Im so happy that Im single and free and can do what ever I want, am I right?

Question

I dont want a husband right now I quite enjoying my life and im only 21

I feel a lot happy right now , I was telling this to a relative and she said no if you were married you can have that freedom too even more

but right now I dont want to marry and I will but later in life
,but how can she say that, its true i am very happy, and usually i here that quick marriages are always a wrong to do anyway

what do you think , I right about enjoying my life right now arent are

Answer 1

I think that is great. You have every right to be single and free. Good luck to you.

Answer 2

Marriage is 4 life; so, enjoy ur single life. If u do eventually marry, it'll have a better chance of lasting bc u married at the right time 4 u; with the right person 4 u and 4 strong solid reasons. Enjoy your single-hood. Don't let NE1 force u into anything; don't ride the guilt trips.

Also, live on ur own 1st. Never go from ur parents' home 2 a husband's home w/out learning how 2b responsible for the day-2-day parts of life learned when u have ur own place 4 a while. This'll help u b a true mate & a true partner in a marriage 2 someone who isn't threatened by ur independence. U want 2 live; not just merely exist. Hey, I think ur right 2 handle ur business.

Enjoy life; let God send u someone in His time..

Happy Sabbath.

Answer 3

I agree with you. I had a lot of freedom that I wouldn't have had had I married right out of college. I was able to move to New Mexico and go out when I wanted without having to tell anyone where I was going or with whom. Now that I am married (I got married when I was 33) I let my husband know where I am going, so that he doesn't worry. If I want to go out with friends I have to make arrangments for someone to watch the children and then be able to get back at a sensible time (those all night parties are over). Enjoy your life. When you find the right man you will know and you will not mind giving up that freedom you used to enjoy. You will enjoy the freedom of knowing that someone cares about you all the time.

Answer 4

You are young and it is best that you get to know yourself before you get married. I think the freedom your relative is talking about may be the freedom to be yourself with someone you are committed to and are sharing a life with. I am 40 and have never been married and I am grateful that I haven't considering all the messed up relationships I have had. I am getting to know myself now and waiting for the right time and person to get married. However, I am celibate. Being sexually active before marriage led to all those messed up relationships and the heartbreak that came when they ended. Take the time and love you. When you do that you will be able to love someone else in a committed marriage when the time is right.

Answer 5

you have every right to be happy where you are. there's no need to feel that you need to rush in to marriage or anything else. take your time, enjoy this part of your life; it only happens once and you should live everyday of your life to its fullest as a single woman, and as a married woman when that time comes.

i disagree with your aunt in saying that you can have the same freedoms as a married woman that you have now. that is so incorrect on so many points...marriage means taking on a spouse who you must consider often times before considering yourself. as a single woman you can go whenever you feel the urge to do so, as a married woman that doesn't happen so freely. i assume that you don't have children, and marriage usually brings children, so there goes freedom for at least 18 years (that's assuming they'll be out of your home in 18 years).
marriage is great, but with marriage comes change in living and lifestyle. it isn't a game, you can't walk away as easily, it requires daily work, is rewarding in many ways, but before you take that step....enjoy your single life.

Answer 6

You should do what you want. I like to spend a lot of time alone and for many years I really preferred beng single to being in relationships. As I get older (32 now) I understand more and see the meaning in being involved in a loving relationship.

You should look at having relationships where you don't spend that much time together, where there is still a lot of opportunity for you to do whatever you want. Or maybe just play the field and sleep around a bit, totally natural and valid. Whatever you choose, keep having fun x

Answer 7

you are the best judge to decide what is right for you. When I was 21, I felt I knew everything, but now Im 36 and I KNOW I still have a lot to learn!! I dont think a man or a relationship can give youfreedom as such, but it does give a sense of completeness and comfort, and when you are ready to settle into these things, it will have happened and you will be well into a relationship before you notice that

Answer 8

I mean if you feel OK like that, why not? Again if you are totally single (no boyfriend) and writing this, then i should suppose you are not so happy and you trying to be happy. Marriage is a decision you take when you feel comfortable that way. If you don't at the moment you are right, you are young, got a lot to live... live your life and don't let life live you! ;)

Answer 9

girl live it up what is right for you may not be right for her and what is right for her is obviously wrong for you

You are young and one of the few girls in this world who is doing it right

I am married with 2 kids and did not do it until I was 24 and I even think that was to soon
although I would not trade husband or kids for anything it does take away your freedoms you have to always consider another feelings once your married

live your life to it fullest when you are ready to marry you will know right now keep on having fun

Answer 10

I thought being single was nice until I got married. I would NEVER go back to being alone. There is NOTHING better than having someone to be there when you come home from work, or someone to greet when they come home. Someone with whom you don't have to be constantly talking to feel comfortable. Someone to lie on the couch with watching a movie. Someone that will always support you and listen to you when something neat happens or when something crappy happens. Someone to hold hands with while walking through the mall and have it really MEAN something. Someone to eat meals together with. (Eating alone is the epitome of loneliness and isolation). Someone to tickle your back while lying in bed at night. Someone you can buy little gifts for and see how happy it makes them. Of course all of these things could take place with someone with whom you are dating, but that is like renting a house from someone else--you are not investing in anything for your future. They will find someone else and so will you and all of those times you spent together will mean nothing. But as a married couple you start building memories that will last a lifetime. I have been married to the same beautiful girl for 26 years, never been separated, never been divorced, been helplessly, hopelessly in love every day of those 26 years.

Incidentally don't listen to those who try to tell you to wait a long time before having children or getting married either. I was married as 21 my wife was 19. By the time I was thirty I had five sons. That meant we were able to raise them while WE were young also. Who wants to be raised by parents who are in their late thirties, all wrapped in work, no time to play, go to the park, watch baseball practices, go to the beach or Disneyland, or camping because dad is too busy with work and mom is at the office. Have your family when you are young and poor and your family will be closer and stronger than you will ever imagine.

I would NEVER go back to single life.

Answer 11

That is your relative's opinion which they're entitled too, but I personally disagree with it like you do. There's absolutely no need for you to start panicking about getting married right now. Some people don't marry until they're 50 and still have happy lives! Some people NEVER marry and are still happy! It's what works for you that is right. Don't listen to mad old aunts. : )