Is it normal for 12 year old girls to be pretending to be lesbians with their friends?

Question

My friends(talking about my friends who are girls)---not me---are always pretending to be lesbians and they kiss on the cheek and sometimes it gets to the extent of making out and other things that are just disturbing for me to think about...please answer

Answer 1

Being dusturbed about it is your answer. It is not right and you know it inside. I know it's hard to stand up for what you know is right, but you'll feel better and they will respect you if you do. I imagine you are not the only one who is uncomfortable. Hang in there--you've got good instincts (or good parents!)

Answer 2

It is natural and unnatural; at the same time. It all depends on how they were and are being taught sexually by there parents. At one time or another all woman do explore there curiosity. It used to be in college when there was more freedom but at such a young age they are exploring. If you don't want to go along with it then I suggest you follow your heart and don't. If your friends pressure into it then they really arn't true friends are they????. Only you know what is in your heart. Don't be afraid to try something tho just because society tells you it's wrong. If you think it is wrong because of the feelings you have then don't do it. But if it is because you were raised that it is a sin and you are going to hell because of it, I promise you that You will not go to hell for kissing a girl.

Answer 3

It is probably more an experiment with something they're curious about. What needs to happen is maybe the parents should see that this is a subject they need to talk about with their kids, to see what kind of questions and curiosities the girls have. They shouldn't be exerimenting with each other (same goes for messing around with GUYS, too, though) in place of talking about it. It all usually stems from a curiosity. As for it making you uncomfortable, try to express that. If it doesn't help, or if it makes you uncomfortable to talk about with them, then take yourself out of the situation. I know it isn't always easy, but you have to start young with what you do and do not want to have around you, ya know? Teach yourself to take care of yourself now, so it isn't so hard to do later...

Answer 4

I am not a doctor, but it sounds like experimental behaviors, which is typical for a younger crowd, kind of playing a game of spin the bottle. Sometimes this doesn't blossom into anything, but what you see could be an indicator of a lifestyle that hasn't been accepted and revealed. If it bothers you then don't be anywhere near it.

Answer 5

It's normal for girls that age to experiment. And it's normal for them to do things to shock people. This behavior qualifies on both counts. They could be doing this just to freak you out, so don't react. If you find it really disturbing, find other friends.

Or they could be lesbians.

Answer 6

Most are just playing around, but I must say that with everything that kids see on TV these days, it is difficult for them to know what is proper and what is not... just look at that band Taito(?) their videos make it look like it normal for girls to just be that way. I am not saying there is anything wrong with someone who wishes to be Gay, but at 12 it is up to parent to make sure that our kids know the difference between what they see in the media and the realities of life. I bet if you asks your friends privately, they may feel as you do, but are giving in to peer influences.
Just my thoughts on it... I hope it helps in some small way.
-R

Answer 7

It is totally normal to be doing this. The age of discovery is upon you. If you are not comfortable with seeing this stuff, excuse yourself. Perhaps your age of discovery will come later. But don't be worried about anything. It's totally normal. Whats not normal however is if they actually get naked and do these things. At that point it becomes discovery and they need to be aware of diseases that can be spread by these kind of actions.

Answer 8

ok I know that when I was 12 that is when girls start figuring out their bodies. guys don't normally catch up until about the age of 14 or 15. even then they are still annoyingly childish. :) i remember my friends were like that, but they all turned out straight. its just girls getting all filled with hormones haha

Answer 9

no it doesn't seem right or innocent - its possible they really are lesbians and use it as a cover up, or they have seen it somewhere and been influenced - just remember who you are - its ok for you to find it disturbing - dont take part in anything that you are not 100% sure you are comfortable with.

Answer 10

No, definately not. You friends have some serious issues that they need to talk about. If they keep that up, then try to find some new friends. Don't be mean to them, just try to hang out with a different crowd.