everybody in my familly has divorced or just not happy I don't want that to happen to me
2006-07-22 17:41:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You use the word "safe"...makes me wonder.
If you've been together for 6 yrs. then yes.
Why did you wait this long? Just because others have marital problems don't automatically assume that you'll have problems as well. ALL marriages are different.
Marriage is alot of work and if you don't do the 'maintenance' it will eventually break down and dissolve into bitterness.
I hope that helps some.
2006-07-22 17:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by SkyBird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A piece of paper does not make a marriage. The bonds that you build over the years are much more important than paper. The marriage will only provide you with legal protections which are not available as a girlfriend. You can jointly own things and have joint accounts without the license but be sure and have survivors declarations and wills so things do not get messy if something happens to either of you. The living will and directive could also empower you or him in an emergency. Without that all you can do is watch while others make decisions the two of you have earned the right to make.
2006-07-23 01:21:15 · answer #2 · answered by old codger 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your future is in your hands. Don't let other people's experiences get you down. I was with my husband for 3 years before we got married. These days when anyone gets into a fight they want to break up and walk away. If you two know how to get past stuff and move on I think you Will be OK.
I have only been married for 2 years now, but I think we will be OK. He makes me want to strangle him sometimes, but that has nothing to do with a piece of paper. ha ha It was kind of neat getting married. It was so surreal for the first little while.
I really think it's what you make of it. I always think of older people (my grand parents, my husband's grand parents) that have been together for ever as my example.
Good Luck!!!
2006-07-23 00:49:25 · answer #3 · answered by snshnbtrflis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a big step that you are thinking of taking and to me i can detect that you don't want to rush into marrying your children's father.
If for some reason there is some doubt in your thinking about marrying him think things through. Listen to your gut feelings and decide from there.
In the end you hold the key to decide to marry him or not and your family history of divorce is a good start to be cautious.
2006-07-23 00:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love this man enough to have a kid with him and then he stayed with you; thats love, a lot of guys would have run off, but not your man. Girl you have it made, you've had it made for six years and you didnt even know it. Your souls are already married, now you just have to do it legally. If you think that one little piece of paper is going to ruin the cloud you've been living on for six years, you gotta another think coming. SIX YEARS!!!!!!!! I am very happy for you.
2006-07-23 00:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by Ca2Ga 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl..sounds to me you have doubt...
6 yrs. is quite a long time....if you were fine with the way things are...why change it? What does your dude say..does he want to get it on paper now?
What does it really matter? You love him and he loves you..simple as that
2006-07-23 01:01:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no guarentee to wheather it will last but dont you want to go to heaven rather go to hell for living in sin why not make it right in GODS eye sight good luck
2006-07-23 00:48:15 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide that. Trust in your heart,if you truly love him, then marry him.
2006-07-23 00:46:47 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun your your own person, do what you feel is right not only for you but for your son....i would do it if you really love him and wanna be with him and only him...what does he wanna do though? you gotta ask yourself that question too....
2006-07-23 00:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by mandadapanda_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me no speka da marriage!!!!!! Good luck, whatever you decide.
2006-07-23 00:58:19 · answer #10 · answered by ucyimadiva 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋