i've smoked plenty of pot in my day, im 19 by the way. but i had a little scare with my health and now i decided to stop smoking. all my friends smoke pot (and thats all they do, ALL THE TIME!) and i hate to be around that kind of peer pressure. thats why i pretty much stopped hanging out with them. im going into my sophmore year in college and i feel like im gonna be alone and i hate that feeling. what do i do? im pretty sociable too i just forgot how to really make friends, it seems so long since i felt the need to. what can i do? im up for all kinds of answers, thanks.
2006-07-22 13:19:00 · 19 answers · asked by jerse15 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
1. Consider yourself lucky. You will be working in a CAREER. While your pothead buddies are saying things like "You want fries with that?"
2. Find New Friends.....Friends with brains. They are out there. ESPECIALLY in college....you can always find someone to hang out with. There is always someone on your level. That is the beauty of college.
3. Relax.
2006-07-22 13:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Bruce B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said that you are very sociable so i doubt that you will have any problem finding new friends. I also just stopped smoking to find a better job than roofing but it doesn't stop me from hanging with my friends that do you just have to keep saying no and if they are your true friends then they will understand why you had to stop and they should support you for it, if not then they was never really your friends and you don't need them any way. Keep your head up and stick to your guns and every thing will work out in the end.Good luck and try to find a place that you can go were there is no drug activity and still have a good time.
2006-07-22 13:29:21 · answer #2 · answered by apache672004 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all, good job for quiting smoking pot. I am sure there are plenty of people in Collage that you can be friends with and that don't smoke pot. Loneliness is not a very good excuse for a 19 year old to be friends with pot smoking losers. If you were 12 years old, I would have understood your frustration but, you are too old to think like that. Sorry to be mean but gotta tell you the truth.
2006-07-22 13:28:59 · answer #3 · answered by Lovetoloveyou 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That happened to me a very long time ago. You made a wise decision to change. In the long run you will be glald you did.
Two of my friends that I had to pull away from are still stuck in their drug habit. They are grownups without a life. They look twice their age and they have nothing.
Hang out places where you can meet someone new. College library. Church singles group, volenteer at a hospital or something like that.
I feel that the older we get the less friends we have..why?
Because you have figured out what you want in life and you don't have time to waste on childish behavior.
Not sure if you live on campus or off campus. Try some clubs or at school that you normally not go to. Direct your energy in directions that point you in a positive way. And you just might be suprised that there are others in your group who want to change and they feel controlled by the peer pressure.
You might feel embarresed to face those firends. From my experience it is very powerful to Face someone who wants to be superior to you and you have a face down and you walk away not letting them control you, you actually will get the respect from other people who wish they could stay strong in the face of peers
Even if you have to fake being confident and sure do it until you really feel it.
You've got what it takes to become a man! I applaud you..
2006-07-22 13:31:47 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've made a good choice. Smoking pot isn't cool and yes, stay away because you don't want to be influence again. You're in college so the need for friends will fly in you avenue by September. You'll be surprised to know how many students will ask you if you understand this or that problem. Some will admire you knowing that you've dropped the bad guys. Stay cool and stay out of trouble.
2006-07-22 13:27:19 · answer #5 · answered by Reidi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Since you go to school try to set up a study session with some class mates you might want to sprnd more time with. That always seems to leed to new friends. You all have one thing in common after all you are all in the same class for some reason or another.
Pamela 24
Its great that you quit. Stay with it. You will find over time that most people dont smoke. The older you get the easier it gets. and then it will be your friends who find it hard to make friends.
2006-07-22 13:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by Pamela 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I completely understand where you're coming from and I'm glad you made that decision, that's very mature of you. There IS more to life then just smoking pot or doing other drugs
The best I can tell you though is you're in college now and there are many different social activities you can go to and many new people to meet
Just becareful not to fall back into the same trap with different drugs/drinking, etc.
Best of luck to you
2006-07-22 13:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Karce 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I found this really a cute story You're so young, and saying "it's been so long" I chuckled at this one! I understand what you're saying. I did the same thing years ago. I had partied for about 15 years, and decided it was time to stop. Well I had to make all new friends, and it was awkward and lonely for awhile.
I started going to church! What a dif for me! Anyway I made alot of great people, friends, and have stayed there ever since. You will have to go to different places to make different kinds of friends. You can do it, hey if I did it anybody can!
2006-07-22 13:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
College is a great place to make friends. Be sociable, willing to help and hang out. Join some clubs or associations. Hang out in the dorms. The friendships will usually come about naturally, especially if you live on campus. Don't be intimidated or isolated.
2006-07-22 13:25:29 · answer #9 · answered by meowww58 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Societyies in collage, clubs and stuff, go to class ask people how there getting on with the course, trust me its not that hard to get friens in collage, i know becasue i passed up way to many times on metting people and girls.
You also did the right and smart thing leaving your "friends" behind, maybe this is your chance to change the type of people you hang out with.
Whatever you decide good luck, plus tell a girl you have ahrd time making friends-might be in with a chnace.
Have fun in collage and learn some stuff also.
2006-07-22 13:31:24 · answer #10 · answered by pj2024 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋