No, I'm not trying to create controversy here . . . it's a legitimate question. I'll turn 40 this year, and have never been married. I am a confident, healthy, intelligent, romantic, not boring, and not "too nice" man. For some reason though, women hate me because of this.
It would be easy to say that I need to just "be myself" and some woman will eventually appreciate me . . . but that's no longer acceptable. My prime dating days are fading quickly. A change needs to be made, NOW.
With this in mind, what is the best way for me to become a bad boy so that women will want me? Should I slap them around? Cheat on them? Verbally abuse them? I'm open to any and all suggestions. Truly is a shame though that I have to sell my soul, just because I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone.
Only serious responses please.
2006-07-22 12:56:51 · 6 answers · asked by mike_answ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Women don't hate you - they feel that you are out of their league. Many women (myself) will shy away from advances from someone that has their head on straight - because once you find out who I really am, it will be akward and embarassing and of course I will have to disappear and who did I think I was to ever think I could be with a great guy like you? If you haven't guessed, I have extreemly low self-esteem; and all of my realtonships have been with those that either physically abused me, mentally abused me, or a combination; all used me. I left my first husband because I was afraid that he might accidently kill me from the nightly beatings I got (no defense marks on my arms)and I did not want him to get in trouble for it; because after all, it really wasn't his fault, but something I did or didn't do or whatever. Now unfortunately, my daughter inherited this pattern; I pray, and hope there may be some help so she can recognize great guys like you and know that she would make a great teammate; instead of a dog for some drug addict.
Perhaps you could do some voluteer work that would help women learn what healthy lives truly are.
Thanks.
2006-07-22 13:11:18 · answer #1 · answered by Ready2StopBeingUsed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a bummer! I still am going to say it. There are still women out there who love to be treated nice. Where are you going to try to meet women? Bars? Why don't you try going to other places to meet different kinds of women?
I met my husband in church, and he is amazing. He is good to me, polite, and caring. I had my days when I was younger to date bad boys, and this was just a rebellion thing. When I wanted to settle down, I wanted someone nice that knew how to love me. Keep on looking and don't give up your "nice."
By the way I met my hubby when I was 50, you're never too old to date.
2006-07-22 20:07:21 · answer #2 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you have the wrong idea. You don't mistreat women. Your just not around the right women. Maybe your too over confident. Play the shy guy card. Don't push too hard to get her to like you.
2006-07-22 20:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women don't want someone to mistreat them. They want someone to love them and care for them but not let them misbehave. If I were you I'd go to some of the dominant men lists on Yahoo and learn from the guys there. I love to hear from the heads of households on the Christian Domestic Discipline Yahoo list. You might try that.
2006-07-22 20:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Play some head games for sure, maybe a little spankin' too.
2006-07-22 20:58:33 · answer #5 · answered by O'Shea 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
with your tongue
2006-07-22 21:43:20 · answer #6 · answered by blue m 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋