I went out with my ex boyfriend, only for about 6 months, but I really loved him, we were really close and I got on really well with his family, we split up because I didn't really feel the relationship was progressing, although I really loved him, this was also a few years ago now, but I still think about him all of the time, and often wish I hadn't ended it and often wonder how things would be between us now, I'm finding it really hard to move on, does anyone have any advice for me on how to deal with this?
2006-07-22 11:37:27 · 19 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why not try telling your ex??
2006-07-22 11:39:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should tell him if he's in a position whereby you may end up together if he feels the same.
If he's not, i.e. if he's now happily married or something then you shouldn't tell him as it's not fair to put someone in that position.
You could try going out with your friends and just having a good time. If you are enjoying life without him you'll think about him less.
Maybe you aren't really remembering things properly either, you split up for a reason, looking back people forget bad things and only remember the good sometimes.
If you want to move on each time you think of him in a nice way try and think of something he did you didn't like to counteract it.
I had my heart well and truly ripped out, put through a mincer and jumped up and down on by one particular ex. Now I look back I can see we would never have worked even though I was completely and totally in love with him for several years after we split. But you learn that there is more to life after a while than longing for something you cannot have.
2006-07-22 18:49:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he your first real love? If so, you will never forget him especially if he has qualities you respect and admire.
However, it was only six months and you wanted something he wasn't ready for (a real committment) this alone could be the reason you think of him so often.
You should get more in tuned with yourself and think about all the things you want to accomplish in life and what you enjoy. If you are already satisfied that you are fulfilling yourself and you still really miss this person, go ahead and reach out to him . If he does not miss you the same, start dating.. try friends of friends first. you would be surprised how many people you can meet this way.
2006-07-22 19:04:03 · answer #3 · answered by mamisalami 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you will never move on if you keep looking back. If you loved him you would not have left him . You left him because he was not what you wanted. You only want him now because nothing better turned up since then. If you had him back what would have changed? in a few months you would feel you were not getting anywhere again. You made the right decision all those years ago now you only want him because you have not got him. Just because your expected dream man did not show up yet do not keep dwelling on a relationship that wasn't right then and would not be right now , forget it ,move on, stop looking back.
2006-07-22 18:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by Dolly Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be the fact that you have not moved on that you are thinking of the past wandering how things would be if you had not dumped him.
If you had found someone else then you would be more focused on that relationship.
We all think about the past and wander what if, so you are not alone.
Look babe at the end of the day you ended it as you didn't think it was progressing so you were obviously after something different to that of your boyfriend. It will come one day it is just a case of waiting.
2006-07-22 18:43:36 · answer #5 · answered by ooooh look @ me, lol 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps the only reason u wonder about ure x is cause ure on your own, its easy to think a relationship was great after the event you hav probably been with crap blokes since him so hes up on a pedastal now. Just move on with ure life dont even think bout tryin to get back in contact with him its not fare on him and imagine how gutted you will be if you find out hes happily married with 2.4 children!
2006-07-24 13:54:53 · answer #6 · answered by cas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not going to like some of the responses what you get back to this but it will be good for you in along run. Do u still keep in touch with this ex partner?? if so i think u should cut all ties with him. if you have any photies of him either throw them away or lock them up in a wardrobe and wen u feel u have moved on then look at the an reminis the good times. u are clearly still in love with this guy, but its been a long ime now and you need to move on. for your on happiness. i bet you he has moved on it will not be easy but try to keep your mind off him. go out socialising with your m8s. just keep occupied and you'll soon move on. good luck:)
2006-07-26 11:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by logsy_babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have a boy friend now? Or does your ex has any girlfriend at the moment? Just let bygones be bygones, you are feeling it this way probably because you have missed the boat a few years back. Carry on with your life, if your ex has a girl friend, give them your blessing. I would presume that you do not love your ex, it is more like possession.
2006-07-23 03:34:27 · answer #8 · answered by simple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all that happens sometimes its really easy to turn love on but one of the hardest things in the world to turn off. Secondly you may feel that you are still in love but maybe what your seeking is some kind of closure if you could see him or just talk to him then you may be surprised at how you feel after about 20 min of his time hope this helps
2006-07-22 18:42:03 · answer #9 · answered by goodgirlads 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget him - if you dwell on him, it's not letting you to move on with your life. The relationship was over for a reason. If he hasn't pursued you, he is not interested. Get out there and date other people; you will fall in love again - love is not a once-in-a-lifetime deal. You're obsessed with something not worth being obsessed about, it's just not healthy.
2006-07-22 18:56:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been there.
He's your ex for a reason.
You probably don't have much going on in your life right now.
You have to ask yourself what it is you are missing and see if you can find that in another relationship or at least try.
Does he feel the same way? I doubt it-otherwise, you would still be together.
2006-07-23 14:41:04 · answer #11 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋