I terminated a pregnancy one month ago, should I tell my fiancee when he gets back from Lebanon?

Answer 1

why even tell him. i mean whats done is done, so why tell him. you didnt tell him you were pregante so why inclue him now, the only reason i would think of telling him is to get attention. with everything going on over there why even bring it up, he doesnt need to know.

Answer 2

Tough question...

Running on the assumption that this was the child resulting from time with your fiance, he may take it negatively when he finds out, and one way or another, he will probably learn (not through poking around but just over the course of time, difficulties in life seem to come to the surface).

I say that he may take it negatively because if he was the father, he would probably have liked to be in on such a decision (it takes two to tango even if only one ends up pregnant). The law does not require it of course, but relationships are built on mutual trust and this involves decision-making.

He may view the abortion as a theft of his opportunity to be a father.

On the other hand, not telling him creates a secret between the two of you that may erode your relationship. If you have a close relationship with his mother, it might be helpful to speak with her first and perhaps have her present should you choose to inform him. Pastors are also often helpful in such situations...

Answer 3

Yes. Your personal privelage is to keep your private life to yourself or turn it perhaps into a personal secret. You will always know, but being 'left out' over time will magnify the betrayal if you slip or decide years in the future. Its the harder choice but its also a potential constructive act if you both have the maturity to deal with it together now rather than later. If you feel endangered then protect yourself and move on.

Answer 4

honesty will be the best. It would wear you down and take unnecessary energy in guilt and wear on you. I wish you the best and there is support groups out there if you need one. It may help with your decision to tell your fiancee

Answer 5

You bet your butt you should..specially if it's his! You may not get a kind reaction, since he may have wanted to have the child, but it's worse not to tell him at all and him possibly finding out later on somehow. Believe me because I have had a family member in the same situation.

Answer 6

Ahhh...if you didn't care enough to share it with him at the time, then I think this is one of those things that is better left not shared.

First, there's nothing that he can do about it now. Second, you didn't feel the need to get his opinion before you did it. Third, if your only goal is to torture him..this would be the way to do it.

Answer 7

Yes. If it was his child you need to tell him. Imagine if you were a man and your partner who you're going to marry aborted your child, wouldn't you feel it was your right to know? Well have a say in it too, but it's a little late for that now isn't it?

Answer 8

No !!! What good will it do, the deed is already done. Know, if you like rubbing salt into an open wound, Go for it !!! You know when he finds out the marriage will be called off....

Answer 9

If you didnt, starting off the marriage with a secret as big as that (or any bad secrets for that matter) could make for a pretty lousy future...

Answer 10

Assuming it was his baby; Let me get this straight you killed his unborn child and you wanna know if you should tell him hmmmmm MAYBE you should of asked his opinion First that is if you even care for him at all.

Answer 11

Good luck and remember don't let anyone beat you up physically or emotionally over it. No one can walk in your shoes.