We been married for 2 years. He says he don't love me anymore like he use to. But he still wants us to work it out. We went away this weekend and he said he still felt the same. But he wants to wait on the divorce to see what happens between us. He tells me its over all the time and he still wants to be friends and do stuff together i want this to work so bad i am trying everything. Should i act like i just don't care anymore or should i keep on trying. I got a `13 month old son i got to be thinking about to. Please help me i love my husband so much I don't want to lose him.................
2006-07-22 10:06:47 · 9 answers · asked by Angie C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First...I am very sorry for you. My husband recently did the same thing. He came home one day saying "marriage isnt all it's cracked up to be". He too said he wanted to work on our marriage, then a month later he wanted a seperation. We were married for 1 1/2 years before our seperation. He even left our home that we just bought last September. From there, he filed for a divorce, all within a matter of months. I did everything I could to work on us, even suggested individual and marriage counseling. He went back and forth on what he wanted to do, kind of like your husband. I agree with the person who said check to see if there is another woman. I believed that there wasnt one in my husbands life but it is so obvious that at least at some point, there is/was. My hubbie did the "lets be friends, date and keep trying" lines too. What I have learned and I hope that you can too is, you can't make someone love you nor can you make someone be where they don't want to be. No matter how much you love him and your marriage, your husband has to love you and the marriage also. Just try everything you can to save your marriage and pray for God's guidance. If it doesnt work for you two you will feel real good (it will take a while to feel this way) to know that you tried everything that you could and it was just his selfishness and lies. Please try and ask him what's the problem, if you honestly work on the "problem" and he still doesn't want to be married, then that isn't the "problem". I hope my answer isn't too long and I hope I encouraged you rather than made you sadder. Also, please seek counseling, at least for you. This is going to be a real difficult time and you shouldn't hold your feelings in. You need to be ok for yourself and your child, he needs you most! God Bless you and your family!
2006-07-22 16:28:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
It looks as if no longer best you're now not in love, however you might be not interested for your husband. I am not judging you, i'm simply stating what I appeared to infer from your query. About your fears: 1) don't you believe you are hurting him by means of staying on this marriage? He would no longer say it, however i'm certain he feels it - he's a reside human being, no longer a wood doll. Such as you said, you failed to need to even take heed to his stupid studies. But he most likely desires aid every so often, like all of us do. So... You might be already hurting him. 2) Being by myself isn't so unhealthy. You might be already by myself, and you fake that you are now not. The only change is now given that you're married you wouldn't have an option of finding any person who that you could be truly pleased with.
2016-08-09 02:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by rothenburg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is very selfish of him to make you feel this way. Did this begin when the baby was born? If so, then maybe he just wants more attention from you.
Please look out that there is not another woman in the picture. Ask him and ask him to be honest about it.
What made him fall out of love with you all of a sudden? Can he answer that question. When did he start feeling this way.
If he really wants to try and work this out, then tell him to go to marriage counseling with you.
Good luck and stay strong. If he continues like this, then you need to start working on yourself. Lift your own spirits, do things that you like to do. Start going out with your girlfriends. Get a makeover, pedicure, manicure. Go to the gym. I know you have a baby, but if he's feeling like this, then he should have no problem watching the baby every so often. Work on it first though.
2006-07-22 10:13:25 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you have to make sure he is # 1 in your not friends do everything for him tell him you love him everyday and that he is
#1 IN YOUR LIFE AND YOU WANT HIM I HAVE BEEN MARRIED FOR 14 YEARS THE FIRST 3 ARE THE HAEDEST
2006-07-22 10:12:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You married a cruel idiot. As he has fallen out of love with you, he should leave. Make sure he does, and find someone who has a brain and a heart.
2006-07-22 11:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kitty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love yourself...first!
Learn to love him for as long as he has loved you and not one dam* minute more!
Move on to a bigger and better life without him!
If I were you, I'd sign my name on the dotted line to divorce his a**...today!
Loose that man and let him go!
2006-07-22 10:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is willing maybe a round with a marriage councilor would work.
2006-07-22 10:10:52 · answer #7 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
work hard on it
try and bring back that flame of passion u had
don't let it die out.
2006-07-22 10:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by D mac 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't beg him. Believe me you will find someone better and when you do he will be coming back to you and begging you to come back to him.
2006-07-22 10:24:03 · answer #9 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋