Hi - I've just found out i'm 4 weeks pregnant. I told my partner of 3 years and he took it rather well.
The thing is we've just finished building our first home and there is probably another 4 months of renovations to go then we'll be finished.
My partner doesn't think we'll be financially stable in 9 months to have the baby... WHat should i do....
2006-07-22 15:51:58 · 33 answers · asked by vixen4ubaby 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ONE MORE THING FOR ALL THOSE PEOPLE TAKING MY QUESTION OUT OF CONTEXT
I want this baby - My partner doesnt think we're ready. Im not pitiful thankyou - just confused - i would never pick a house over a baby - just rememver that for all you pessimists
2006-07-22 16:12:02 · update #1
By the way - my partner and i both work FULL TIME!
This wasnt planned as i was on the pill - Im just confused
2006-07-22 16:13:40 · update #2
start a small saving account maybe 20 bucks every paycheck, buy in bulk like pampers and formula. Get everything you need ahead of time,whatever you can. Throw a babyshower it is a good way that people can help you. Ask your doctor about the wic program also if you qualify you get free formula.
2006-07-22 16:17:02 · answer #1 · answered by nani 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If your 4 weeks pregnant don't worry, having a baby is a blessing to anyone. Go ahead and finish your house and I'm sure your husband and you know some poeple who will help you out. Just be carefull and don't lift anything heavy and take a easy. Just think after your house is done you could put a nursery together for your newborn. And if your partner doesn't think your not going to be financially stable with in 9 months, then now is a good time to sit down the both of you and have a talk. you never know 9 months from now you might be stable enough to have your baby. If you believe in GOD then you have nothing to worry about. If ther is a GOD then ther is a way. Trust me you guys will do fine, just take one step at a time and you'll be glad to know you were worrying for nothing.
2006-07-22 16:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by navajonationlove 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out I was pregnant while I was in my last semester of High School. My boyfriend was 6 years older then me and took it rather badly when I told him. After trying to decide what I would do, I knew the only thing that felt right to me was to keep the baby. So I did. My Ex and I are no longer together, but we have a beautiful baby boy that is the light of my life. He will be turning two soon.
When I found out we were living together in a one room TINY apartment and didn't have any plans of moving. When Rowan was born we stayed there, our son got our bedroom and we slept on a bed we put in the living room. It was well worth all of the things we had to give up. Being pregnant is not about being ready, it's about giving the life that you created the best you are able to give. If only by giving it life and a family that will be able to raise it. It's your choice ulitmately, Myself or anyone else here has no right to tell you what you should or shouldn't do...just do what your heart tells you. I'm pro-life, either be willing and ready to be a mommy or let another couple who have been waiting and trying for a long time have their dream come true. It's win win either way.
2006-07-22 16:00:51 · answer #3 · answered by khyia_dyrania 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one is ever financially stable enough to have a baby....lots of people use that as an excuse to wait and not have babies. Take my word for it as a mother of 3 teenagers, you will never have enough money for everything they want or everything they think they need. Love and a good home life is what matters more. You have been given a gift from God, albeit an unexpected and unplanned gift....enjoy the gift and be thankful.
2006-07-22 15:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by nitab_7260 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice have your baby even if it wasn't planned.Your house will be ready in 4 months so you both have plenty of time and you both work full time which is another bonus and even if you were home you always will have money because you will do everything for your baby.And you will see when your baby will be born your husband will melt and he will instantly fall in love now thats just plain talking from him but wait he will change and become the most loving father
2006-07-22 16:25:26 · answer #5 · answered by m41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you dont think you will be finacially stable you can get some help. Try to get on WIC and Medicade. These help out alot.
If you get WIC it will help big time on formula but if you breastfeed it will be alot cheaper. Diapers are alot cheaper than what you think. I get my diapers from teh dollar store and they are the best I have gotten they dont leak and they are onlyl 7 bucks.
But you can start putting a little bit of money aside now from every paycheck and by the time you have your baby you will be set for at least a few months.
Congratulations and Good Luck
2006-07-22 16:03:47 · answer #6 · answered by catherine b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your partner about raising the baby, if he doesn't have any answer about that. You have to think that maybe that baby will help you in the near future, but share to him your thoughts of having a baby and making it his son, isn't it nice to have a son.
Maybe he thinks that the baby will disturb him from building your house, but hey that's what mom are. Taking care of the baby, but life goes on and the baby grows up he/she will thank you for the hard work from nine months carrying the baby with pain.....thanks.
2006-07-22 16:01:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what ANYONE says to you the best thing you can do is sit down and think of the joy you will feel when you hold the baby in your arms, and see it looking back at you. A baby is the most precious thing in the world. Once he/she grows up it will always love you. That is the most rewarding thing in the world. Everything will be fine. Don't worry. Good luck.
2006-07-22 16:02:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a responsible concern and one Im sure the two of you can solve. If you are building your own home together than that already shows that you two can work as a team in a stressful but exciting situation, I dont think you really need our help hon, you both can handle this one, but for the record, I think you both will enjoy being parents. Congrats and good luck!
2006-07-22 15:58:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So the question is which is more important? A child you are having together >or renovations on a house? ... if you can't figure that out you shouldn't own a home or have a baby! Pitiful, absolutely pitiful
2006-07-22 15:56:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about the baby? Do you want to let it go? List down how you feel for about having the baby as compared to not having it. Whichever list weighs more, go for that.
Personally though, if I am in your shoes, I'd keep the baby because no next babies can ever replace the one you have now. But, that's just me.
I do hope you get to a decision that will be healthy and good for all concerned.
Good luck. Ask God for guidance. :)
2006-07-22 15:57:37 · answer #11 · answered by Jo Ann 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋