He calls me bitches, when he has the baby I can't call or he hangs up in my face the MOTHER TOO! I went through the whole pregnancy alone he cahnged his number on me and when he called it was every blue moon.
2006-07-22 18:15:49 · 17 answers · asked by Coa-Coa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Doesn't that just suck?? I have basically the same thing going on. I figure its worth it to put up with the childish sh*t from him as long as my daughter gets to have a father in her life. Under the condition, of course, that he is good to her. If you think the father is not taking care of the baby, then don't let him take him/her. He can't do anything about it unless he has a court order saying that he can have visitation. If he does have a court order, then, sorry, you have to put up with the bullsh*t, just like I do. Some visitation orders allow the mother to amend visitation if the child is under age 5. Just remember that if you make it too hard for the father to see the baby, he'll probably just give up and then your child will grow up fatherless and do you really want to carry that guilt around for the rest of your life?
2006-07-22 19:05:00 · answer #1 · answered by crystal 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Don't call him or even return his calls. If the mother acts like him, then he's mama's boy and that is no good. Look for someone new. Maybe not right away. Get rid of the loser. It will probably get worse. Unless he decides to change for the better. Get
custody of your child, before he turns around and tries to act
like he's been there for the baby since day 1. Don't get stuck
with a mama's boy, he'll listen to everything she says and she'll
put things in his head. If he really loves you then he'll listen to
his heart.
2006-07-22 18:26:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i been through the same thing.He didn't call me names but he wasn't there for me through my pregnancy,Only wanted me after i had him.He was cheating with so many i found out later.I got tired of it.I don't think that you should put up with it.I know it's hard because who doesn't want to be with the father of their child.He is someone who should be good to you and respect you.You should be the Queen that you are and say that you are too good for this.Your child may grow up and think this is how a woman is supposed to be treated or think this is how a man is.When he really isn't one.You need someone in your life who will treat you better.I have 3 kids,2 with that loser who i haven't been for 10 years now when i was pregnant.(My mom use to tell me to leave him alone.She's been gone for 3 years now and she was so right.)He's not even there for my 2 that i have with him.They are 13 and 10 and don't want to see him.My 3 child is 3 his dad treats me like the Queen that i am.Don't ever let someone bring you down or put you down.No you should not put up with that.
2006-07-22 18:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Your child will also treat you disrespectfully when he's older if you don't get a handle on the problem NOW. If the father has no legal visitation rights, I'd refuse to let him see the baby until he changes his behavior towards you. Lay it out for him and tell him the same goes for "Grandma."
2006-07-22 18:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by cindy c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So obiviously if this behavior bothers you.... you already know if you should put up with it or not. I would make choices based on what is good for my baby. Is that a good example for my baby?? It shouldn't be about using you baby as a tool to get back at him... but if he is not contributing to a healthy lifestyle of the kid, cut it off or or control the atmosphere.
2006-07-22 18:20:51 · answer #5 · answered by Brooklyn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do it alone the good Lord will help you more than you know. Don't take that crap from NO man if his mom had known better she could have taught her son to be a man and how to treat a woman.
2006-07-22 18:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by black_lookinlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would put an end to that quickly before that child grows up a disrespects you as well if he has court ordered you need to talk to your dcs and tell them what he is teaching your child do you want your child to either grow up and act like that or worse if your child is a girl think its ok to be treated that way
2006-07-22 19:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by mommdg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now, you know that is very unhealthy for you and your child.....That should be a sign right there for you to leave.....No man has the right to call you out of your name.....Never!!....All those signs will just lead up to him putting is hands on you....and something worse...even hurting you and your baby...the best thing for you is to get away from him immediately...i know it will be hard....but to me, its either choose life or death in that type of situation...
2006-07-22 18:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by envious_attraction 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl do yourself a favor take your baby and raise it by yourself and tell him if he wants to see his child he has to take you to court. My husband has a child with another woman and he doesn't disrespect at all and if he would think about doing it I would tell him something about it. And his mother should not be involved in your child's life if she wants to be so cruel to you. You allowing her to be apart of her grandchild's life is a privilege.
2006-07-22 18:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by sizzlincowgirl4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are hysterical. Do you realize what you you just asked dozens of people......... worldwide ? There are very few people who want to communicate with an hysterical, screaming female. You cannot talk to him until you calm down. It will get better. Good Luck !
2006-07-22 18:28:15 · answer #10 · answered by SpongebobRoundpants 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋