how would you feel?

Question

My ex boyfriend has a problem. he lied about alot of things that he said he did. like being in a gang and killing someone and putting a guy in a vegetive state. he used to tell me things ppl said that they never. i feel like i was deceived the whole time we were together. he doesn't respect women by the way he talks about them. that is why i left him. now he is with a 16 year old girl. hes 22. is it wrong to feel like my whole relationship was a lie? i feel as though i don't know him. we have a daughter together. this is so sad to think i knew someone and only to find out that i don't know him at all. i just don't believe anything he tries to tell me. i found out i was pregnant after we broke up but i miscarried and all he could talk about when i told him that i was preganant was if he should go out with this 16 year old girl. i am so pissed off and hurt over the miscarriage and all his lies. what would you do?

Answer 1

I'm sorry you have to go thru this. I went thru a similar situation. Breakups are hard enough...but adding lies, new girlfriends, and children, make it close to unbearable. My ex turned into such a jerk when I left him. He didn't help me at all, he stopped calling to see his daughter...and after his 'new girl' attacted me at a pub, I totally cut him out of my life. I was not having my baby around those kind of people. I took his a$$ to court for child support, and havent seen him since...that was almost 4 yrs ago. I've met a wonderful man who my daughter can call daddy...and you will too. Move on...he is so not worth it. I know its hard, but you will look back and realize it was the best decision you ever made!

p.s. As for greenbay---your grammar makes no sense whatsoever. First of all, she already said they have a child together. Why on earth would you tell someone she was 'lucky, very lucky' to miscarry!? Think before you talk!

Answer 2

wow, put you though alot. and you got preganant and you told him that and he went with find him a new girlfriend? wow then you got miscarriage.

I know that you been hurt that you miscarriage that baby. But maybe god think it not the right time for you to have the baby. You should move on why now you free and you are smart and you can do what you need to do. Pls remember don't have sex, what if you did got pregant from your x boyfriend and you will be carring it everyday and gave birth a child and you have to take care of it everyday and he never there and he never take care of you and kid.

I think that you are lucky very lucky not to have a baby by him. I know that you will move on and try to show him that you are better than this 16 year old girl and Also you know, you learn something from this BF and GF and know you know what it like about lie, cheating, all that. So you can find the right person.

that how I learn and I found my wife and Now we will be married for 9 years and have 2 beautiful children. I know you will find a guy like me that love you and share and want to do everything. There a guy out there for you waiting to be found. Don't give up, remember piss off not going to solve it. best thing just move on and go to college and get tthe best job and show him that he wish that he couldn't lie to you and treat you like that. Smile and you will always win.

Answer 3

First off why would you feel attracted to a person who would brag about being in a gang and putting someone in the hospital? You were in a relationship that was all a lie if he lied about everything! Move on girl, I know it is easier said than done, but trust me honey, you WILL find somebody better!
P.S. I am SO SORRY about your misscarriage, I lost my 4 1/2 month old daughter Ariyanna to SIDS, I know your pain!

Answer 4

You obviously did the right thing by getting rid of him. The only way to move forward is to let the past go. When it comes to your daughter keep it strictly business. You'll find if you keep things strictly about her the conversations will be shorter and less frequent. The next time he tries to talk about personal issues cut him off. He can't talk to you about them if you won't listen. It sounds like he is just trying to make you jealous with this younger girl. Your right, it is wrong for him to date someone so young, but you just have to remember it is non of your concern. We were all 16 once.....it won't last. Keep your chin up and focus on your beautiful baby. FYI, I'm speaking from experience. I was married to a compulsive liar for 5 years and we have 2 kids together. The best of luck to you.

Answer 5

I am sorry that you and your daughter are in such a terrible situation. Yes, your relationship was a lie, but your daughter was not. Something very very good came from your time with him and she is the one you need to concentrate on now. Everyone makes mistakes and is deceived at times. Don't beat yourself up about it. Just be the best mother you can be and one day you'll meet someone worthy of both of you. Good luck and stay as far away from him as you possibly can.

Answer 6

You did the right thing by dumping him because like you already know he is a habitual liar and you don't need to be around when it all catches up to him. As for the 16 year old please do me and the rest of your community a favor and report his child molesting a$$ before he really screws up that young girls life. He should be glad it isn't my 16 year old daughter,"well she is 21 now" but if it was my daughter he would hope the law got to him before me.He is praying on young girls because a real woman wouldn't believe his b/s and he really needs to be stopped how would you feel if you had a 16 year old daughter and some child molesting 22 year old habitual liar was taking advantage of her ?

Answer 7

Honey.. he sounds like he has a really bad problem.. compulsive liar. I use to work with one of those people. Life would never be good with him due to the inability to trust or believe him in anything he ever said. He will continue to hurt anyone and everyone he comes in contact with. You best advice from me would be .. forget him.. (easier said than done) your life seems upside down now.. but you are better off to let him go out of your life and find someone who will be good to you and love you. Unless he gets some professional help. he will only be a liar forever. Unless you are willing to deal with that on a daily basis.. run girl run.

Answer 8

Get on with your life. You will have to deal with him since you had a daughter together, but you must find the strength in you to forgive and forget him. Communicate with him only for your child's sake.

It was not meant to be. He played with your mind, he may be 22 but he has a lot of growing up to do
You are better off without him. Move on, live richly, that is the best revenge if you need one.

Answer 9

well i went trough the same thing but i was the 16 well 15 year old im 16 now i would tell the girl she has no clue what she is getting in to if he did it to you hes really doing it to her and besides killing him ur best bet would be to tell the girl sit here down and if she doesnt listen let her go get hurt as for you i dont know. i still havent got over it and its been 7 months and i feel im in love and i shouldnt be

Answer 10

I'd feel terrible about the lies. Move on, no one likes to be lied, and cheated to. Leaving him would definitely be a blessing. Feel fortunate and raise your daughter. He won't change for a long time. There's a good descent guy whose the opposite, of that big time looser and criminal. The 16yr old is jail bait.