ive got a tough one for you all.. what do you think?

Question

my best friend was telling his girlfriend to leave on a daily basis..during a brain damaged moment i told her she could move in with me and my wife.. she had her mother come and get her friday..Saturday morning she calls and says she wants to move in here. i said ok . i did say that she could.
so i called and told my best friend this. he hung up on me. of course he assumes something hokey is going on even though i told him years ago that i wasnt attracted to her. well hes very upset. does he have a right to be? he told her he didnt want her there. what do you think?

Answer 1

no he shouldnt be upset i think u did a gr8 thing, there is nothing wrong wit being nice. whocares what he think u did a good thing in lettin her move in but i still think u need 2 settle it with ur best friend and put him on his spot so he wont say lies and make rumors about u 2.

Answer 2

Well, obviously he and his girlfriend are having problems with their relationship, but you did absolutely nothing wrong by inviting her to stay with you for a bit.
It's likely that your friend's emotions have clouded his vision a bit, or he would have realized that it's childish to assume that you like his girlfriend. You're married, aren't you?
Now, it might actually not be that he thinks you're attracted to her. Perhaps your friend's angry over the fact that you offered his girlfriend shelter when he's trying to leave her without it. If he really was telling her to leave then perhaps the relationship between those two is over anyways.
Either way, you have done nothing wrong, and though your friend has a reason to be mad, its not a very good reason at all.

Answer 3

Why would he think something "hokey" is going on, when you are married? Are you and your wife swingers? If he tell her to leave everyday, he doesn't sound like a very nice person. F him. Try and help the girl get out of there, but tell her that she needs to find her own place in a month. Tell her if she goes back to him again, that you will NOT help her again. You don't want her moving in and out every time they fight/makeup.

Answer 4

Lie to her and say your wife won't stand for it. So she can't move in or will have to leave after 48 hours, something like that. Coordinate this with your wife so she can play act the grumpy part. A woman won't question another woman's judgment about who she allows under her own roof.

Your best friend isn't such a good friend, is he, now?

Answer 5

well i would c why hes mad but if he is telln her to leave on a daily basis then where would she go... i think its good that you did that but should tell her that she cannot move in b/c she should stay there with her bf .... dont lose your friendship b/c of lettin ur bestfriends gf move in with u and your wife... take care and make the right desision.. ok bye.

Answer 6

Ouch. Very tough situation. Tell her that you were merely joking and that you're sorry, it's in the best interest of you, your wife, your friend and her not to move in.

Answer 7

Make it clear right away that this is very short term... don't BS or she could be there awhile and cause some probs obviously with you and your buddy but with your wifey as well.

Your wife ok'd this situation???

Answer 8

Explain to your friend and his girlfriend that you were just trying to help her out because you felt that she wouldn't follow through. Then suggest that she find another place to stay and for them to both move on.

Answer 9

Lmao....sorry
If you dont know, look at it as if the shoe were on the other foot. How would you feel if your wife moved in with him, even if you did tell her to leave?

Answer 10

Your friend needs to grow up. He tells his gf to go away, but when she does, he gets mad. Since he didn't really want her to leave, he has transferred blame to you. He needs to get his emotions under control and figure out where he wants his relationship to go, instead of lashing out at her when things don't go his way.