The thing is I'm married and I met this guy at work who is also married. We have been seeing each other for over a year, we have been sexually active. We are in love with each other but neither one of us want to hurt our spouse by getting a divorce. I have giving him opportunities to let me go but he says that will not make him happy. It won't make me happy either cause I do love him alot and he loves me alot. I want to break up with him cause he has kids and I do not and I dont want his kids to suffer and his wife is starting to get a clue she has found my phone number and have started to call me. I have told him I can't do this anymore now that she is catching on but he do not want that and he begs me not to leave him because I make him so happy and I am nothing like his wife. Which goes both ways because he is nothing like my husband. I'm so confused because I dont want to hurt my husband or his wife but we're really in love with each other. Help what do I do with this situation?
2006-07-22 18:24:00 · 11 answers · asked by Inchhigh 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Really, the answer is in you. You should weigh out the consequences and which you would prefer. Do you want to be emotionally fulfilled with this man in exchange for changing your whole life and everyone else around you? Are you and the man you are in love with, willing to accept the responsibility of the hurt of others and criticism in order to start a lifetime of commitment together?
Although, it does show what kind of person he is, that he is willing to leave his children, while you really do care about his children getting hurt. Does he care?
It all depends on you two. What you two would be willing to do for each other. Are you willing to take the risk? And be sure you are not being fooled or used. Be sure to think things throughly, know you true feelings, and that from fact and fiction. Also don't go against your instincts and gut feeling and don't fall into pressure from any side. You are in control of your own decisions.
2006-07-22 18:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by Verie 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Holy cow buy a vowel already. Leave your poor spouses so they will be free to find someone that is capable of some loyalty, you two cheating losers deserve each other. And by the way, didn't you know that if they'll do it with you they'll do it to you? So when what went around comes around to you don't you dare complain or cry about it, you are just getting what you deserve. And wtf do you mean you don't want to hurt your hubby? its a little late for that don't you think??? if there was even an ounce of truth to that statement you wouldn't have spent the last year lying to him and screwing the guy at work! the only thing you are really worried about is looking him in the eye and letting him know who he really wasted his time marrying, the only thing you care about is you and 'how you look' to people. if you have the guts to disregard your husband and marriage that way at least be a big enough woman to own it!!
2006-07-22 18:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not good for either of you. The longer you stay in this situation, the harder it will be at home.Your mistakes will always find you out.You need to break it off cold turkey and rekindle all the things that made you love your husband in the first place. Little things mean a lot. Start loving and talking to your husband. If you are unable to love your husband and he you, then you can leave with a clear continence. In my experiences , men very seldom leave their wives for the other woman. Men just want fantasy and validation. be careful.
Good luck
2006-07-22 18:34:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't of started anything in the first place , I don't think that you really love him , I really don't think that he wants to leave his family ,do you want to be the reason why you broke up his and your marriage, the only ones that will suffer are the children, he really doesn't love you, if he did he would have bought you your own house , taken care of you and your kids , paid for your divorce, including his , well that's not a good idea stop seeing him , if I were his wife I would show you what I can do to someone that wants to break up my family, trust me honey he is not worth all the pain that you will go thru when your husband finds out, and leaves you just wear the letter A on your chest for adulterer. please watch that movie the Scarlett letter. best of luck to you ....
2006-07-22 18:38:36 · answer #4 · answered by E.M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-25 19:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't seem to understand the basic feelings of LOVE! shame on you, and shame on the s.o.b. that you're sleeping with. heaven help the ***** that ever comes into my marriage and try to distroy it! how can a marriage commence to heal if there is a third party involved? divorce already and stop hurting all involved. if i were you, i'd make a clean break and hope she doesn't find you out, because she'll give you and him the beating you both sooooo deserve.
2006-07-22 18:45:03 · answer #6 · answered by irie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That question can only be answered by you...you can look at it two ways
1. the both of you are married and it is wrong to betray the spouses and his children.
or
2. Is it really fair to all involved if neither one of you are not happy at home with your current spouses? Is it fair to them to be married to someone who really does not love them? I think it is selfish to stay with someone for the wrong reasons because they could be with someone who wants to be with them.
2006-07-22 18:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by chelbeay1030 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave him he has kids and he is not going to leave her for you. this just happen to me a few months ago and my husband tried to leave me for the other woman and now he is back. we have two children together and he said once he saw what it was doing to the kids and i he had to come home
2006-07-22 18:29:30 · answer #8 · answered by been there 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ae a lying cheatin whore, how can you slither in bed with husband at night, you are nasty, i hope you get a virus, you and your computer
2006-07-22 18:39:47 · answer #9 · answered by knightofcolumbus26 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
flip a coin and choose
2006-07-22 18:34:00 · answer #10 · answered by pay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋