what is one good reason for having children?

Question

no, i'm not some anti-child activists,lol. i'm an 19-year-old aunt whose two twenty something sisters that have two children each. yeah they're cute, but they annoy me!! it has made me not want to have any kids. i've concluded there are only two reasons to even have kids:

1: to procreate more of your family(the reason for having a girl)
2: to keep the family name going for generations to come(the reason to have a boy)

instead of picking option 1 or 2 above it seems many people lie and say the following:

we wanted someone to love(isn't that why you are with your spouse?)
i want a big family (go to the olive garden and sit with another family)
it's the right time(yeah right)

all the of the other excuses that old people have come up with can easily be compensated with the following:

start a baseball card collection
adopting a pet
tending to your backyard garden
volunteering at a place on the weekends such as a camp or boy and girls club
watching wonder pets

lol, i love all of the answers,lol, good point debra...... pretty funny god.

Answer 1

The unconditional love and trust that an infant has for you is immeasurable! And Vice Versa of course!!!!!! I wouldn't give up either of my kids for anything!!!

Answer 2

I have to agree with you. I made a decision at age 21 not to have any. I am now in my 60s and have never changed my mind. I didn't want to go childless because of the annoyance of children, and in fact I really wanted to experience pregnancy and childbirth (no, I'm not crazy). There is serious depression and a lot of alcoholism in my family, and I didn't want to create more beings who had to struggle with such burdens. I figured if I got to my late 30s or early 40s and changed my mind, I would adopt a child. By then I had married a man who didn't want children, and I was frankly too tired to hold down a demanding job, be a good wife, and be a good mother as well. I have many friends who chose to remain childless for various reasons. You'll get plenty of criticism, but that doesn't mean you are wrong.

Answer 3

I think the only good reason to have a child is because you have a huge love for your future child and you must bring this child into existance to share this love. I think this love is a love of life itself and a longing for growth and depth. The challenge children pose - not to your patience, but to your self-concept, world view, and other tired, out-moded ideas - is probably a natural part of human development, pushing the members of a community to do their best.


At nineteen, you should still be nurturing yourself and it would be natural to find the very demanding NEEDS of young children a drain. By one's late 20s, if you don't have the time or interest or depth of character to give yourself over to the needs of another, you shouldn't have a child. However, some people may start to think that having someone to wipe their butts in nursing homes one day is reason enough to keep the species going.

Just make sure you plan so that you don't need to put an infant or toddler in day care. It ruins the parenting experience because it harms attachment. It also lowers the baby's intelligence and social skills and really interferes with its ability to receive its birthright - human milk on demand.

I think all you need is love, tho our son listened to us singing that and said, "well, you need groceries, too!"

Answer 4

Well honestly its not bad to not want kids. I'm actually not planning on having any myself for the same reason as you. If i ever reconsider children I plan to adopt because if you think about it (and i dont mean this in a bad way) but kids are like cats and dogs....over populated and not enough homes. Back to the subject.. One good reason to have atleast one kid is... you won't be alone. Well up until the point when they set out in search of their life. Yes, you have your parents (but for how long), you have your siblings (but they will soon have their own family). Of course you could get married, but whos to say that'll last. I know thats probably not a GOOD reason to have a kid, but hey, i tried right?

Answer 5

I want children because I really like kids. I am a teacher and am around them all the time. Some kids are really annoying and sometimes it makes you wonder if it is worth it but then there are so many other awesome kids too. It will probably be different when you have your own kids because you will be the one raising them. But it is ok if you decide not to have them and just be a really great aunt.

Answer 6

Well I see your point. It's a matter of how they are raised. But if you decide you don't want your own for whatever reason, there's no law saying you HAVE to.
When my daughter was born - it was just something my husband and I wanted. A child. I don't know why really. I never really thought about it. We just knew we did.
I know I had always dreamed of it. Since I was a kid.

If you don't want your own kid(s) that's up to you. There is no LAW one way or another.

Kids make you feel better when things go wrong. So you can try to make the world a better place.

My daughter means the world to me. I could never live without her.

Answer 7

I would like a child because just because I want the opportunity to love and raise a child. It has nothing to do with either of your reasons - I'm adopting so they aren't applicable. I have a career, I've been to college, I'm a wife and I would like to have a chance to be a mother.

(oh and before you tell me to get a pet... I've got 2 dogs and 2 cats....)

Answer 8

There is a unique and special joy to sharing the process of growing and developing with someone with whom you have a deep and daily bond.

Best wishes and God bless.

Answer 9

The only reason to have children is because you want them, and know you can be good to them.

If you don't want children, then you should honor that and not have any...don't let anyone "talk" you into changing your mind.

Answer 10

because honey would like one,would be soooome people's reason,personally i don't like discussing such issues publicly just to add a little mystyc