I want to hurt myself?

Question

but at the moment my 6mnth old son is stopping me. I hate my partner I want to move back to my countrybut am not sure what is best for my son. Should I just leave him here with his father

Answer 1

If you are thinking that the physical pain will make the emotional pain more bearable you need to remember that is only temporary. Please go see your doctor for your baby's sake. Focus your energy on your son and don't leave him. Talk to your partner if that is possible. If he loves you, he will be concerned. But go see a doctor first and don't move back to the country until you do (unless there is a doctor out there). Good luck, and remember that after you make it through this hard time you will be that much stronger.

Answer 2

You don't give a lot of details, like what country are you speaking of? Are you married to your partner? Did you marry in the U.S. or over there? Why do you say you hate him?Is the child an American Citizen? This could be an immigration problem.

But for you, and your baby, I would first try talking, and if that doesn't work, start walking.
You sound like you're away from your family, and if the baby was born in the U.S., your mother maybe hasn't even seen her grandchild.
But don't leave the baby here. If he is being hateful, then he will use that against you in custody court. He can claim abandonment. You left the baby. You don't want that. Don't give him any ammunition to use against you.
Tell him you are going to visit family and friends and you'll be back in about 2 weeks. In some countries, the children are the property of the father. They belong to them. There can be legalities in your country, if you were married there. If you were married in the U.S., while gone, start the divorce proceedings, and when you come back, move to an apt. tell no one. Get help from a women's shelter if you are low on money, and he's abusive.
Living in a household that you hate the mate, isn't good for you or your baby.

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel, I hate my partner as well. It's a hard life, but hurting yourself is not the answer. I have thought of doing it myself many times, but in the end, I know that God does not forgive us for suicide and we live eternity in hell. I understand that you want to go back to your own country. It's easy to run away, but leaving your son behind is going to destroy you inside. You will never forgive yourself. The guilt will eat you alive. There's a lot of questions that need to be answered here. Is your partner abusive towards you or your son? Why is it that you hate him? Can you talk to him at all about the way you feel? Is counseling an option for the both of you? If you hate him because of things he has done, your not compatible anymore, or you just want out of the relationship, I would suggest talking to him. Tell him you no longer love him and you want to leave. Maybe he would let you take your son with you. I don't know, because I don't know him, so I'm just guessing. Or maybe you can move out on your own with your son. I wish you the best. I know I probably haven't been much help, but I'm sorry for you. I truly feel for you.

Answer 4

Why do you want to hurt yourself? You should get some professional help. Go see a counselor at your local mental health center. If your baby's father also has custody you may not want to take the baby out of the country you could be charged with child abduction. But first, get some counseling. If you feel you can not wait until Monday, then go to you local emergency room and tell them you are wanting to hurt yourself and that you need help now. Good luck.

Answer 5

look do not hurt yourself or your child look in your phonebook and call the help hot line , call your mom, call afriend, talk to the father of your child. you need to talk to your doctor for sure. i had a friend that killed her self after going in to deep depression after she had her daughter (5months old at the time) she also had a 2 yr and the stress on her was to much to handle. but that is ok it does not make you less of a person you just need special help. get on some meds and talk to someone. is there a friend or family member that can help with the baby or house work call them and let them help you throw this. i dont really know your reason or you but i can feel your pain just let people help you. do not leave your sweet child behind
good luck hope this help there is help out there if you want it i wish you all the best in your life and a big hug really helps.

Answer 6

Evaluate your situation. Is your partner really the only issue going on with you right now? The reason I ask is because if he is only a part of the problem then you will need to go where you have family or someone that can help you with your son while you seek the help you need.

Answer 7

I don't know what your problem really is, but you need to get help. Why would you want to hurt yourself? Especially with a little boy who depends on you completely. Maybe you need to find some psychological help in order to try and sort out your feelings and find out why you are feeling the way you are. There is nothing wrong with reaching out for help. It may be a physical problem that is affecting you emotionally. Get help, it's better than trying to hurt yourself. No one has to know, this kind of help in completely confidential. Life is beautiful, just look into your son's eyes and watch how his face brightens up everytime he sees his mommy. Good luck and God bless you. I will be praying for you. Take it one day at a time, one hour at a time, heck even one minute at a time if need be.

Answer 8

take some time alone and think about what you wanna do .get some rest .try different ways to talk to each other .after having a baby you need to find time to go on a date.go out every now and then and get a sitter.make sure the baby is with someone you trust .go visit your country.maybe you want to leave your family because of the way you grew up .Its a cycle that is hard to break.talk with a profesional.and dont hurt yourself take care of yourself so you can take care of the baby.

Answer 9

OK you should get some professional help. If you don't want to go home but take your son. Don't abandon him like all those other parents.

Answer 10

i have the same problem but without your son you wont be able to fonction take him with you or try to solved the problem talk with him tell him what is wrong dont ignore you realy need to try and try and try then go for your baby sake dont hurt yourselfe if you need somone i am here [e-mail]