I think that some women are sexy and kind of turn me on. But i never crush on them and couldn't imagine being in a "relationship" with a woman. I would rather date and be with a guy, and am attracted to them more. But since I am attracted to women, am I gay?
2006-07-22 18:51:06 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I don't think so. Just b/c you appreciate a woman's beauty doesn't mean your gay. Try not to label yourself or put yourself in a category. And are you sure what you feel is attraction, and even if it is, is it sexual attraction? You can like the color pink, but that doesn't mean it's your favorite color!
2006-07-22 19:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by q_d_pie7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well you may not be 'gay' if you look at psychologist's like Sigmund Freud, He stated that 80% of women are bisexual/gay/have gay inclinations. So you're not alone. What you're feeling does not make you full blown gay but it does mean that you have bisexual inclinations. Hence you finding other girls hot....and I don't blame you...girls are hot. Remember it's always up to you how you want to lead your life, so you don't have to have a gay relationship just because you think girls are sexy. It does mean however that you may have gay tendencies or is bi-curious.
Society also puts an enourmous amount of pressure for individuals to conform to sexuality stereotypes (the whole adam n eve thang) So it's not surprising that you may not want to put yourself in a position where society would not agree to your actions. You can play it safe and go out with guys...get married have kids..etc..and admire women from afar...or you could go out there and try out a girl just once because life is too short to miss out on the fun!
2006-07-23 05:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by twisted_goddess_x 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is good that you are open to these feelings and talking about them. It doesn't mean you have to act on them, or that you are lesbian or bisexual. But you might be.
One day when you get to know one of the women you are attracted to, you might find she is attracted to you too, and maybe there will be something sexual which happens. Even then, don't be concerned with a label of "gay" "bi" or "straight". In time, if you find you are having sex with the same women repeatedly, you might change your mind about relationships. If this never happens, so be it. If eventually you never have sex with women, you're probably just straight with an open and free mind. Don't trouble yourself so much with the labels tho. They can restrain you from being your whole self.
2006-07-23 08:13:47 · answer #3 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be bi sexual, but unless you act on it, the most likely prospect that you just appreciate the female body in an art form. I am a lesbian, but think the male body is attractive in it's own way. I can occasionally find them sexually stimulating but would never sleep with one. I believe true love knows no gender. Sometimes hormonal things attract we mere humans as well. Animal instincts still play a role in who we choose for sexual partners. Your openness to being occasionally sexually charged by women is refreshing in just the thought that you (or your upbringing) do not find it totally repulsive, negative or abnormal. Thank goodness.
2006-07-23 09:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by truckinotter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that you are bisexual, or bicurious. If you experimented with a girl, and decided to go back for more, then that would make you bisexual. If it put you off girls full stop, then I'd say you were heterosexual.
Also, you need to ask yourself why you couldn't imagine being in a relationship with a girl - is it internalised homophobia? or is it to do with your actual sexuality?
There are some bisexuals who have relationships with one gender only, and casual encounters only with the other gender. They are known as hedonistic bisexuals.
2006-07-23 03:40:33 · answer #5 · answered by nemesis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly 'normal' to find someone sexy and not have a desire to have sex with them. Why do you think sexy models are used to sell products? It is fine for people to discover beauty in others.
2006-07-23 02:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by JVHawai'i 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you may be bi curious. You're not gay unless you decide to stick with women only and never be with a man
2006-07-23 02:02:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
human sexuality is a beautiful thing. The human body is amazing. Being attracted to it whether it is male or female is nothing to be ashamed of. It doesn't mean you are evil or immoral.
2006-07-23 01:56:50 · answer #8 · answered by freddievsskeletor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just because you are attracted to women does not mean you are gay. It is entirely possible that you are bisexual or perhaps just bi-curious.
2006-07-27 02:22:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
finding women attractive but not wanting a relationship with them says to me that you are not lesbian or even bi............you say you'd rather date and be with a guy, so move on, find the man you want and get on with your life.........
2006-07-23 12:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by D~~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋