceptable. If you are both disabled, why aren't you receiving assistance through Medicare, Social Security disability payments, and Medicaid? Please go to a community mental health center and ask to see a counselor. You should have a caseworker at the Department of Human Services. There is help available but you will have to take the initiative to find that help. God bless you and your family.

Answer 5

Leave him in the hospital get an order of protection for you and the kids. You can appeal your Medicaid denial. If you are seperated from your husband you might get it back with 3 kids. You need to look out for you and your kids let the state take care of your husband.

Answer 6

I do not hink this is the right place to ask for advise. If you are not getting medicaid there must be a government problem which means you will have to talk with them. I think your husband has serious problems and needs psychiatric care.

Answer 7

Wow this is very serious! I think your husband needs a lot of help, he shouldn't be around your children when he is this way. He shouldn't be around you or them until he has had enough help. And you should try to find a job that will fit your needs, or try some online jobs. there are many

Answer 8

That's sad but happens in many families. Please write down all your/ his problems both real and imaginary meet a councillor / a respected person mutually acceptable to you and talk with him. Always belive that you want to end the problem (both of you).Don't wash dirty linen in public. Also be careful not to bring more and more issues out which were there in mind .It,ll make issue worse.Have faith in God. Best of luck

Answer 9

It amazes me how many will spend for the internet or other things they don't need but will stress over getting the things we do need. Why have the internet if so broke right now? Not meaning to step on your toes but do you see something wrong with this picture????

Answer 10

I don't think it is safe for you and the kids to be around him. You need to get out of the situation. It sounds like he's very dangerous. You shouldn't put your kids through that. You will be ok. You can get help.