What to do?

Question

My husband and I were having a big argument, and I have been going through postpartim depression, so I've been a little wacky. I was so upset that he went to my parents for advice. My sister is over there at the time. She didn't have her car so my husband gave her a ride home. My sister offers him to stay the night, or in fact stay the night anytime we are fighting. I think this is odd, because they barely know each other and she knows my husband does not like her cause she borrowed money from him and never payed it back. I thought this was in poor taste, and tacky, even though she claims she would have stayed with a friend if he had stayed at her house. Am I wrong? Also that same day I had asked her if I could stay with her, cause I didn't want to be alone. She said yeah, I guess, but had a put out look on her face, showed that she didn't really want me too. This was a mnth ago. Now I find out she is telling everyone I have always been nuts!

Answer 1

your definitely not nuts, sounds as though she was trying to make a move on him,

Answer 2

Well the number one mistake was that your husband got your family involved in your marriage. The number one rule should be, "don't let family into your marriage". (unless there is some form of abuse) Sounds to me like your sister has the hots for your hubby and I wouldn't trust her. She's not a very good sister to make an offer of letting your husband stay with her, plus telling people your nuts. She will find out one day what it's like to have postpartum depression. Honey, get yourself some help. Please, it's very important that you do this for the depression. Even taking medication for a little while will help you through it. You don't have to take it forever. Best of luck to you.

Answer 3

It all depends on how your relationship is with your husband before you had this argument. If things were perfect then maybe based on my own judgment is that your sister(if single and middle aged ready for commitment) then might be jealous of the fact that you have this relationship and when she sees you fighting in the "relationship" then she might feel that she would deserve a person that takes care of his wife.(I'm not trying to suggest anything but this is based on my own experiences). Now if you and your sister had a close relationship and there was no reason to suspect anything then she might just care for you and the fact that you do have this "relationship" and she wouldn't want to see it be ruined then by her offering the room, would she be doing what she felt needed to be done to help. But I don't think a sister should be defamation the character of her own blood.

Answer 4

I hope you are getting counseling/help for your PPD? And I would suggest that in the future, don't go to your sister for help until you are feeling better. Go to your parents or a close friend for help. And tell your husband that if he really needs to get away for some cool off time after a big fight, you would feel more comfortable if he were to go somewhere other then your sister's place.

Answer 5

You need to set the record straight with your sister. She is over-stepping her boundaries. If you and your husband have a fight, he shouldn't be staying anywhere but home. You two have to deal with your own issues. Talk to your husband and let him know how you feel about this. You should be able to talk about just about everything and anything. if you are suffering frm post-partem depression, your doctor should be able to prescribe something for you until you get over this hump. You need to leave family completely out of this, and try not to be so difficult to deal with.. Your husband probably went to your family trying to find some kind of solution to his problems. You may be making it completely difficult for him to deal with this issue. Take him to the doctor with you next time, so that he can understand what emotional and physical problems you are going through. Work this out with him. Your sister is another issue. I don't know how close you two are, but you need to speak to her.

Answer 6

Red flags baby, I have been married twice , now for over 20 years, and just because your sister is family that doesn't mean anything in today's society.You should have come first, that doesn't mean she had to be rude to your husband. It sounds to me she is jealous and is trying to start trouble. Be careful who you confide in. Also your husband shouldn't have offered her a ride home since you were upset.

Answer 7

think it is time to have a talk with your sister then your hubby this could end up like jerry springer if they step out of line with each other.
if this was your brother i would feel diffrent but it does sound a little fishy. i do not think your nuts and its hard to get your feeling back in order after having a child. has your sister ever stepped out of bonds with you before if so watch it. if not than talk to her calmly and find out whats going on. ? ing them with out just comeing out and saying it first see where things are then if u need to have a heart to heart with them both. talk to your mom she will have a little insight to shed on you. moms know there kids more than there kids realize. good luck been there with a friend my sis is on my side even when i am a bit crazy.

Answer 8

I hope you work out all your problems with your sister and husband! Good luck! What else can I say?

Answer 9

sounds like sibling rivalry? what is going on between your sister and you? your sister is not behaving like a sister should. is she jealous of your marriage? sorry to say but with a sister like that you certainly dont need any enemies.

Answer 10

sounds like 1 for jerry springer