My son is approaching puberty. What is the best way to speak to him about the birds and the bees?

Answer 1

Think about what it was like when you were his age. I never thought about asking my folks about it so I was in the dark. I had a lot of misconceptions because my friends lied instead of saying they didn't know too.

If possible, you and your spouse should talk to him, together. Plan what you will say. Plan how you will answer his questions. Make sure you block off enough time to finish the conversation in one sitting. Talk to him in a quiet place where you won't be interrupted. Turn off the cell phone! Don't laugh at his questions, don't get mad and don't rush. He may have more questions later so be ready for them.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Honesty will be your best quality. But your husband should be the one to talk to your son. He can describe what your son will go through and the changes in his body. Don't forget about that. And don't do like my mom did and make jokes about the changes in his body. Be up front and let him know exactly like it is. Birds and Bees are like saying apes and snakes? Your point? Did you tell him he was from the stork? Your son probably already has a clue. But has questions. Be open and remember his emotions are fragile. He honestly wants to know. Don't feed him a line of lies. Be trustworthy so that he will trust you with other delicate questions. Also let dad be dad here. If he is in the picture. If not a male mentor of his like his coach could be a great help. You'll do fine.

Answer 3

What have you been doing all along?

Human sexuality is all around us and present in our children. Since he was a baby, you would have been telling the story of how he grew inside you, a little older you probably had a book which talked about egg and sperm, but not penis and vagina. When he was young and fascinated by his genitalia, you would name it, you would tell him that it is natural and feels good to touch oneself, but you do that in private, when people in his life or neighborhood had children, you would mention this casually and answer any questions he had, briefly, always seeing if your answer is what he's looking for, without giving too much.

As he's growing, a mom would have talked about her period naturally, explaining gradually over the years how it's related to reproduction. It's usually a few minutes here, a few minutes there, over the years. Your values should be clear all along - we don't think people should have sex before they are married because that risks having kids or having a girl abort your kid and it risks attaching way to young to people, etc.

There is a nice book called, "What's Happening to My Body for Boys." Very good and thorough. It can be good to leave out for him.

Answer 4

Take him outside and walk through the park. Make sure you kow your birds first though. My dad took me out and told me a finch was a cardinal. I knew better, he was so embarrased when I showed him in the nature book. When it comes to bees, try to show him a bumble bee. They don't have stingers. That is so cool.

Good luck. I think it is great parents are talking to their children about nature instead of letting them play video games all day. My dad and I have a great relationship because of that.

(Smile)

Answer 5

Get a book on the subject. Ask him what he knows about it and take it from there. It help to know how much he already knows. But honesty for his age is the way to handle it. Explain in a love way not a sex way I personally think is important.
good Luck

Answer 6

I've never heard of birds and bees but do not say that. That could be confusing

Answer 7

like this. listen son, some gurls and even guys are nasty. they will try to get u to do bad things. if a gurl drops her pants infront of u run away. keep ur thing in ur own pants. u can get things that a jax cant wash away. and u could get stuck with kids so dont have sex. wait till u live in ur own place.

Answer 8

well first explain 2 him wat is happenin to him (puberty) thentell him about girls (u know periods) then tell him about the stage;
once a boy is going through puberty like a female would at the ages 7 and up they have periods.explain wat a period is then tell him wat could happen if him and a female had a sexual contact. theres a 9 out of 10 chance that they could produce a child. be clear so that he understands.

Answer 9

use the real words and if he goes to public school believe me they mainly know what alot of the stuff is by the age of 9!! i learned it when i was in kindergarten and i go to pub. school!!

Answer 10

with my bro, my mom told him and shes a nurse so she showed him pictures withch are on the internet and she did show her own body so he could understand girls as well as guys cuz they deserve to no..... i wish you the best of luck