I was just wondering how you know your in love? Is there more than one kinda love? I know this guy and I can't stop thinking about him. We talk just about every night but when we aren't talking or together he is always on my mind. Does this mean I love him? I know that I'm young and people say that us teens don't know what love is and wont know until we grow older is this true? Do I just think I might be in love but it only be a thing? I mean I have known this guy for a year now but we have only been talking nonstop for 7-8 months the first few months we only talked some. But anyway I was just wondering how you can tell if its the real thing or if its just a thing. I would so love your help!
2006-07-22 15:53:41 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There are carnal attractions: there is lust, there is "brotherly/sisterly" love and there is agape--God-ordained love: that is spiritual. It is where you meet the man whose missing rib you have inside you. That is not discerned physically. You need to know if the man loves animals, is comfortable around all types of people, is not conceited, patient, kind, unselfish and caring about other people. It helps if both of his parents were married when he was born and it helps even better if they are happily married. Those are more important than the Hollywood entertainment models. Notice they end up with multiple divorces.
Boaz.
2006-07-22 16:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by Boaz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a "crush," which is strong attraction to someone. Love comes only after you've had several tests and when you become mature enough:
Can you stand the sight of the person and love that person despite that bad breath upon waking up in the morning? Can you overlook his annoying habits? Do you feel joy everyday knowing you're going home after work to the same person year in and year out? Can you be totally comfortable and be yourself around this person? Do you truly, truly enjoy talking, laughing and even being silent with this person? How would you deal with major differences of opinion on the subject of money, kids, and running the household.
Would you be willing to take care of this person if he is injured, becomes a paraplegic and needs your constant care? Can you forgive this person when he hurts you because inevitably he will because whether intentionally or not, people hurt one another. Are you willing to work hard and put all of your focus into making the relationship work because it will take focus and commitment through good times and bad times.
That's what you need to think about...and that is why when you're in your teens, parents and elders always say, "you're too young to know what love really is."
2006-07-22 23:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone is on your mind doesn't mean its love. It could be lust. Love is developed after a while of knowing a person,their flaws,and things that make them a great person.
You definitely could think your in love but it could be your mind decieving your heart. Don't overthink the situation. Be all seeing in it,and know what your getting yourself into. Does he return the feelings? Where do you think this relationship if any evident will lead you?
Talking is talking. Anyone can talk and have a civilized conversation.
Involve yourself more into depth about what this could be,not what you could assume your heart thinks of it. Your mind never fails your heart does at times.
2006-07-22 23:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by Ellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that is an interesting question. It could be the beginnings of a lifelong love affair... but only time will tell. It could be only infatuation... again time will tell. The important thing is that while you are trying to determine, don't have sex... save that for marriage and the one you get married to. If he is pushing you to have sex, then watch out, that should be a red flag. They say that guys give love to get sex and girls give sex to get love, and it is basically true... so if you let the relationship mature without the sexual thing happening, that is the best way to find out if it is a lasting friendship not based upon the physical. If he respects you and you respect him, you will both save yourselves for marriage. I know some people say this is old-fashioned, but believe me it will save a lot of tears and heartache if practiced. Have fun, but don't sin!
2006-07-22 23:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by skypiercer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it is the real thing you will know it and not have to ask. The feelings you describe you will feel many more times in your lifetime and it sounds like a crush and the simple thing of someone paying attention to you. this is also basis for a great friendship and yes you can and do love your friends. Sometimes you fall in love with them but mostly you just love them and are glad they are around.
2006-07-22 22:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by CANDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thought iwas in love when i was in that same situation as you...now i'm not saying your not in love...this was me. in the same situation i couldn't wait to talk to him...couldn't wait to see him..he always said the right things, he was perfect...i thought it was love until he turned out to be a jerk....that was four years ago. I now know it was just lust or something. I now know the feeling of true love...when he puts you first...when after 3 years he still puts butterflies in your stomach...when you feel like its been forever since youve talked to him ands it's only been 10 minutes, when you see him smile and it gives you the greatest joy...those are things i feel with my boyfreind. Love is definetly a feeling.
2006-07-22 23:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by blueyeshy1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tricky question...
In your situation, I wouldn't say that it is love or that it isn't love. Since you are younger, I would suggest that you just enjoy it.
There is no need to put a label on it, just enjoy the feeling, and enjoy his company and conversations.
If it's true love, you'll find out as time goes on.
There isn't a way to tell if it's love or not, you just know.
Take my suggestion....Enjoy it!! =)
2006-07-22 23:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by chic_sag79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom said you don 't know what love is until you get hurt. I kinda think she was right :o( However, I think love is mutual, the two of you can't stand to be without each other, you two respect each others thoughts and opinions and most importantly you can talk to each other about ANYTHING without judgement.
2006-07-22 22:57:56 · answer #8 · answered by annarenee83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love does exist. you know you're in love when what would make you happy is seeing the other person you like happy. Whether with you or someone else. I've been there and trust me, once that happens, it's love. Love is not about how the person looks or how they act, it's about who they really are inside.
2006-07-22 23:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by bigjeffrey83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to chic_sag79. She is right. Just enjoy what you have. Love is defined different by all. We each have our button that we can't wait to get pushed. Sounds like your's has been pushed.
2006-07-22 23:06:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋