Around two years back, I dated an Indian girl from Kerala. She was here in Taiwan, and at my school, because her parents were doing business here. It was actually HER who chased after me. Well... everything soon became HELL, and it wasn't her fault or my fault at all.
So whose fault was it? Her culture's and her family's.
Honestly, I never found anyone more irritating than her parents...
1. They'd call the girl's cellphone every 5 minutes when we were on dates.
2. They'd seek to shorten our dates by always "coincidentally" scheduling doctor's appointments or family dinners just one hour after our dates began.
3. They suspected me at every turn; no, they never confronted me directly, but they gave their own daughter a hard time about it...
Honestly, if they were opposed to our relationship, then they should have COME RIGHT OUT with their opposition. But nooo, they beat around the bush....
2006-07-22 16:15:46 · 9 answers · asked by Metternik v 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
And when I finally confronted them, they slyly slid away, saying "eh, it's just that I'd be more comfortable if, blah blah blah".
They were NEVER direct; they would NEVER give a straight answer. And since they were so slippery, there was simply NO way to have a proper debate over cultural values or reason. I'd have been willing to compromise with their culture, but there was NO WAY to *communicate* with them!
The girl was a puppet to her parents too, and they easily led her around like a dog on a noose.
So, in the end, we broke up.
And for the first and last time, I sent her parents an INSULTING E-MAIL in which I listed all my grievances and denounced them as the worst beasts ever.
And, ah, the sky cleared and I felt relieved.
2006-07-22 16:17:40 · update #1
Finally, I'm not even American. I'm CHINESE, in Taiwan. My own parents thought of the girl's parents as being "laughable idiots".
So what's my question, again?
Well, tell me if you've ever heard about a relationship with an Indian girl working out. I can't imagine such a pairing lasting for long.
2006-07-22 16:18:46 · update #2
I think you jugding the whole indian culture is just snobby on your part. I am an Indian and my cousin is married to a japanese guy and another one is married to a british guy. I myself have open minded parents who allow me to make my own decisions. I had boyfriends in the past who were caucasian and also african americans. My parents never disapproved of either of them . The girl you dated just might have the misfortune of getting such untrusting parents. but that does not give you the right to point fingers at the whole indian culture. I hope you think twice before you make such comments about other peoples' culture. In my opinion you my friend are prejudice. Thats right I said prejudice.
2006-07-22 16:52:38 · answer #1 · answered by ratel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have a very dear friend who is dating an indian girl (he is white), and they are seriously considering an eventual marriage. Her family lives in the states, her parents approve of the relationship, and in fact her father is the dean at the college where they both attend.
2006-07-22 23:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by sarah s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's just going to depend on finding a tolerant family. No reason not to keep trying, if you prefer Indian girls, but just know that there may be those same battles until you find those that are able to rise above cultural/traditional boundaries and accept you.
2006-07-22 23:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Madame Gato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so cause my best friend used to date a girl from Iritrea and it didn't work out cause she always had to sneak around and I'm sure his relationship was the same as yours is but thats what made her start sneaking around. This reminds me of the movie Mississippi Masala with Denzel Washington.
2006-07-23 00:01:51 · answer #4 · answered by truthbetold 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is in all religion, being chinese u should know. Its hard for a chinese girl to date others as well. Regardless u shouldnt point out any religions in this manner. (may be learn from this and get a chinese girl)
2006-07-22 23:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by sk1295 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Parents are always overprotective of daughters, especially in certain cultures. She won't be under their thumbs forever. If it is true love, it will work out..keep the faith :o)
2006-07-22 23:20:36 · answer #6 · answered by grumpycarebear05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a releationship with someone from India once. The parents did not interfere.
2006-07-22 23:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by Cas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a indian girl who married a polish guy.
But yeah, if you do not like the parents, you better stop dating the girl b/c she will turn out just like them. :)
2006-07-22 23:18:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you like smelly
2006-07-22 23:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by jokedrugs 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋