this boyfriend makes me pay the bills. he has barley spoken to me or looked at me since we moved in together about a month ago. he is both verbaly and physically abusive but he has never really left a mark on. ( i dont bruse easy) im really stressing out because both of us just signed a year lease together and we got this apartment in a town 4 hours from my old place. what should i do about him?
2006-07-22 14:55:38 · 19 answers · asked by celicagirl587 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Get out. Whatever it takes. If you leave, you will be still legally liable for the lease payments, but no more so than he is.
He's a loser and he will make you one if you continue on in that environment.
You already have the job; go get a different place to live, even if it's a shelter for abused women.
2006-07-22 14:59:52 · answer #1 · answered by elaine_classen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is worth the mess you are in and deep inside, you know you are in a predicament. It is very humiliating and degrading to have someone treat you like your at a lower level than the dirt on the floor.
You also know deep down inside it is time for you to get out of the situation you are in or you would not have posted this question.
Plan carefully. Speak with the landlord and find out what your options are to get out of the lease. Sometimes you can get out of it. Sounds like you haven't lived their very long. You may be able to move and just pay the monthly rent until the apartment is re-rented. Negotiate with the landlord.
You should go back home where you came from or get a new start somewhere else. Dont call him, have no contact and ditch this dirt bag. DONT tell him where you are going. Out of sight out of mind. I did it once and you can do it too. Start over and forget he ever existed. He is a loser and you deserve so much better. Dont waste another day on him.
Wait until he is gone and pack your stuff and move quickly. Do not leave any important papers behind. Play the game until you can get out, then go.
2006-07-22 15:08:21 · answer #2 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend was abusive before you moved in together you made a mistake. He has low self esteem and that is why he puts you down and abuses you. He is bringing you down to his level. If you are paying all the bills and he won't work, kick him out. No one deserves to be treated that way. Call the cops if he hits you, have a PFA put on him then he can't live there. He moved you away from everyone to take more control of your life. Contact a hot line or shelter. Be safe, not a headline in the paper!
2006-07-22 15:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by onehjoy131 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he is not even considered a man, but a coward. Any man who puts a hand on a wonam is a f**king prick. I know you probably will think he can change, but he wont. You need to see about getting out of the lease and dumping his ***. You are too good for that. Just remember this, there is always somebody way more better than him who will treat you with the dignity and respect that you deserve. I hope all goes well with you. Much luck. Oh yeah, if he hits you, call the cops on his sorry ***!!!!!
2006-07-22 15:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of that is abuse, besides the undeniable fact that it must be the initiating of an abusive relationship. He somewhat sounds short tempered and a delusional jerk from you you're telling me. Is he constantly like this? Is he dealing with any own problems or hardships? perhaps stress from college/paintings or kinfolk subjects? i could wait a pair days and supply him a decision. Ask if each and every thing's been ok these days. As for him insulting your loved ones, sit down with him whilst each and every thing's calm and tell him the form you sense whilst he does that. courteously clarify which you do no longer savor him disrespecting your loved ones like that. If he nonetheless acts like this... then perhaps it's time to look for a clean boyfriend. You deserve greater effective. desire this helps! xo
2016-12-10 12:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by weissinger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im really sorry. Ok he needs to appreciate you and i dont think he does if hes abusing you..He doesn't appreciate that you pay the bills and you do everything..unless he gets his act together ...unless he gets a job and starts to love you more and appreciate you more ...You need to leave him!!!!Im really sorry..But where is the relationship going if hes abusing you and and he hasn't looked at you or spoken to you in a month....????? you need to think about whether he is worth working hard paying the bills and stressing out ....You can email me if you want ...curlyrayray411@yahoo.com...............
2006-07-23 11:16:57 · answer #6 · answered by Riz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey Hun yea i used to have a Boyfriend with that same exact problem.. i don't bruise easy either i was with him for 5 years but after the 3 he easily could hit me with out hesitation turns out he was cheating on me but all we had to do was sit down and talk i wish now i would have did that a long time ago i pry would not have took it as hard.. so just sit down and have a talk about whats been going threw his mind about the situations
2006-07-22 15:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Throw his A** out ...period ....His beatings will only get worse .......abuse like that is his issue not yours ....he only feels better about himself when he hurts others.....there is no future in a relationship that involves abuse of any kind.....you don't need him !!! Many state agencies will help you with funding until your on your feet and can afford the apt alone or find another roommate. I have been where you are...... I know its scary at first to go it alone but its times like this that will make you stronger and a better woman....oh and next time he goes to hit you tell him come see me because I will put him down in a heartbeat!
2006-07-22 15:09:07 · answer #8 · answered by italianbadgirl_giah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of the boyfriend! FAST! Before he does something worse than bruise you. Talk to your landlord to see if the lease can be terminated under the circumstances you are experiencing. If not, kick his a$$ to the curb and get one of your girlfriends or another family member to move in with you. Good Luck
2006-07-22 15:01:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there... get out asap. Be prepared for stalker activity. Get counseling to help you through this. Girls like us don't realize how much trouble we're in until it's too late. Don't tell him your plans or warn him. Get everything in line and then make a clean break, don't look back. You're just asking for trouble if you tell him what you're doing.
2006-07-22 15:25:13 · answer #10 · answered by 4 Eyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋