HELP, help,help?

Question

Me and my boyfriend had sex and he got me pregnant and he wants me 2 keep tha baby but i dont want any kids rite now. I dont kno if i should tell my parents or not im afraid wat they might say or do.

Hes 17 and im 14 but is it true that he can go 2 jail for havin sex with me ?

He kinda pressured me into havin sex wit him and im wondering is that rape or not?

but please give good advice on wat i shold do plz

AND im not givin my baby up for adoption

Answer 1

You won't have to give your baby up for adoption. The state will take it when you are so sick from complications from AIDS that you won't be able to care for it.

Answer 2

Both of you are still considered minors, way too young to have kids.

Physically, under normal circumstances, a body of a 14 year old woman is really NOT prepared to give birth. You have endangered your life and the life that you carry inside your womb.
You really should be contacting a good ob-gyne doctor should you decide to continue with the pregnancy.

Emotionally, your world still evolve on teenage things -crushes, date, ice cream, movies, clothing, appearance, friends and studies. Being a mother at a very young age faces you into a bigger responsibility and unless guided by your parents, you may find yourself getting desperate over a lot of things. You said you dont want any kids right now, then that answers that you are not ready yet.

I do not know the laws in your country, but usually, having sex with a minor can easily be considered as rape.

My advice to you, tell your parents. No matter how angry they can get, at least you have done something good this time, being honest. It is but natural for your parents to get surprised, and angry even, but they will decide what is best for you.

Lastly, try praying. Pray that our good Lord guide you to what is best.

And the next time your boyfriend pressures you to have sex, get some protection. Better yet, concentrate on other things and especially on your studies.

Good luck.

Answer 3

If you do not want any kids right now you should have never had sex in the first place.

You say he pressured you...did he put a gun to your head? If not then he did not pressure you...you could have easily said NO and when you say NO it means exactly what it means NO. You have to report rape at the time it happened. Yes he can go to jail. You kids just do not listen or learn.

Tell your parents. If you do not want the baby give it up for adoption or let your parents take custody of the child since you are way to young to have sex and have kids anyway.

This is just as much as your fault as it is the boy's.

Answer 4

Sweetheart PLEASE READ!!! Please take some advice and don't think I am just saying what I am about to cause I'm older. I am only 19 years old and I am 26 and 6 days pregnant I am almost seven months. A baby is a beautiful thing. Just like you my boyfriend who is 24 wanted me to keep it as well as myself and ooohh I am gonna have a baby. Now reality has kicked in and it's not that easy my baby is not even here yet and I think everyday about this life (god bless him) that I am bringing into the world need so much he needs Milk, Diapers, Clothes and so much more he needs everything cause that baby can't do nothing for himself so you have to understand that it's a big responsibility. Your only 14 sweetie and you cant even get a full time job yet you know??? you cant even depend on yourself you need your parents to survive just like a baby no disrespect at all. I know yes you might be scared to tell them I was too I was 18 and I live on my own pay my own bills BUT they have a right to know cause believe it when I say your parents will always be there your boyfriend that got you pregnant may not but they will. Now you and this baby are gonna become their responsibility due to the fact that your still a baby yourself so PLEASE talk to your parents you have to handle this like a mature person and think about being a mom it is so much harder then telling mom and dad!! Good Luck. and God Bless

Answer 5

The first issue is that you're too young to be having sex at all. This is one reason why. Never have sex unless you're ready to have a baby because they show up whether you were planning on it or not.

Second issue is that the boyfriend wants you to keep the baby, but he's not any more ready to take care of a child than you are. You are still a child yourself, sexually active or not.

Absolutely you need to tell your parents. They have every right to be upset, hurt, disappointed, angry, etc. You now bear the responsibility of listening to anything they have to say on the subject. You made a bad choice. They have every right to be upset. Your responsibility as a child who made a bad (and very serious) choice is to listen to them.

In most states, he can not go to jail for having sex with you because he is not an adult either. If you're afraid your parents will accuse him of rape and have him put in jail, you need to keep several things in mind. 1) he's still a minor too 2) he's old enough that he should NOT have been messing with a 14 year old girl 3) he also needs to accept responsibility for what he's done and he needs to face your parents like the man he thinks he is

As for whether he raped you or not, a little pressure like "Aw, c'mon, baby... it'll be really good...." is not rape unless you were saying "NO!!!" and he was proceeding without your permission. You need to ask yourself "How much was I saying NO to him and resisting?"

I will tell you that unless you're afraid that your parents will physically beat you for this... you need to tell them. They deserve to yell at this point. Honey, it will probably be at least 10 or 20 years before you understand the severity of what you've done here. And it will be about that long before you truly understand just how young 14 is.

Tell your parents. Do it as soon as possible so you will have the most time you can to make your decisions as a family. Beg them to help you if you have to. Your future and a child's life are at stake here. Whether you decide to keep the baby or not should be up to you and your parents. This boy doesn't need to be making the decisions. He's already shown himself to be a very poor decision-maker.

Your parents love you unconditionally. They may hate what you've done... but they love you. I guarantee it. Be ready to ask them to forgive you for what you've done. In their eyes, it will need forgiveness because it's hurt them and the one they love... which is you.

Answer 6

Hon I know you are scared but you have to tell your parents and NO he can not go to jail because he is not 18. In order for him to go to jail he must be 18 years of age or older so do not worry about that.

If you do not want the baby I suggest open adoption so this way you can see your baby and make sure the baby is doing okay.

Trust me hon you do not want to get an abortion because beleive me you will regret it and you never know what will happen in life and having an abortion can make it so you never get pregnant again.

Sit your parents down and talk to them about it and I wih you and your baby the best.

If you would like some support and help check out justmommies.com. They have a forum for teen mommies and teen pregnancy and the people thier are always helpful.

If you decide to become a member of the site my name on thier is DiamondsGlow and feel free to message me on thier anytime to talk

Answer 7

Calm down honey. It's rough being young and pregnant. Now, listen: if you think you were forced into sex, that's rape honey, especially at your age. Don't take any crap from him. TELL YOUR MOM! I know it's really difficult, but you are going to have to tell her eventually. Talk with her about how you feel and what happened. She will help you with iotions that best suit your situation. Your boyfriend cannot force you to keep your baby. That is your decision. Being open and honest with an adult is the best thing for you right now. Please tell your mom hun. It's very important. If things go really bad for any reason, go to your nearest Dept. of Human Services or Health Dept. They can help you too. Good luck honey!

Answer 8

first off you are way to young. this is why young kids shouldnt be having sex. Second yes tell your parents. I dont think he can go to jail seeing as you are 14 he is 17. he would have to be 18. you cant put him in jail for rape just cause he pressured you. You are the one who agreed to have se with him and if you had any smarts you would have been using protection. you better talk to your parents. if you feel you can not keep this baby talk with them

Answer 9

this happened to a girl at my school. she was 12 and the boy was 16. He got her pregnant, and wanted her to keep the baby. she didnt want kids right then and was afraid to tell her parents. so she told the counslers and teachers at school and they went with her to tell her parents, they made her get an abortion. In the scriptures, it says that an abortion is like murder. DO NOT GET AN ABORTION bcuz chances are, you won't be able to have kids and start a family later on. And the Lord says we need a family to get to heaven. I say get some one to go with you to tell your parents and dont get an abortion. but then you have to put your child up for adoption. you can go to an LDS ( mormon ) website and they have something where you can pick the family you want your child to go into. You get to keep your baby for about a week or 2 and then check out the family you are giving your child too. just please dont get an abortion.

Answer 10

Yes it is rape and he can go to jail. He is still a dumbass kid himself though but he emotionally manipulated you into doing it which is still just as wrong if not technically forced rape.

You can't get an abortion without your parents consent. Your parents are going to be there for you long after Mr Child Molestor is getting his $hit pushed in by his prison room mate so go to them and tell them you made a mistake and don't want to have this baby. You are too young. It will ruin your life.

Answer 11

How close is he to being 18?
As far as if it was rape or not, only you would know the answer to this question. Did you say No? Did you try to get him to stop?
So you took a pregnancy test and it turned out positive? If this is true than you need to talk to mom ASAP. She is not going to be thrilled with the news you are going to tell her but she is your mom and she will be there for you. You have a ruff road ahead of you, your going to need all the support you can get.

Good luck to you with however it turns out.