I'm dealing with a young 31 year old female who lost her father in 1988 and it seems like she started having children at a very young age.She has been in quite a few hurtful relationships and she somewhat seems argumentive about every little thing.I'm 14 years older than her,but it seems like she don't mind getting involved with me as soon as she gets her own place.She calls me almost every night and i have to be careful what i say to her.Because i don't really know if this is leading to us having a relationship or if she is just looking for a father figure in her life.When she doesn't call me i know she's either had a night out on the town and not feeling good or she had a bad day.I can't talk about her changing some of these activities because i know that she is still young and love to party.When i try to correct her,she just gets upset and act like i don't know what i am talking about.
2006-07-22 12:43:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, I can't say most definitively seek out a father figure. However, I have found that those who lose their father's early or don't have relationships with their father usually develop a "male dependency." Usually you'll find that they'll engage in relationship after relationship to the point that it seems that they don't know how or don't want to stand completely on their own for any substantial amount of time. Its like they constantly have to have the attention of a male counterpart present. I've dated numerous women in that position and I've found that they usually have a "long" past and are always looking for love...many times in the wrong places.
2006-07-22 12:58:53 · answer #1 · answered by oneluv66366 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your gut feeling is that she might be looking for a father figure, then why are you wasting your time? And do you really want to get involved with someone where you have to be careful of what you say? And why are YOU trying to correct her anyways? Isn't she a grown woman at 31? What is it that you are trying to be, a father figure or a boyfriend? That is the real question here.
2006-07-22 19:49:54 · answer #2 · answered by oklahoma_whistle_britches 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in some instances, their absentee Father who might even still be alive but just not in their lives would point them in the direction of boyfriends, and sometimes those whose age difference is a lot greater than normal for that "Father Figure", so to speak. I unfortunately can attest to that on a regretful, personal level. Right now there's a 10 yr age difference between my middle Daughter and her supposed boyfriend. I've heard recently that they've even moved in together. And the strangest thing is that I somewhat introduced them.....Figure that out!!
2006-07-22 19:53:19 · answer #3 · answered by Jdubyathree 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard that it is very important for a girl to have a father in her life. Unfortunately my daughter's father died when she was 8 and she is now 15. I have done my best but I am very lenient with her. She has had lots of tragedies in her life to deal with so I probably over-compensate by not being very strict. She has had a few "father-figures" in her life though and we currently live with my bf (3 years). He is the opposite of me when it comes to what she should do so I tend to be even less strict with her to compensate for his attitude. I think the biggest factor though is that she is an only child so she has my full attention and knows how to manipulate me.
As for her current bf, he is her age and I think she is the "boss". She's not going to let any bf tell her what to do. I admire that quality in her though because I have always brought her up to be her own person. I was brought up with 2 married parents (43 years before Dad died) and I feel I have never really "found my way" in life. I want someone to take care of me.
So to answer your question, I think it can work either way. If you want to be her bf then just accept her for who she is and don't over-analyze the situation.
2006-07-22 19:54:16 · answer #4 · answered by Dellajoy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
young at 31? she should have kids and be settled down by now... but I guess to each his own. yes I have heard that women without fathers look for a father-figure in their boyfrined/husband... however I dont know first hand if its true.
2006-07-22 19:47:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is blind and has no common sense. Who really knows.
2006-07-22 19:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by effing.rawr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love her the way she is, or let her go
2006-07-22 19:47:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah.. i never heard of that
well i have my dad
2006-07-22 19:45:25 · answer #8 · answered by KryssyBeyondBeauty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. BECAUSE, THEY ARE USUALLY INSECURE WOMEN.WHO SEEK SECURITY!!!!!
2006-07-22 20:06:18 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no
2006-07-22 19:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by bogo_648 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋