I was with this guy for four months. While we were together he could never make up his mind whether or not he wanted to be with me. But we were together at least once a week if not more.My daughter became attached to him and he adored her(so he said).It is not like i did not know him before this. We went to school together and were friends before this happened. But anyways, i had been dicussing with him about moving and how i wanted to get my life in order and he helped with the dession to move. Since I have moved the conversations have been short and about nothing. He also knew that I had fallen in love with him. And now i am not sure how to talk to him and what to talk to him about. Any Advice would help?
2006-07-22 17:04:56 · 4 answers · asked by mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is no way to let yourself be treated! He got what he must have wanted from you? He helped make this decision, WHY? You say the conversations are short and about nothing/ Well, do you not see the writing on the wall? It is likely he does not want the type of relationship you want! Your daughter may be attached to him, however my friend married a guy, who ended up murdering her daughter! You are a Mom and that takes a lot of hard work and love, along with your example! It is not so important to have a man in your life, he will not give you what you need to give yourself! Improve your life, stick with that, learn from it, The life you live with your child is more important, than what you may think, use this time for Quality Time! Why do you want to be with someone that can not decide what he wants? I think that would cause crazy making in your and your daughter's life.
What would you tell a friend if they asked you the same thing, do you know?
Keep your path on the POSITIVE LANE, waste no time on someone like this guy. He is not good for you as far as I can tell by reading your IDEAS PLEASE. All the best to you !
2006-07-22 17:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by my4dogs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you made the decision for him by moving. By your description above, he seemed to be on the fence about your relationship...which in "man language" is he really wasn't that interested in you. It's a shame your daughter got involved so early and got attached. I have a friend who's a single mom and she doesn't even introduce her daughter to her dates/boyfriends until or unless it's a solid relationship. I'm sorry to say this isn't the guy for you. You say you moved to get your life in order, now is the time to do that. But without him. Focus on you and your daughter and being the best person and mom you can be. The rest will fall into place if you do that. Be strong and know no man is worth losing yourself or daughter. And later on when you meet another man (and you will) take it slow and make sure he's committed to know you and meet your needs as well as your daughters. Best of luck.
2006-07-22 17:13:51 · answer #2 · answered by ShellRe' 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me like the relationship is starting to fizzle out. i wish there was something else i could say but that seems to be the truth. if u really love this guy than try to make it work but otherwise, maybe it's time to think about a new guy. relationships are hard especially long distance ones, if u don't think that ur relationship is strong enough to last then maybe it isn't meant to be. i'm sorry that your daughter got attached to him if u guys break up because she might miss him, but u have to follow ur heart and do what u think is best 4 u. when the conversations start to turn into meaningless one word comments, that is a sign that if something doesn't change, the relationship will end. i do wish u the best of luck with everything.
2006-07-22 17:13:51 · answer #3 · answered by Joe'z 1st luv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to move on and find someone who would care about you
2006-07-22 17:10:02 · answer #4 · answered by big jack 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋