I have been with this guy for 3 years I truely love him (he takes my breathe away, he makes me gitty, he's great in bed, he is my everything) but I know he'll never ask me to marry him...we've talked about it. Do I leave now or wasted more time, will he ever change his mind?
2006-07-22 16:57:18 · 21 answers · asked by elliott_tiffney 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You leave him immediately if you want to get married someday. You are not going to change his mind just by sticking around. In fact, the more you stay, the more he will get comfortable with the status quo which is not being married but getting to have sex without strings attached. You are playing games with your own future.
So, how many more years do you want to waste? No more, if you ask me.
2006-07-22 17:03:09 · answer #1 · answered by truly 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It depends on whether or not marriage is a dealbreaker for you. If you know that you absolutely want to get married, then you need to leave. If you don't care if you get married and he makes you happy, then stay.
He's not going to change his mind as long as you stay. He has no reason to: he's got everything he wants from you and he's been completely honest about the fact that he will never ask you to marry him.
If you truly want to get married, then leave him. There is the possibility that if you leave, he will realize that he made a huge mistake and they he must pop the question for you two to stay together. However, you must be willing to take the risk that he won't and if you leave, that will be the end of it.
Good luck and I hope that things work out the way you want.
2006-07-22 17:04:49 · answer #2 · answered by stseukn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends on you and what you want also. I waited 3 years on one guy and after that long I walked away when one night he said there will never be a marraige between us. But if you are happy as things are without being married, then go for it. If in the end you are going to want / require marriage, then leave now before you get in more deep with the guy.
Again, i'ts a personal choice and what will make you happy.
2006-07-22 17:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't waste your time maybe later in life he'll figure what he's missing and come back to you. BUt DOn't waste your time if you see no progress at all. The whole point of dating is to find your true love and to find the person who feels the same way about you and wants to spend the rest of there life with you.
2006-07-22 17:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by aval_89 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is having marrige issues now it will not change. Trust me I know where you are coming from and it was a waste of my time. Dont waste your time sweetie move on. Moving on with just help you find someone that wants to marry you. You never know it might open his eyes to what he is missing if you break it off and he will come to you telling you that he never wants to be without you and will then want to marry you. Sometimes you just have to give men a slap of reality
2006-07-22 17:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by texashoneypot_25 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only setting yourself up for a heartbreak. If you want to waste time in your life that you can't take back then hey stay as long as you can with him. I don't think that he will ever change his mind because he knows that you know that he doesn't want to get married so why should he? Think about it girl!!!!!!
2006-07-23 05:38:22 · answer #6 · answered by cosmicC 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it may be (no sexual pun intended), I'd say you have to cut the cord soon. The longer you stretch it out the worse the eventual breakup will be.
It's truly doubtful a guy will chnage his mind. If things are not progressing after a year, it's really unlikely they will after 3, 5, 10, etc.
2006-07-22 17:29:47 · answer #7 · answered by fugutastic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though it'll hurt, you should just let it go. If marriage is something you want to do,your current bf wont provide that for you. You shouldnt waster your time and find someone else thats willing to marry you. Unfortunately those are things that should be clarified at the beginning of a relationship. Sorry
2006-07-22 17:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frist how old are you ? And you take him and sit down and talk about it i know a few poeple they stayed to gether 80 years kids of kids and they said there grandma and grandpa never got marryed . But if you really want to get marryed then leave hime and find someone that will after all you only live once
2006-07-22 17:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by ranger19802003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From a guy's point of view I can tell you he will NEVER change his mind. You're giving him everything he wants (by the sounds of things), so why should he. If you seriously want to get married, cut your losses and look for someone else.
2006-07-22 17:08:31 · answer #10 · answered by TheViking 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋