She went to Target today and told me she was only going to spend 25 dollars. When she came back she had spent 100.00. The money was not hers it was mine. I am so mad I am thinking about breaking up with her. What do you think?
2006-07-22 13:44:21 · 23 answers · asked by raiderphan79 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Coming from a girl I wouldn't break up with her....I would just ask her what she bought...maybe it was something for you. Or....maybe next time tell her to take her own money.....keep her out of you stash
2006-07-22 13:48:37 · answer #1 · answered by Doni Jean 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Have her pick out $25.00 of the things she purchased and return the rest. It is easy to pick up things in a store that you can't afford. Most people come to their senses at checkout, which is why there is always so much restocking going on for the workers.
Your girlfriend has boundary issues. She takes you for a pushover. She really doesn't even deserve the $25.00's worth of stuff after mindlessly spending more than you gave her permission to spend. However, you'd be keeping your word about allowing the $25.00 and teaching her you are not a pushover. Let her know any future disrespect means she wants to break up with you and MEAN IT!
2006-07-22 13:52:49 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break up with her over something as silly as that.
Yes...it is an issue of trust...
but in a relationship, you do have to work at things.
I guess that it would depend on how many times she has done something like this. If she's always taking advantage of your trust with her then the right thing to do would be to break up with her....But...if this is the beginning...work at things. That's how u build a relationship. Tell her that wat she did was wrong and that u don't appreciate it becuz that was ur money. If she admits to her wrong doing and doesn't do it again, then you know everything (for the most part) will be okay...but if she denies her wrong doing and turns things around on you...then u kno what u have to do.
2006-07-22 14:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by bubblegum0402 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if that's all the reason to break up with her, then you don't have much of a relationship. Try talking to her, she may have remembered things that needed picked up, may intend to pay back the money, many possibilities. Also remember you gave her access to the money, either cash, credit/debit, whatever. If you didn't believe she could be trusted, you shouldn't have given her access. If you did feel she could be trusted, then have a little faith and talk about it, try to understand. Is the $75 really worth the loss of the relationship?
2006-07-22 14:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by Nita 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it so bad that she spent more money then she said she would is it that bad you would want to call it quits just over money? There are alot worse thing she could of done but at least she told you and was open about it. Money comes and goes but a real relationship is hard to find so think hard before you leap.
2006-07-22 13:49:16 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you do have the right to be mad, it was your money, but it is kinda hard to spend only 25 dollars at target, but give her another chance, tell her how you feel about this and if she does it again, drop her, let her know that its your hard earned money.
hope this helps
2006-07-22 13:48:00 · answer #6 · answered by Matt M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She violated your trust. I would be mad too. I would ask her if she was planning to pay you back for the overage. I don't know that I'd break up with her but I would have a clear understanding of what you expect when you give her money.
2006-07-22 13:55:24 · answer #7 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you should have only given her $25 to spend. If you realy care about her you would work it out and not break up over something kind of petty. BTW did she happen to purchase something for you as well? Might want to take that into consideration.
2006-07-22 13:49:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her first and let her know how upset you are. She may plan to give you the $75 that she went over. If she doesn't....see what can be returned and express to your g/f that in the future if she spends more than planned that you'd like her to call you and ask if it is OK. Why does she have access to your money/bank acct/debit card anyway?
2006-07-22 13:49:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return everything but $25 worth.
2006-07-22 14:06:26 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would check out what she bought. It may be something that was real important or that she really needed or it could be a surprize gift for you!!
Anyway, if that's your excuse to break up with her, that really takes the cake. :)
Besides, what's wrong with spending your money?? You wouldn't be much of a boyfriend if you were a tight wad........
2006-07-22 13:52:43 · answer #11 · answered by Kaye 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋