I was out of town for the weekend and I got back a day early.
When I got to my house my brothers car was there which is not unusual. I didn't see him when I got in so i thought he was in the bathroom. I went to my bedroom and he was doing the do with his mother in law. It grossed me out. They begged me not to tell his wife before I threw them out. I took my house keys from him and have not been seen either one of them in 2 mnths. My sis in law keeps calling me and inviting me to dinner. I don't want to be the one to tell her it would hurt her so much especially since her mom slept with her former fiance. I can't believe my brother could be such a scuz he know how I feel about adultery, why do it in my house? What should I do and should I tell his wife even though it will hurt her and destroy her family?
2006-07-22 18:33:52 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the truth will come out eventually, if you tell them or not. The thing that will come out eventually is that she wil ask you why you never told her also. You have to make that decision, but you sound like you want to. The longer that she doesn't know the worse it will be for her and everyone else when she does find out. You need to think about all of the relationships involved. you and sis-in-law, you and your brother, sis-in-law and her mother. What they are doing is wrong. But is it your place to tell them. do what you think is best for your family and sister-in-law.
2006-07-22 18:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by singitoutloudandclear 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell her. Forget about your brother he is an asshole. One day he may gain his common sense and morals back(if he ever had any), then again maybe not. But that's the last thing you should worry about. If you were in your sister-in-laws situation wouldn't you want to know? It's better to end this mess quickly before anyone else can get hurt. I'm assuming your brother and his wife have yet to have children together. If so, then you know what to do.
2006-07-22 18:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact the jerk and tell him he has a week to confess to the wife. To verify have his wife call you to confirm he had confessed. Then if/when she calls you can ask how she is holding up at him confessing to have had sex with your mom?
If no call from her arrange a comfortable place to meet with her and break the news to her..be direct but always remain a friend..don't multiply her agony be hinting,beating around the bad news...she will eventually forgive you for being the messenger..she will never forgive you if after she learns the bad news she finds that you KNEW and didn't tell...
Not an easy place to find yourself but something NEEDS TO BE SAID!! if not by brother then by you...she doesn't deserve being kept in the dark...
2006-07-22 19:27:28 · answer #3 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something similiar happened to me dear and I have to tell you it is better to be honest rather than let it build and destroy. Even if it is your brother you have to end this crap.
My ex fiance's father was cheating on his wife, her mother, who was dying of lupus. He came to my house to call his girlfriend in South America and I was caught.
I didn't reveal this to anyone until my girl came to me to say that she thought her father was being unfaithful. All hell broke loose after that. I wished to this day I had come forward sooner, but the damage had already been done. I sacrificed trust to build trust and it killed me in the end. I hope you don't make the same mistake, family or not.
2006-07-22 18:48:12 · answer #4 · answered by Michael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you destroy her family? Didn't her mother and husband already do that? How do you think she is going to feel when she finds out you knew and didn't tell her? You should let your brother and her mother they need to come clean because you can't keep putting off family events.
Good luck
2006-07-22 18:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by qti36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I went through the same thing. It's not fair to you to make you hold in such a thing. You need to tell her, she deserves to know now, it is wrong to keep it from her. She needs to invest time in some one else who wouldn't do that to her. And/or she needs to work it out with her husband.
2006-07-22 18:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by Jessica Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is such an awfull thing to happen and for you to be the one holding this in must be really hard for you. i know that it would cut your sis inlaw so much, but ultimately she needs to know. ur bro could still being getting it on with his mother in law and that really is not right. its not fair that you have to carry this problem and have it on your mind and neither is it right that your sis inlaw go on living life thinking that she has a trust worthy husband and mum. maybe you could take her out to lunch one day and quitely talk bout it to her. just remember to brace yourself for her reaction to it. goodluck and i hope this has helped you. ur in my prayers
2006-07-22 18:40:17 · answer #7 · answered by Laura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You better tell his wife. Both ur brother and her mother are scum and they dont deserve forgiveness. Im sure you would want someone to give u the heads up if you were the one being betrayed.
2006-07-22 18:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by lost_realist_84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-22 18:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by Proofread-Edit-Write.com 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should better tell the true story about your brother and his mother in law to your sister in law because sometimes you have to tell or the person who doesn't know will be the one who like sad or kill themself
2006-07-22 18:41:11 · answer #10 · answered by thuong_tran113 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋