a brother that is a drunk....and parents are in denial...no money...no friends......not much family.....what do i do??????
2006-07-22 11:47:55 · 20 answers · asked by sexy luv 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
There are lots of people in here telling you to find a shelter. They are right. Protect yourself and your baby. Call your local child protective services. I don't know if you are under age but your baby is. They should be able to get you the help you need.
2006-07-22 12:04:56 · answer #1 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a church in the area or a womens shelter? I know even in this small town that I can open the phone book and find many resources available to me and my children should the need ever arise.
Most importantly get out! Keep you and that baby safe. Call the police, if nothing else they can point you in the right direction.
2006-07-22 11:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by whiskeygrl319 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is the baby's father? Is that an option?
Do you belong to any churches? You might go to a church and ask for help. Someone might be willing to take you in until you can get on your feet.
You could call the Salvation Army and ask for help.
Even if you have to go to a Women's Shelter or Resource Center to get away if it's unbearable at home, then do so.
You could call social services asking for help also.
I wish you the best of luck. May God watch over you and your baby.
2006-07-22 12:02:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can get it to a local women's shelter - there should be somewhere that will take you. They can probably hook you up with social services to help you get your own place eventually, and other services so you don't have to worry about a drunk hurting you or your baby. I think their number is 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). Call them right away. Good luck!
2006-07-22 11:53:29 · answer #4 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have received a lot of great advice. I can't think of anything to add, except take their advice. Don't wait. No one is going to do anything for you. You need to decide what you want for you and the baby and begin by getting out of that home. Get help from the sources that have been suggested for you. Your parents may never change. So don't wait for them to change. I grew up with a brother that was much the same and to this day I do not speak to him, he never changed. He was given many chances and never made use of the opportunities handed to him. To this day my Mother is still in denial and most recently my brother has now moved in with her and he is drinking again, and he is almost 50 years old, his wife left him and he abused all his kids, they have as little to do with him as possibe. My father and stepfather have both passed away. My mother is in complete denial and in order to keep my sanity, I have stopped talking to her. I have four great children. 1 married and 2 in college. But it was a battle for me to reach the point of reality that as far as my mother and brother are concerned they will never change. I gave up to much of myself trying hoping for a miracle and a story book family. I never had one. I strive to give my children the best I can, That is what is important. My advice is get out of that home and make a safe future for your self and your child now. My brother used to beat me and my mother never did anything and stayed in denial. He is still her favorite. I can't believe I am still alive. Don't wait until it gets worse. Don't wait until what you fear actually happens. Don't wait out of some kind of loyalty or respect to your family. If your parents are not putting the baby first, they don't deserve any respect. Are there shelters in your area, if not, go to the emergency room as suggested earlier, go to the police. Go somewhere. You are welcome to e-mail me. I hope this helps. You got a lot of great advice from everyone on here, make use of it. I hope you will let us know what happens.
2006-07-22 12:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by soontobegrandma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there a local shelter..or housing for single mothers.. how about a ywca..type housing? no friends..? no other single mother you can join resources with. where is the babies father? his parents? his relatives? i dont know how old you are..but with that baby you are going to have to grow up and get tough..real quick. is there a way you can get local police to come out and help secure your home..and give you some tips. double locks..more lighting.. mace... etc.
2006-07-22 11:52:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try calling a battered womens shelter in your area. Pack up your stuff and GO there. Your first priority is the safety of yourself and your baby.
2006-07-22 11:54:09 · answer #7 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look in the phonebook or call information for a domestic violence shelter in the area. They can give you a place to go with your child and help you get on your feet and into your own place.
2006-07-22 11:51:50 · answer #8 · answered by Sonie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call your local Battered Women's Shelter. They have resources that may help you. If you can't find the phone number, call your police non emergency number and ask them for the number to the Battered Women's Shelter.
Good Luck and God Bless you.
2006-07-22 11:53:51 · answer #9 · answered by TCPBCP 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a shelter near you where you can go? In my area they have a place where women and children can go if they feel unsafe. They can help you find housing and sometimes even a job. Are you underage??
2006-07-22 11:52:33 · answer #10 · answered by blonde_chick_242005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋