I love women and only look at women in public places, never at men..I have no attraction there. Except on the internet. I like to look at male genitalia and have strong desires to perform orally. When I was 12 my uncle (16) had me do this and it was my first sexual experience. I have strong a religious background and have prayed with no true deliverance from these feelings.
Any helpful advice
2006-07-22 13:04:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I think you just have a strong oral fixation. I date a lot of guys who say they are straight. In the bedroom its different. I also as a teen have had sexual encounters that I would now look back at and say why? Teenagers bodies go through so much so don't put yourself down for what you did when you were young. But there is a small chance you maybe bisexual. Like I said before, most of the guys I have dated exclusively date females. Everyone has different urges when it comes to sex and I don't see any difference in you and other guys I have been with. Just don't put yourself down but if you do feel like you were forced sexually, then you may need therapy.
2006-07-22 16:21:19 · answer #1 · answered by doldemite 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
You say you have no attraction, yet you look at men on the internet and fantasize about performing oral sex on a man. That, to me, sounds like an attraction. The fact that you only look at women in public places is a manifestation of the guilt that has no doubt been instilled in you through your religious upbringing. There are plenty of men out there that feel the same way you do and I suggest you meet one. The only way you'll get deliverance from these feelings is if you try it and realize it didn't appeal to you as much as you thought it did. I suggest this assuming you are not married.
2006-07-22 22:21:44 · answer #2 · answered by Speedo Inspector 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what your Uncle asked you to do, you are either attracted to men or women, or perhaps both.
Being gay and participating in homoerotic fantasies or acts are certainly two different things.
I think it would be most important that you do some personal reflection and only you can answer whether you are truly attracted to both sexes. Perhaps as a young teen, you found sex with your teenage Uncle exciting - I have no idea. Perhaps in your mind, you think that this excitement can be relived by performing oral sex on another man. Again, only you can answer this type of question.
Since this happened at such a young age, I would strongly suggest that you seek the assistance of a good therapist, in whom you can trust these types of deeply personal thoughts and fantasies.
2006-07-22 22:59:28 · answer #3 · answered by Robert C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel too hard on yourself.
I've never been abused like you have, but I know what it's like to feel like there is something wrong with you. I am bisexual and I was raised in a very conservative Christian family, so I felt constantly that I was a bad person.
I don't think that this means there's something wrong with you, but I think it would be a good idea to seek help and talk to someone about it, especially because you were sexually abused.
Take care!
2006-07-22 20:18:32 · answer #4 · answered by Christine T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, your uncle was, and may still be a pedophile, report it to the police so he doesn't do this to someone else!!!!
only you know who you are on the inside, you will have to figure that out for yourself. if possible you should see a shrink, getting the right person to talk to really can help.
if it helps any, you're not alone. i'd guess that at least half of the GLBT community has had to figure out who or what they were.
good luck to you
2006-07-22 21:10:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You were molested, It's nothing for you to be ashamed of. You should talk to a Therapist that is not part of any religious group.
Good Luck I hope you find the answer You Need.
Love,
Tammi Dee
2006-07-22 20:22:55 · answer #6 · answered by tammidee10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you were molested...I was too...it didn't have a strong influence on me however...it was just a minor bump in the road...I should have already known that I was gay...I don't believe that an experience like you had can "turn" anyone gay...you either have the feelings or you don't....but I think you should maybe talk to someone about your confusion and upset over this one...good luck
2006-07-22 20:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your feelings are your feelings.
Deliverance is, frankly, a joke. It's a made up idea that has cost acres of carpet for no return.
That said. If your uncle used force -- then you were molested. You may want to talk to a counselour ( A NON-RELIGIOUS ONE!!!!!!!!!)
http://www.rebuff.org
2006-07-23 22:10:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
O my god! you need to get some help.. You were molested. Get help before making a decision. I pray that you get the help that you need. Your uncle needs to pay for what he did to you. And you did NOTHING wrong..
2006-07-22 20:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by trouble comes a knockin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,you definately need to seek help,and hopefully you are of age now
2006-07-22 23:18:02 · answer #10 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋