when r u 2 old to b a virgin if u r a teen?

Question

im 14 and dont plan on losing my virginity intill iam at least 21yrs old. but my problem is my b.f (weve been on and off since we were 11) says he cant wait untill we're18 and is pressuring to give it up @16. is 21 2 old 2 b a virgin? im starting to have doubts b/c the oldest person that i know that is still virgin is 18

Answer 1

Don't let ANYONE pressure you into having sex before your ready. Boys have testosterone oozing out between their ears, so they can't wait. I was 18 when I felt comfortable to lose my virginity. And my sister in law is 21 and is still a virgin. Wait for your comfort zone to let you know when your ready. Because sexual relationships are a responsibility. You have to think about birth control and std's, besides all of the feelings wrappped up in it. So relax. You can wait till the cows come home!

Answer 2

You're never too old to be a virgin. If you're not ready to give it up, then don't. With all due respect to your boyfriend, but he's being a real @$$ if he's pressuring you to do stuff that you're not ready to do, and it just shows how bad he only wants to get in your pants. I'm 18 and still a virgin, have a boyfriend who's big into pressuring as well, and you know what? He's getting ditched. Don't try to lose your virginity just because everyone else lost it at a younger age.

Lose it when YOU are ready, and not when someone tells you.

Answer 3

Honey, 21 is not too old. That's the youngest age when you could take care of a child, so you shouldn't be doing stuff that could cause you to become a mommy, unless your old enough to be a mommy.

I was a virgin until I got married at age 26. Just remember whoever you have sex with you have invited into your most intimate part of your physical existence. If you share this over and over with more and more people, it simply isn't as special as it could be.

We have now been married 15 years. WE don't have any VD problems from previous relationships. I don't have little sores that come and go, I don't have warts or any kind of worries about diseases. I also have the complete confidence that I am exclusively special to my husband, and he is exclusively special to me.

When our feet rub together at night as we try to go to sleep, I know that he only knows me as the one he can trust and turn to. Its kind of like how a child only has one mother, and she is the most special person in the child's life. Similarly, sex is best and most secure when it is very exclusive and limited.

Remember that middle school boys watch all kinds of trash that get them hot and bothered, and they are always looking for an easy target to releave the tension they feel. But you are only meeting his selfish desire, if you give into what is best for you and your children, to make him feel better.

Also, DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH ANYONE UNLESS YOU THINK THEY WILL BE A GOOD DADDY FOR YOUR KIDS. No matter how well you think your controceptive is, it can and does fail. So if you're not close and sure enough to share a baby with him, then you're not close and sure enough to share your body with him.

Plus, God's word says his plan is for people to find a mate who will help each other obey him, get married, THEN have sex, and then have babies.

Answer 4

I waited till I was 20 to have sex and now im 23. I actually wanted to wait till marriage for it but I was in love with my boyfriend at the time. He and I were together for more than 5 years so I thought that I was ready. Now in your case...you are only 14. You don't need a boyfriend right now and you surely don't need to be having sex either. Just wait. If you can't wait until marriage then at least wait till you are comfortable with yourself. And as for the boyfriend. If he can't understand and respect your decision....then hey he doesn't really care for you like he says. Don't let someone like that take it away in just a quickness. Take your time and once it happens it happens. Don't rush it and enjoy your teenage years. Plus being 21 is toooo old to be a virgin. I know some people that are in their early 20's that are still waiting and I honestly give them credit for that. Good Luck.

Answer 5

That's your decision. 21 isn't too old to be a virgin, and your boyfriend doesn't need to be pressuring you. Do NOT have sex if you aren't ready, you will regret it. Trust me, I've been there. And don't let what others say affect you. It's none of their damn business if you are a virgin or not. And tell them it's none of thier business. Sex isn't a part of growing up, but maturity is, and you are showing a lot of maturity by waiting, whereas your boyfriend sounds childish, and so are people who think that losing their virginity at 15 is cool. I'm not going to tell you to break up with him, that is up to you, but don't give in to him pressuring you if you aren't ready, that's no better than rape. (I've been there also)
You'll thank me when you have a great life and your school mates are knocked up with toddlers running around and they live in a crap shack because they're on welfare.

Answer 6

You are never too old. Wait until YOU are ready and don't let anyone try and talk you into something you don't want to do. If your bf says he can't wait then he is not respecting you.
Also, just because the oldest virgin you know is 18 shouldn't have anything to do with what you want to do with your life.

Answer 7

There is no age that is too old to be a virgin. If you want to wait until you are 30, that should be fine with your horny boyfriend. If he can't wait, that is his problem, not yours. Don't give it up just because he wants you to. Remember, virginity is something that you can never get back. Once it is gone, it is gone. So enjoy your status and don't let society tell you that you need to experiment or anything stupid like that. I say wait for marriage, but the choice is ultimately yours.

Answer 8

Oh, Kimmy --

If he was truly your boyfriend, he'd treat you like the precious friend you are, & get his mind off himself.

My wife was a virgin until she was much older than 21 and I can assure you -- she's great. You have your entire life to explore your sexual nature -- I can tell you I regretted NOT being a virgin when I got married. (And I didn't date until much later -- it's just the lingering memories of a bad decision kinda stays with you).

My oldest son is 18 1/2 and girls flock all around him. But he's saving himself for "her".

There is no such thing as "too old". But there is such a thing as "too young". Enjoy your youth -- you will never be young and innocent again.

Answer 9

Okay, you've said it yourself. He is "pressuring" you. So that is a definate sign that he is a person who does not deserve what it is he wants from you. Signifying that he is desperate means that if you do not give it to him, he will find ANYONE else to give it to. I don't mean to hurt you, but if you give it to him only to have him get it from somewhere else anyway (like his selfishness and desperate behaviour implies), it will hurt you more. 21 is DEFINATELY not too old to be a virgin. I am 25 and I do not yet feel grown up. 21 is just right to be able to feel through the emotions as well as your goals, to be able to determine the right(ish) path in life. And trust me and anyone else who says so when they say that sex is the most difficult thing to deal with at an immature age. I was 16, and still in my adulthood I realize that I was taken advantage of by an older man. It has affected my relationships with men ever since. Something happening to you at too young an age will interfere with your ability to deal with the same things at an older age. KEEP ON TRACK!! I'd say that you are doing fantastic. Stand up for yourself and your beliefs. You deserve it!!!

Answer 10

Many people stay virgins until they are married.

I personally think that it isn't about age [unless you are talking extremely young because I don't think anyone is mature enough to take on sex when they're young]...it is about when you are personally ready.

The fact that your boyfriend is pressuring you about it is a BAD sign...he isn't considering your morals and it could be a sign of him being very possessive later. :/

I think that you shouldn't have sex until you can deal with the consequences [either you being able to mother a child if you are pregnant or make the decision to let one be aborted/adopted].

And if you won't be ready to deal with those consequences until you're 21 then don't do it a minute sooner. You may regret losing it at 16 to him instead of waiting until your 21 and doing it with someone who DOES respect your morals. Just remember...virginity is something that can never be replaced so if it IS important to you..respect it yourself.