I am with the father of my 6 month old son and its kinda an on again off again relationship. I care for him yes but there is also another man who i was with before i was with my babies daddy. The only reason me and this other guy are not together still i because he moved 650 miles away. Now as of now i am on the phone with the other guy and my babies daddy is with a female friend of ours. What would be the best alternitive. Stay here and work it out for the baby or move 650 miles away to be with the other guy or just say screw them both and do the alone thing. No matter what someone is getting hurt.
2006-07-22 17:02:16 · 5 answers · asked by Angie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ask the baby's father if he is willing to make the commitment to keep you and the baby and love the two of you for as long as he is alive. He should not have gone to another woman because that is adultery. Only God can make that kind of judgment, but that is what I see based on what you're telling me. If he will not make the commitment, then pray and ask God, through Jesus' Name, what you should do. Sometimes His answer is in the Bible, so I would pick one up if you don't have one. As for the friend 650 miles away, if the father wants to make the commitment, keep the friendship and let your boyfriend get to know him. Sometimes, it's unavoidable to hurt someone, but if you stay in limbo like this, the one who will be hurt is going to be you. I admit, it's something I wouldn't put my child through when I have one. I pray that everything works out for you.
2006-07-22 17:10:51 · answer #1 · answered by jmbarcus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you already have the only man in your life now and that is your son. Put your son first,not yourself,think of his needs. Once you have a kid,its not about you anymore,it's about your kids. Trust me,if things are meant to work out with the father of your baby,they will and they always do just don't force it. Devote yourself to your son and you will be glad that you did and so will he. So you are right by saying do the alone thing. My sister is a single mother right now with a four year old son and has been for three years,but it seems like she has a different boyfriend every month. She puts her needs before his and it is going to bite her in the butt and it already has. He has become an angry little man now,and he will always be as long as she keeps this up. He doesn't listen to her and when he comes to my house or my mom and dads he does't want to leave because he is so mad at his mom fo putting him second. But I think you have the right idea,do the alone thing,you will be glad you did. Goodluck!
2006-07-22 17:19:54 · answer #2 · answered by tjoe1980 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to do what's best for you and the baby. That's the most important thing you should be thinking about. To ask if you should go with this one or that one will not help you. Make that decission on your own. The baby should be your first consideration !!!
2006-07-22 17:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to do what makes you happy. Don't stay with your baby's dad if your not happy with him.
2006-07-22 17:08:13 · answer #4 · answered by jo27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so wrong. u are selfish. u have a kid his future comes first. which guy would make the better influence on him do it now before he sees the fights and seperations and all that drama. good luck!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-22 17:11:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋