I really like this guy and he is a friend. All my friends say they think he likes me too. I've liked friends before and when things didn't work out it became weeird between us. Should I take the chance with this guy and ask him out and maybe ruin a friendship or not?
2006-07-22 13:56:25 · 18 answers · asked by funeebb 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You really don't have choose one or the other... spend more time with him and see how it plays out.
2006-07-22 13:59:35 · answer #1 · answered by nimbleminx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough question! It's always nice to have a friendship with a guy but sometimes attraction can spring up in the midst of it. You say you like him more than a friend? Do you know for sure if he likes you more and wants it to be more than a friendship? Has he given you any indication that he wants to be more than friends? You need to ask yourself if you want to risk losing this friendship or not. Why not just leave things as they are and see what pans out? There is really no hurry here is there? He just may approach you and ask you out, sometimes it's best to not jump ahead so fast and let the guy do the asking for a change. He just might be thinking about this too you know and needs time to sort his own feelings out. Be patient!
2006-07-22 21:17:05 · answer #2 · answered by December Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there and did that and some got ruined and some didnt. You should be honest from the beginning and tell him you like him and want to try and date and see how it goes and if you or he feels uncomfortable you should just back off and remain friends so you can save the friendship. That helps. Sometimes you try to date and realize that you feel that you are dating your brother or someone that feels like that and instead of hurting his feeling you stay in the relationship and that is when it gets ruined. So if either of you feel that way just remain friends and keep hanging with each other but if you feel like it could be more keep dating and see where it takes you and maybe he might just be the one for all time.
2006-07-22 21:02:15 · answer #3 · answered by fordsrock_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of jumping the gun why don't you and this guy just hang out together. keep hanging out until you know that the friendship can escalate to a relationship. Have the guy friend make the first move but make a note that you are interested with someone else so that he would pursue you even more. At least if he doesn't then you know he will just be a friend.
2006-07-22 21:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by da skoolar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is gonna sound really cheesy..but i say you should follow your heart. If you're really attracted to this guy and would like to try having a relationship with him, then go for it! If you guys are friends and really do care for each other, then it shouldnt end badly in the future. I mean let's say u guys break up cuz he cheated on you or was direspecting you..then you shouldnt even want to be his friend anymore, know what i'm saying? Plus, you could be missing out on a wonderful relationship if you tell yourself not to do anything just cuz you guys are friends.
2006-07-22 21:00:20 · answer #5 · answered by scrazygirl25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how much you like this guy......... Chances are that if it doesn't work out your friendship will be weird for a while are you willing to risk that........On the other hand if you are really good friends than you know what he's like and if that's what your after go for it....
2006-07-22 21:00:05 · answer #6 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him ask you, and by the way, there's a great book out there that you need to read. It's called "He's Just Not That Into You," and one of the situations discussed is "I think he wants to be more than friends but doesn't know how to say it."
2006-07-22 21:00:14 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
big question is how close of a friend is he? If it is just a casual friend go for it. Start of going to a movie or some small ice breaker date and see if there is any wierdness the next time you hang out as friends.....
2006-07-22 21:14:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always believe the guy should ask the girl out, but i also believe in going for what u want. so i would not ask him out on a date but tell him how you feel and ask how he feels and go from there. one thing important to remember is that you cant change because you now called yourselves (bf,gf). you should remain who you u r as a friend and a gf because thats why he liked you to begin with. dont get a complex.
2006-07-22 21:14:05 · answer #9 · answered by Ms. DeVine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should try itsa 95% chance its goin 2 be yes because friends like friends for there personality so he probaly likes u not 4 ya looks but 4 u
2006-07-22 21:05:01 · answer #10 · answered by peaches w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋