I want to leave home but i dont know what to do?

Question

I'm 18 years old right now, but i have 1 more year of high school to go. My graduating class is 2007. I'm starting to feel bored out a home. I feel as though my parents are running my life even tho im 18. They wont let me have a cell fone, use the internet and even talk to girls because they think its not the time to do so.

I feel really hopeless because i cant do anything about it. I have like limited amount of freedom. I dont even know what is the first thing i have to do if i do leave out of the house. Should i discuss with my parents even though i hate them for how they are running my life?

Do I have to take with my birth certificate, social security, and passport or anything like that? There are so many questions I want to ask but I'm just confused at the moment now. So i was wondering is there any advice anyone can give to me because i really need to make a decision even though it may be right nor wrong. Thank you.

And also i have a girlfriend and her family just bought a house. I told her my problem and she is letting me come to live with her. As for a job, i have saved mad cash. So wat is there to do? I have money, i have place to stay should i go for it?

Answer 1

Relax your parents are trying to protect you not ruin your life. Also consider these things cost money, do they have the funds to afford a cell phone and isp bills? 18 is not so old you have years and years ahead.

You should be focused on your education so that you can be able to get out of your parents house. Let's face it without a good job and some money you leave your parents house and go where.... and do what.....with what money.

Always think of it this way After you pack your stuff, tell your parents what you think of them and walk out the door, what will you do and where will you go. Until you can answer these questions, stay put and get to work on those answers.

You could try talking to your parents but in a mature fashion if you go telling them they are ruining your life you will sound like the little kid you are trying to convince them you are not. Have a rational discussion with them and perhaps some ground rulls could be set up like a computer in the family room so they could keep an eye on what you are doing. I know but it is the only compromise you have to offer. If you start to act mature and responsible perhaps they will treat you in the same way.

Answer 2

I don't think that you should move out right now only for the sheer fact that you have one year of high school left. I would talk to your parents about how you feel and that you feel that they are being too strict. Is there a reason that they are being this way? Have you gotten into trouble in the past for them act this way? If there isn't a specific reason than I think the only reason they are doing this is that they don't wanna see you grow up and they are just trying to hold on to you childhood a little longer. Explain to them that you are going to be a senior in high school, you are going to be applying to colleges this year.

This last year in high school you are really going to need your parent's support with everything. And the thing with the cell phone, you are 18 so you can just go out and get a cell phone if you want to; they can't tell you that you can't as long as you pay your bill for it.

But just talk to them about it and give them time and if they just can't handle it then I guess move out. But do not move in with your girlfriend, get your own place. You don't know if you and your girlfriend could break up in the future and plus you dont even know if her parents are okay with it.

Answer 3

Sounds like your parents are overprotective. Mine were. They may mean well, but it makes you rebel sometimes and you want to run the other way.

Stick it out. It's not the end of the world if you can't use a cell phone? What did we do when we didn't have them? We made out just fine. You can still talk to your friends when you are on the bus, at school, after school and at home on the home phone if they will let you. As for the internet, you can always use one at the library (they all have them). And girls, well, you have the rest of your life to date. Remember, you are young. You are just 18. I know right now it seems like the end of the world with all these restrictions, but it's not. Trust me, moving out is the last thing you want to do (unless you are in an abusive situation). Then you do want to proctect yourself. Depending on where you live rent can be mighty expensive and if you work with no experience you may get minimum wage (probably not enough to cover the rent let alone the electric bill, gas bill, groceries, transportation, phone, etc.). You get the picture?

Just stick it out. One more year is not so hard. Use this year to plan where you want to be in one year--college? working? Take advantage of your safe haven at home and do all you can to get educated enough to have the skills to have a good job--if that means college than do it. Because once you are on your own, it's tough financially. If I had to do it all over again, I would live with my folks as long as I could and work to save money for a house while I was there. That's the best scenario. May take you a while, but it would be worth it. Also, work to get skills--can't say it enough. Life is hard enough with a degree yet without one it is tough to get a good paying job. So really think about your future this next year. Don't let money keep you from going to college. If you work for a good company (pharmaceutical, medical company, etc.) most offer tuition reimbursement which means you work for them, and decide to go to school at night, they will pay for your tuition and books so long as you get a C grade or higher (passing grade). But you have to go to school and take something that relates to your current position or future position. For example I took Business Marketing because I was in a Marketing Department. That's how I got through college.

Good luck.

Answer 4

Stay home and finish school. Get a part time job so you can get your own cell phone and have spending money to date or what not and set 10% aside to save for moving out AFTER you graduate. You can't do much with out a HS diploma and finishing school will be a lot harder if you have to worry about rent and food too. It's just one more school year make the best of it. Start applying to colleges and working on financial aid.... save the 10% for a used car and insurance. Just don't make some rash decision and end up sorry you did. They will really have you by the short hairs if you make some big , bold moving out gesture then have to come crawling back.

Answer 5

If you are only 18 and even HAVE a passport then I say you have pretty good parents and need to stay put. Do you have a job? Money? How will you eat? Do you know what its like to live on the streets and in a homeless shelter? Your parents are trying to protect you because so many kids your age become uncontrollable once they are given freedom such as a cell phone, etc. Its because they love you and I think its high time that you start realizing that before you leave home and get yourself killed.

Answer 6

First of all, you should finish school before you move out. Atleast if you move out, try finding a friend who you can live with until you finish school. It is not all that great being out on you own without an education. You will need all the things you mentioned. You will also need a job, house,electricity, water, food. Are you fully prepared to do all that. By the way, as long as you live with your parents, they do have the right to tell you what you can can't do. That is just life...Good Luck.

Answer 7

Leaving home and running away are different things.
If you want to be an adult, act like one. You are old enough to move out so tell your parents you are going to. One day, sooner or later you were going to have this conversation right? So, do it. Just get firm, say I am ready to go and I am going here. You need all of your personal identification because it should be in your posession as an adult.
Never say you hate your parents for running your life, that's their job and they did the best they could but you are ready to move out so go for it. Keep in touch with your parents and you may be suprised how your relationship with them could change (for the better) once you have grown up, moved out and are responsible.

I know it seems tough and confusing but you are old enough to do what you feel is best for you. Just remember that your parents will always be your parents.

Answer 8

In general to get an appartment you need to proove you've held a job since at least 6months and can fully pay for it, unless you bribe them or something(there's always corruption). You absolutely need your birth certificate and your social security(that's a must).Living on your own without a room-mate can be quite pricey and well a part-time job while you're in school probably won't allow you to support yourself, as hard as it could be staying at home for you, I would still advice you to do it until you get at least your high school diploma, then thing could clear up, you could go to college elsewhere and live on campus then your parents won't have so much power on your life.
Good luck

Answer 9

Stay home and have your parents send you to college. You'll get an education and freedom at the same time. Although it does sound like they are overly protective, remember that it won't last much longer. Living at your girlfriend's house is probably a mistake, It could really ruin your relationship with her.

Answer 10

wow that is the saddest thing i have ever heard
dude u NEEDsome freedom mi liitle bro has a cell can go on the internet he has more freedom than u
go to a friends house with out them knowing
get a job show them ur responsiable