I'm dying and need some advice before i die.?

Question

I am dying from cancer and no one but my husband knows. I have recently gotten into an argument with my side of the family. I have no intion of tellin them i am dying nor do i want to reconcile. I do not want them at my funeral, to even know when i die, or around my daughter/husband after i am gone. How can i ensure that they pay for what they have done and realize the conseequences of their actions?

What they did is so horrable it isn't to be mention, all you need to know is they did something to scare my family and destroy my 9 MONTH OLD DAUGHTER. Something they can, should, and will be arrested for.

OK every one is telling me to forgive my family....i think you should know they molested my daughter when i was 6 months old and lied about it being a neighbor...i can't possibley forgive that....I don't know how any one could!

Sorry I wasn't molested my DAUGHTER was. when she was 6 months old. Also she was hospitalized because of it.

Answer 1

First off, let me say how sorry I am that you are going through this. Second, if you are truly intent on your family paying for what they did, you can always have a lawyer hold a notarized letter explaining what they did and the names of any and all who can verify this information. A lawyer will know what you need to do to carry out the proper procedure to prosecute them. Contact him early so he has plenty of time to get everything in place. If you don't want them around you in your final days, that is your choice, but you should try to come to terms with it yourself before you die. Good Luck and God Bless.

Answer 2

I am extremely sorry about your circumstances. I know life often seems unfair. Since you know about the disease, you have been given enough time to live what's left of life to the fullest and make peace with yourself and others before you leave. Without knowing the details it is really hard to give you advice, but if it is something illegal you should take it to the police. Even if you do not reconcile with your family, I believe you need to at least let them know about the cancer, and although you will never forget the bad circumstances, you need to find some way to forgive them. Hatred and unforgivenss only hurts you not them, and you need all your physical, mental, and spiritual strength for you and your family, especially your daughter. You do not want your daughter to only remember the bad stuff, the hatred, and the scary stuff when you pass... you don't want her to remember you being mad, sad, angry, or upset during your last few years on earth.. that will just make her miserable. Spend your time loving and laughing......... let God take care of all the punishments. You are in my prayers..... God Bless...

Answer 3

Remember God forgave the World. So should you. Harboring these bad feelings and it might of been the worst thing ever but forgive them and make peace with your family. Don't you want to see God and you daughter and husband again? You can not do it if your soul and mind is not pure. Move on and work through these issues seek counseling and maybe a pastor locally to assist you in achieving this peace. I will pray for you and maybe God will show you the way and you never know in God all things are possible and he can cure cancer. Have you asked him. Peace be with you through your journey.

Answer 4

I'm sorry for your suffering. Don't leave this world without resolving your feelings about the molestation.
Don't leave & put the burden on your husband. You could join a support group or talk to a therapist. You have enough burden dealing with your own mortality. Let someone help you deal with your anger so, you can accept what's happening in your life & get to a peaceful place. If that means having a family member arrested, than so be it. You need to take care of yourself!

Answer 5

First report them to proper authorities. Second, What kind of cancer? Cancer is anaerobic. First three days only water then, Fill your body with oxygen rich foods. Fruits and veggies only. No meat, no process foods, no dairy for at least a month and then see what your white cell counts are. 10 to one things begin to return to normal if you follow. continue until cancer gone!!! If after one month you notice no change you can continue to eat whatever you want. Depending on how much time you've been given give this a shot. For your children's sake!!!!

Answer 6

I'm sorry about your health :(. I'm sure if you tell your husband (who probably loves you very much) he'll make sure that all your wishes are carried out. I'm not an expert on the Other Side, but I have a feeling that when you die, you'll somehow find a way to forgive whatever your extended family did. good luck :)

Answer 7

why leave with hated and anger? Shouldn't you do all you can to make your husband and your little daughter stay happy and healthy when you're gone?

Since they'll be arrested then just forget about them. Put your mind and efforts on your daughter. I'm sure she's deserves your love rather than hate towards someone else.

Answer 8

Dear F. Duke,

You have been in my thoughts since I responded to your first question. You remain in my prayers. I hope all is well with you!

After thinking about your question for awhile, I am thinking that the best thing you could do for yourself and for your immediate family is to ask God to provide you the strength and avenues so that you can forgive what they have done. I know that what I am saying is not easy for you to hear and accept--Yahoo Answerers are human and use human words. God has His own ways of speaking to the hearts of those who are hurt and who ask for strength to forgive. Be open to His Holy Word and the small ways God speaks to you through others in your life. Ask God to lead you to a place where you can put your need for revenge and anger aside--a place where you will know and have peace about what you need to do about this situation

As you open your hurt heart and listen to God, you might find that you are directed to or led to a person in your church or the ministry who would listen and provide guidance. Ask God to make clear to who this person is. Ask God for a discerning heart and clear mind so that you will make wise decisions about all who provide spiritual direction to you concerning this situation.

Let me say, the ability to forgive and be reconciled to those who have hurt us terribly is the hardest thing to do. I can say this from my own spiritual journey, forgiving is just difficult sometimes. Especially when the hurt comes from a member of your family.

Yet, I think of Jesus who sacrificed himself to die an ignoble death on the cross to take away our sin. By his wounds and his blood we are forgiven--and Christians are called to follow his example. Sometimes, our attempts at forgiveness are feeble, but we must earnestly ask God for strength and do our best. And do our best to forgive others who have hurt us every day of the life God has given us--whether we have one week to live--or 100 years!

(Remember, it is important that you forgive yourself, too!)

You are in my prayers. I truly hope that your test results gave you reason for great hope! Trust Jesus. Know that God has a plan for you and loves you more than you can imagine!

Answer 9

first of all there is no way that you are going to rest in peace and sleep until the Lord calls his people and go to heaven if you aren't able to forgive. let God take revenge for its his' but just get your life straightened out and repent from your sins. god bless you

Answer 10

omg omg omg omg.... i pray for you!!! just be in peace please and i know things in your life are screwed up...even more than that but ...oh wow i dont even know what to say. see you on the other side :) tell your family, before something else goes horribley wrong. you should try out a sky coaster! i think everyone should, to me it's te only thing that brings me peace, but what do i know i'm only 13.
bless you <3