If your husband cheated on you (and you were aware of it), would you stay in your marriage for the security of your home and stuff, or would you leave and get a divorce? I know of many guys who cheat on their wives. I think it is awful! The wives just carry on as though nothing is happening? Don't they know? Can't they feel that their husbands are cheating? Do they stay for security? Help me understand why they continue to live with it.
2006-07-22 11:05:29 · 16 answers · asked by Author Al 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sometimes,it just isn't that easy.It's not always easy for a woman or anyone to get up and just leave.Sometimes, it is because the wife have been with the husband for so lone, is comfortable with, or other things.Sometimes, people believe in trying to make the marriage work because it is a marriage.Sometimes, the woman is scared to leave-scared of life without that person or for security as well.But you never know exactly why.I'm not married but my parents have been married to one another since they were 17 and 19, and they both have been through this problem.Why are they still together? The love and the time and because they are used to having one another around.
2006-07-22 11:12:09 · answer #1 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Many stay for the security and for many fear of the unknown is more intimidating than dealing with a cheater, not to mention some probably just don't care as long as he pays the bills and leaves them alone! Plus often times when there is a divorce the woman gets the kids and all the continued burdens they created together and he just gets to be single and do what he wants when he wants, you keep him around and at least he has to take some of the responsibility for what you created together. The best punishment would be for her to leave and let him take care of the kids and school and all the stuff that goes with being a parent while she gets to be single and free and play mommy every other weekend and call that parenting, but most women just won't do it. So some probably stay just so he doesn't get what he wants, why should he get to just forget it all and start over while she is stuck parenting alone 24 hours a day forever. If he was a perpetual cheater i might stay just to spite him and find myself a little something on the side too.
2006-07-22 11:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly some women care about their marriage and they try to work it out. If my husband cheated on me I would want a divorce but than I would think about it and try to save my marriage. Every guy says there not going to do it again but some do and some don't it's just the idea. You can feel if your husband is cheating because they accuse you of doing or if he acts differently lilke for example maybe ya'll have sex every other night and now all of a sudden ya'll only have sex twice a week than something is wrong with that picture. Someone continue to live with it because they feel they can't live without a man but I be damn. Some women have to learn how to be independent. Men want us to depend on them so when every we do decide to up and leave they say you can't live without me so don't ever let a man know you need him.
2006-07-22 11:10:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The game goes both ways.. My best friend, from high school, was married to a female that was openly cheating on him. He stayed to finish raising HER 2 daughters. Once the girls were out of school, she left him to be with the other man. The other man was also married and refused to break up with his wife.
I could not cheat or stand to be cheated on. I believe the vows should be respected or you should disolve the union.
2006-07-22 11:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by Munchie 69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it has something to do with being comfortable. If two people have been together for a long time, it's kinda hard to just walk away from the only thing you've ever known. I think women owe it to themselves to get out! All women deserve to have a faithful companion.
2006-07-22 11:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs.S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definitely this is a few thing that purely your spouse can answer for you. If she has a sturdy experience of humor and is not any longer the jealous form she could be effective with it. some people think of something is okay as long as its no longer in individual and does not get actual. i do no longer, if my husband did this i could sense harm and jealous with the aid of fact i think our connection isn't purely actual yet psychological and non secular as nicely. in case you enable your strategies wander to me this is in basic terms as undesirable for a relationship as being actual with somebody different than your spouse. speedy question: do you sense to blame? in case you replied sure perchance you need to tone it down somewhat once you're on line. Goodluck!
2016-10-08 05:13:52 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would leave...i kno sum women stay for the security of their children and i guess it makes sense sumtimes but i would leave. find sumone that can stay faithful to one person only. also i would deffinately leave if that person kept being unfaithful...if he wasnt home for his kids theres no point. because that would be the only reason someone has to stay for the kids but if they are playin with the kids lives then thats wen i would draw the line.
2006-07-22 11:10:46 · answer #7 · answered by moogleliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes they just can't face th fact, even though their husband is delliberatly decietfull, they don't wanna be homewreckers!!! Only wimpy women stay in a relsationship like that!!
2006-07-22 11:10:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i will never stay with it...thats awful and prideless, as u've said its all about security - most married women do not work which doesnt give them freedom, and no other choice but to stay. but i am very sure they r aware of everything, but dnt have the freedom to go away
2006-07-22 11:12:50 · answer #9 · answered by ~ Helin ~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump the Bum.
If he cheats now and you stay, he will continue to cheat.
Is that what you want?
What if he brings home a venereal decease, or even (GASP) AIDS.
When you sleep with a cheating spouse, you are also sleeping with whomever he cheated with and on and on and on.................
It is not worth it.
2006-07-22 11:15:36 · answer #10 · answered by Goldfinger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋