I have also started having sex with his best friend. Is this a bad thing?
2006-07-22 15:29:16 · 20 answers · asked by Kat_21_1998 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Wow! Looks like your grieving was short, because you wasted no time in looking for another man.
2006-07-22 15:34:55 · answer #1 · answered by Grandpa Shark 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How awful. I'm so sorry for your loss and then for his betrayal. I can't imagine being in your shoes.
I think the first thing I would do is to pray. Forgiving him is going to be the only way that you will be able to get over what he's done and move on with your life. The bible says that when we refuse to forgive when we have been forgiven so much, we will be turned over to torment (bitterness). If you refuse to forgive him, in the end the bitterness will destroy you - as it is already leading you to make some bad decisions.
Jesus said to cast all our cares on Him. Release the pain to Him and allow Him to heal you. It may take some time to feel okay again, so be patient and pray constantly.
Read the Word and allow it to encourage you and guide you. At any Christian book store you can find a book called "God's Little Promises". It breaks down scripture into catagories such as finances, marriage, fear, etc. and gives you scripture to stand on while you are going through this mess.
Join a Christian divorce recovery group near your home. You'll find a trememdous amount of support and encouragement.
As far as having sex with the best-friend - STOP. That a very bad decision that will only make more pain for you to recover from. You have far too much emotionally to work through already. I know it's a quick fix for the pain you are feeling, but really it wont make the broken heart go away, it will only complicate your recovery.
The guy is a jerk anyway to be taking advantage of you in your situation. That relationship is going nowhere.
I'll be praying for you and for your healing.
God be with you.
2006-07-22 16:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by lilmissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well having sex with his best friend is not a good thing. It is just covering the wound that was left from you finding out that he cheated. Remember the good things about him. Life is too short to carry around the hate about this issue. Go out and get a new hair do or some new clothes, but stop having sex with his friend. Find yourself and then go looking for someone new.
2006-07-22 15:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's always hard finding out that your husband had been cheating on you. But he is now gone and you cannot confront him on this. Are you sure about this, or is it just what other people are saying? Why are you having sex with his best friend now? Are you trying to get back at him some way? You need help in order to get over this. Please get it before you continue going downhill. Good luck.
2006-07-22 15:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your husband is no longer here. He has gone to a better place. You can't hold a grudge against someone who is dead. It will destroy you. Try to move on with your life and remember the good times you had with him. If you don't, it will eat you alive. As far as sleeping with his best friend, well.... if that's what you want to do OR are you doing it so to get back at your husband? Think about it.
2006-07-22 15:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really nothing that you can do because if the relationship meant anything to u then you wouldnt be with his best friend right now BUT on the other hand its a good thing the BIG man got to him first because i would have beat the CRAP outta him had i known that then,get alimony, then *&^%'d his best friend.lol So no, it is not a bad thing.
2006-07-22 15:42:40 · answer #6 · answered by miss_kpo_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loved this man when he passed away let it go, it cannot be changed.
How long ago is recently and are you sleeping with his best friend as a way to get revenge for what you found out about him??
2006-07-22 15:36:17 · answer #7 · answered by jen473 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He gone now and there is nothing you can do or say to him so let that go on just forget it and leave his friend along and get you someone else cause you only making yourself look bad .It a lots of men out there why do you want his friend i know you can do better than his friend. Good luck.
2006-07-22 15:37:44 · answer #8 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to his grave site, and talk to him. tell him you are mad at him for that . even step on him. as for having sex with his best friend he would of want you to be happy. things happen for the for a reason sorry for your lost. you could always find out where the other women and kick her a s s,
2006-07-22 15:41:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgive, forget and move on. Having sex with his best friend is not a bad thing, as long as his best friend is single and available.
2006-07-22 16:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is only a "bad thing" if you don't care about the "best friend" and are doing it as a way of getting back at your dead husband.
About the dead dog: spit on his grave and move on. It's about you now. That "putting HIM first" was only till "death us do part."
2006-07-22 16:17:39 · answer #11 · answered by James@hbpl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋