To homosexuals only....if you could be straight, would you be?

Question

Do you think it would be easier for you or are you completely happy with yourself? I am not judging or trying to offend in any way.

Answer 1

i've asked myself this question loads of times. especially when i'm hurt from all of the comments and preaching i get. however, being lesbian, has taught me a great deal of things and i think that because of it, i'm more of an understanding and sensative person. being straight would've made a whole lot of things easier but then i wouldn't be the person i am today.

Answer 2

Being a homosexual male and black, I have found it hard to find a compatible mate since I do prefer to date white guys. But I was in a realationship with a girl once and it seemed much easier. I could walk down the street and hold her hands and people would smile at us and comment how perfect we were. Yeah right. Anyways, I get hit on so much by females and I am serious when it comes to relationships but a lot of the guys I have encountered are full of games. I know one thing. I wouldn't want to be a straight female. Because most straight guys that I know play games too. I think its just a guy thing. I would choose to be attracted to my own race also but i've tried that and I can't live a lie.

Answer 3

to quote a good book

"But I am what I am
and all I want is freedom"

If it were a choice, then I would have chosen str8. all those years from about 5 or 6 that I knew I was attracted to other boys up untill 20 was horrible. Only ever had a small group of friends, never lasting long.

then once I hit 19 there was the drugs, trying to escape who I was. While I was out of it, I didnt have to think about being gay. \

Then one day I just said enough is enough and I came out. since that day I have had a normal life. not havin to worry about what people think or what would happen If someone found out. Never being able to be in love, well let me rephrase that, never being able to let anyone know I was in love, and because I was taught at church and in school (yes in the 1990's was still taught) that it was a horrible disguisting thing.

Of course I would have chosen to be straight. BUT ITS NOT A CHOICE, and I am gay. Now I am happy to be who I am, I have a wonderful caring loveing boyfriend and we have been together for over 5 years. I have a supportive family and great friends.

To those people who think that homesexuality is a choice, I ask you, when exactly was it that I made my choice. I have no other gay family members, wasnt an abused child and wasnt raised being told it is ok to be gay. I never met another gay person untill I was 18. and at 5 years old i certainly didnt make those choices, I just like looking at boys. I didnt know what that meant then but i do now.

I do believe however that being gay has made me a much better person. going thorugh that 15 year learning curve has taught me alot of things and made me who I am and I wouldnt change that for a thing

Answer 4

What you must realize, is that we are who we are. If I were straight, I would probably be heartless and unsympathetic. But being gay has showed me something about this world. People cannot choose to be straight or gay. It happens to them. The idea of me changing my sexual orientation would be the equivalent of giving up. I hope for the better of my life, and giving up and avoiding who I am would be wrong. I am still in the closet to some friends and all of my family, but when I come out, I hope to be accepted. The terms diversity, equality, and justice are things that are often dwindling in LGBT culture. We have been treated badly, but we have also been treated by some with respect. The world may never fully accept us, but we are what we are and there is no changing of that. Not even prayer.

That is what is sad it seems. People will result to any means to be more happier, when really they are happy already and they don't even realize it. If I could be straight, I would prefer to be gay.

The whole experience has made me at times in complete peace and tranquility. Other times it has made me cry. But it is for the good of thing that I remain this way. Too give up is to let the wrong force win, and I simply cannot allow that.

Russ out.

Answer 5

Good question...

I am not happy with myself right now so that's why my answer to your question is yes. If I could be straight, I would be. I agree with Proudstud.. i'd do it in a heartbeat... there r so many times I've thought that if I were straight, then I wouldn't have a hard time dealing with my feelings for other women. I wouldn't try hard to be who I'm not. I wouldn't be hiding in my shell all the time. It's so difficult for me now coz I'm still in the closet... and yes, it would be easier for me if I were straight, perhaps happy too. Maybe in that alernate universe, I am straight and happy. Who knows? The life of a lesbian still in the closet is difficult.. if I'm out in a few years, ask me again and maybe I'll have a different answer. ;o)

Answer 6

What a great question! I have really never thought about it. I spent so much of my youth afraid of who I was and hiding it from my family and friends, being straight is not something I think about anymore.

So would I? People always seem surprised when they find out that I am gay that I don't think that it really is an issue with me. If I were straight, so many things would be much easier. But because of who I am and who I love, I wouldn't change a thing.

Thanks for the great question.

Answer 7

If one could willingly change their sexual orientation, or any other characteristic about themselves, why wouldn't they choose to be what was easier? To me this question is equivalent to, "How many angels can dance on the head of a pin?" It's a hypothetical question for which the answer can have no relevance. It provides no insight as to whether or not an individual is completely happy with who they are. Part of being hapy with who you are is knowing what you can change and accepting what you cannot.

By the way, the appropriate opposite of homosexual would be heterosexual. Straight is the counterpart to gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgendered, and transvestite. Gay, lesbian, etc. are more appropriate terms by which to refer to people.

Answer 8

Hard question to answer. Since I am gay, all I want is a great guy to share my life with. If i were strainght, it would be a great girl. Only reason to be straight would to not be discriminated against. I like the way I am and as for now, I don't ever dream of being straight. But if things turn bad and my life goes in the toilet, I may be wishing for it.

Answer 9

First, to everyonelse, I am proud, all this is hard.
I admitted I was a lesbian when I was16... But I knew long before... boys were normal, I wanted normal, in a way, I still want that. I have always wanted to be the housewife type... Part of me screams to be 'normal'. But I am now happy with who I am... If you had asked my a year or two ago, I would say yes, I would be striaght, if I could. Now, after all I have been though I am stronger. God made me this way, and I cant change it, and now I embrace it!

Thanks!

Answer 10

You know, that's a really difficult question. If I could have my entire life to live over again, I don't think I'd want to have to deal with everything all over again, but I do think that it's made me a much better person. I think I'd lean towards not changing it from the beginning. If I were given the chance to just "convert," It'd be a definite no. It's a part of who I am and, honestly, I wouldn't want to have put up with so much **** for nothing.

And I like liking guys. ;-)

Answer 11

Nope ... no more than most straight people would want to be gay if they could.

Think about this: sex is what, one or two percent of our lives? The rest is exactly the same as everyone else.

If I got one wish, it'd be that everyone finally understood that it's just not a big deal. There are so many BIG problems in the world!