I have been divorced for a few years. I still love my ex-husband. I want to tell him that I do but he lives far away now. I loved him a lot then and oddly enough I still love him now. I wonder if he still has some feelings for me even though we have been divorced for so long. But yes we did get divorced for some reason. Should I tell him I still love him after all these years?
2006-07-22 13:43:55 · 28 answers · asked by angry@fate 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We never had children. Not for the lack of wanting them. It just was never the right time.
He didn't leave me, I left. We had an arguement I was angry and I left. I did it while he was at work. I grabbed anything I could stick in the back of the truck and left. After I left I immediately regretted it but didn't have the courage to go back. I humiliated him as well as myself.
He moved away just a few years ago for a much better job and I don't blame him. I was never the reason that he left town. I know that. This was just for all you answerers
2006-07-22 14:03:43 · update #1
Seriously. I was 22 when this happened! 22! I left because we had a serious arguement. He had his parents on the phone talking to him and I was so angry the next morning I left! simple as that.
2006-07-22 14:27:45 · update #2
This is an excellent question! It is hard to be so honest and open; I salute you for this. There are several things to consider about telling him you still love him after all these years. Is your reason for telling him because you think that maybe somehow you two could get back together? If that is so, you need to do some serious thinking and answer some hard questions. What has he done in these years since the divorce? He maybe remarried and you may be also (though you did not say either way). Or he may have a girl friend. And if either of you is remarried, then it is a terrible idea; you could cause both of you heartbreak all over again. If either one of you is remarried, then do not make this mistake! You will regret it the rest of your life.
If neither of you are remarried, then MAYBE it might be alright to tell him you still love him. But before you do so, I would suggest that you find some way to determine what his marital status is, and if he has any regrets about the divorce. If you have to hire a private investigator, do it. It would be better than making a fool of yourself. If by some means you do find out from a reliable source (relatives of your ex, friends who keep in touch with him that you still know, or even a private investigator) that he might be sorry about the divorce, then you could contact him. But be careful; it could be the biggest mistake you ever made.
I wish you the best; and I hope you find love again. I can read between the lines, and I think you never quit loving him and hope somehow to get him back. Good luck; it is going to be hard.
2006-07-22 14:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by Don H 3 · 7⤊ 1⤋
It is very difficult to mend broken hearts. If he has not bothered to contact you, then carry on with life. After all, it is your mistake and there is no point in regretting now. This is what is happening around the world now. For such a small thing, in a spurt of anger or a drop of a hat, they go to the court and get divorced and later on regret it. Marriage is an institution to be brought up together by both partners and must show tolerance, compassion, love and liking to each other and should work hard to make the marriage work through out.
2006-07-22 20:51:44 · answer #2 · answered by tnkumar1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If neither of you is remarried or in a serious relationship then you might as well try it. I won't even bother to say that going back to an ex is a bad idea, you wouldn't listen anyway so just go for it. However the fact that he didn't just leave you he left TOWN speaks volumes.
2006-07-22 20:54:25 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes tell him how you feel. It is always best to tell people how you feel. Life is short and God forbid if something happens and you have to carry that with you the rest of your life or vice versa. There are many couples that develop a fantastic friendship after many years and some even rekindle their relationships and marry again. Even if it doesn't go that far at least he will know how you feel and you will feel better knowing you have told him.
Remember, everyone has a past----------decide with your brain and not your heart who needs to stay there.
2006-07-22 22:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by CANDY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have any kids? If not then sure why not take the risk? I mean hell if he laughs in your face no big deal. But if you do have kids together, think about it good and long before you say anything. He's going to have to be in your life for a long time because of them and you don't want to make it any more uncomfortable between you to than it already is after have been married
2006-07-22 20:47:23 · answer #5 · answered by akamoonpie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it, honey.....you don't sound like much of a prize to me. Obviously there was more to the story....having an arguement does not constitute grounds for a divorce. He has mopved away and that is it!!!!!! Stop whining about the past......and move on!
2006-07-22 21:08:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself - what is the point? I mean, do you want to spend the rest of your life stuck in the past? If this is the case - then, by all means, go chase the man who doesn't want to have much to do with you (get real, if he loved you and wanted to stay with you - do you think you guys would have gotten divorced?)
But if you think you might want to live in the present and build a good future for yourself - then find someone else to fall in love with. There's plenty of other fish in the sea.
2006-07-22 20:51:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you need to let go and let God!! I still have feelings for my ex husband but I know God has a grander plan. I keep involved and move along and know that life has meaning. I concentrate on trying to make a positive difference in others lives and on the future. It helps to set goals and stay focused. It is a lot easier said than done. I will pray for you!!
2006-07-22 20:51:09 · answer #8 · answered by jagaja131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know. Why did you get divorced? Are those same things still there? If nothing has changed, then the same thing would happen again, and maybe it's time for you to let go, and move forward.
2006-07-22 20:47:36 · answer #9 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me answer your question with a some questions.
If you told your ex that you loved him.. would your intentions be for you both to get back together? Or would it be a FYI statement?
If it would be a FYI statement.. what would be gained from this?
If it would be for the sole purpose to get back together.. what are the chances of that happening?
I guess it would all depend on why you guys got divorced to begin with. I can understand you loving someone that you were married to.. especially if you both were married for several years. Its hard to just fall out of love with someone that you did love alot.
I guess my main question to you is.. what do you wish to gain by telling him that you love him.
2006-07-22 20:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋