Relationships when you have PTSD from a rape?

Question

6 years ago I was violently raped. For three years I was in and out of hospitals. Since that time I was able to put my life back together in every respect but relationships. I have a wonderful boyfriend of two years, who loves me more than anything and treats me like a princess. We have talked about getting married, but before that can happen, I need to change the way I treat him. I have a problem feeling close to him. I also take out all my anger and frustration out on him... I'll go off and just start screaming and worst off, I don't even realize it. I know part of the reason is because I'm subconciously pushing him away because I don't want to get hurt... but I don't want to do that. I love him and want to marry him, but I can't do it when I treat him this way. Any advice from people who have been in this situation?

Answer 1

First of all, I'm glad you are talking about it so freely.
I have had this probelm as well. Me and my fiance still haev probelms because when I a frustrated ill push him away-----talk to him about all of this if you havn;t already---make him understand that you feel this way. let him know its not his fault---this was the biggest proeblem with me and my fiance that he thought he was doing things wrong----but its not him.

I;m so sorry you have to go through all this---PTSD is hard and realtionships are so hard after a violent rape---but I will be your friend if you want---- [e-mail]

I you want to e-mail me we can talk further

take care---

hope this helped a little

Answer 2

You probably need to see a physician. I know you may have seen one or are seeing one, but this seems like a major transition. Pharmacuticals may really be able to help you drop your anxiety a bit, or calm down. Sometimes, you just have to admit you have problem, and that you aren't tough enough to do without the help that is available.

Also, I think it is common to feel threatened when a relationship gets very close.

I have not had this issue. But according to tests I am a little crazy, so I've read a lot of crap...