My boyfriend is Aquarius and he lie should i forgive him?

Question

My boyfriend of 4 motnhs lied to me at the begining of our relationship, I found out and confronted him about it recently . He said he was truly sorry and told me he would never lie to me again.. he doesnt want to lose me.. im not sure if to believe him, becuase if he loved me so much why did he lie? I told him lets stay friends but he doesnt want that.. its hard enough already becuase now our relationship is long distance we are both trying to finish college and have been making plans such as to start a future together..after finishing...but im not sure..I dont know what to do...i dont want to plan anything with him becuase im afraid he might lie to me again...please help ? By the way I am a Sagittarius, thank you.

I forgot to mention what he lied about...well its all over some friend he has that is a girl...well his ex-girlfriend...he told me that he didnt want to talk to her no more becuase she keep bringing up stuff from the past...understood, at least from my part...funny thing is even after he told me that.. he was still calling her .. not all the time but to see how she was doing.. like good-friends do ...trust me I spoke to her and she said that they were only friends...okay understood..seeing that shes married with 3 kids!!!...and lives in another state/ country ... anyways if there is nothing to hide and its no big deal ...why lie? I mean I know plenty of people that have female-male friendships , heck I have guy friends I talk to also and I dont lie about that to him he knows about it, I dont get why he lied to me.

Answer 1

Humans lie. Fact. Horoscopes. Fiction. For a start 4 months is far too early to be thinking about your future, especially as you are obviously still very young. No-one can promise they won't lie again because it's human nature. Just because he lied it doesn't mean he doesn't love you though. Stop worrying and enjoy each other for now. Who knows what the future holds? You may be one of those rare couples who have been together for eternity or your relationship may last another few months or years. Who knows? If you worry, you will cause friction between the both of you which will result in tears very soon. Sad but true. Lighten up and have fun! Men hate nothing more than women who whinge about the smallest things. He probably lied to impress you or for a reason he has no explanation for and it may have been spur of the moment. Please don't worry but I would say it would be foolish of you to think that your man or any future boyfriend would NEVER lie to you again whether big or small.

Answer 2

star signs don't matter.

Whether you should stay with him or not really depends on what he lied over. If it's just a little thing, then it really doesn't matter and there's no point letting something so small wreck your relationship. If it was only a small thing, maybe there were reasons why he lied to you - embarrassment, for example, or trying to protect you/your feelings. At the start of a relationship, people try to put their best side forward, which is more than likely why he lied. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Maybe try and see things from his point of view. No one is ever 100% honest with anyone. However, if the subject of the lie is big and means that you really can't trust him, then your relationship is probably not going to work. Without trust, you have no future (trust issues will only rear their ugly heads in the future), especially if your relationship is long-distance.

I doubt that this is about his lie, though, and is more about you feeling unhappy in your relationship.

I think 4 months is too early to be thinking about your future. Just take things as they come and take your time to get to know each other better. Don't put too much pressure on your relationship, just have fun!

Hope you find a solution.

Answer 3

My star sign is Aquarius and I don't lie. Believe me, your signs are irrelevant. if you really believe in all that then you need all the information on birth times and places and need to get a chart done, just knowing two people's star signs means nothing, really. However, the lie. You said he lied at the beginning of the relationship, a time when we are trying to present our best side to the person we are falling for. Since you don't say what he lied about, whether it was a big issue, or a minor detail which he later failed to correct, possibly for fear of losing you, which he seems to have done. Thing is, has he lied to you since? If not, then I would say it is forgiveable. You say much of what he wants and doesn't want. What about you? What do you want? What don't you want. From what you are saying, you do not seem certain that this relationship is for you. Take a while to really examine how you feel. If you want and value honesty, you must be prepared to be completely honest yourself, and that means being honest with yourself. Are you perhaps using the lie he told as an excuse to end the relationship? What other things about this relationship make you feel uncertain? What other things about him make you feel uncertain? If you feel you may have a future together, if he never lied to you again, then you should forgive him, but explain that you value honestly so much, that you cannot just go back to the way things were, and that he needs to regain your trust all over again. He may then appreciate what he has lost and work hard to get that side of things back again. Since you are both away at college, you don't need to make plans for the future together. Just enjoy the time you have now, both apart and together. Concentrate on your studies. If he asks about the future, say you hope you will have one, but that you do not feel that it is the right time to make those decisions. If you really cannot see a future with him, even if he didn't lie, then be honest with him and tell him why. What it is that makes you feel you may be incompatible together. I hope it works out for you. God Bless.

Answer 4

Right...

I'm not really sure all the Aquarius & Sagittarius stuff has anything to do with it. Fact is he lied, and at the beginning of a relationship, that's the worst time. Because then all your future time spent together is based upon that lie, however small it may have been. I have been in that same situation and the girl and myself are no longer together, haven't been for a LOOONG time, but I can't put it down to the trust issue at the start. Once you find out you've been lied to from the beginning I think it's very hard to move on from there. But it all depends on the individuals. Personally I'd say leave him to his own devices, but it all comes down to whether or not you can trust him, believe him, forgive him and move on together. It's not as if 4 months is really a long time either, that's the "getting to know you period". The fact that it's a long distance relationship and you have no way of knowing what exactly he is doing where ever he is, would worry me a little too. But I'm a suspicious, single, miserable, old git! :p

Just you do what feels right for you and believe what you want to believe, we can only offer advice, not dictate your choices in life. If I wanted to do that, I'd have got into politics!

Ohhh yeah and I'm a Virgo

Answer 5

I mean it dont matter why sign he is, once a liar always a liar and u said he lied in the beginning he is probably lying to u stil i mean u dont actually know if he lying to u or not.. and like i said when u lie u have to tell more lies to cover that lie and being with someone who cant be truthful is a hurtful thing.. dont set urself up for the heart break let him know that if he cant just keep it real and be honest no matter what it is dealing with then u cant be with him..... no one wants to be with someone who lies u cant trust them and then u have a hard time believing anything they say once they lie its like breaking a strong bond of trust and love and u shouldnt have to go thru that ............. then u said that yall relationship is long distance omg that puts the icing on the cake that makes the situation even more dense.. i mean having that type of relationship isnt easy u have to be able to trust that person.... lying only causes break ups and pain.... i would say leave him alone i mean its only been 4 months and he cant tell u the truth i mean u do deserve someone who is going to be real with you

Answer 6

Aquarius men will do virtually anything to get what they want in most cases. They, like any other man, can have the ability to lie to themselves and have themselves believe it.

The sad fact is that obviously have lost your trust in him and it is his fault. "Truly sorry" will very quickly become "I got away with it!" if you let him off lightly.

Personally, I would say, if the thing he lied about involves another woman in any way - dump him. In fact the only reason I would accept a lie like that is if it was totally unimportant, like saying he didn't have sugar in his coffee when he actually had two.

And you should slow down. A 4 month long distance relationship is similar to a 2 week relationship locally. So in those 2 weeks he has lied to you and already managed to make you distrust him.

Do you want your future to be one where you can't trust the person that you should be closest to?

Answer 7

i was with a guy who lied at the start of our relationship and kept the lie up for 2 yrs before i found out. i forgave him and it turned out he had lied about almost everything in our relationship.

depending on how sever the lie is and if u trust him all depends if u should forgive and forget. if the lie was about something that doesnt have anything to do with ur relationship and u believe him that he is honest then do forgive him.

Answer 8

He lied...there is always a chance he will lie again. If you truly believe that there is a chance that he will not be truthful to you, then you know what, you don't have time to waste on someone who lies and hurts you. BUT if in your heart you know that you can trust him again and not always have a feeling of betrayal, then I think you should give him another chance. Just follow your heart.

Answer 9

At the start of the relationship I'm In I lied also to my gf. And she found out later and confrunted me. But she forgived me...and I learned that it's ok to be honest and I never lied to her again. I have been with her for over two years now.
So you should probably forgive him :)

Answer 10

Forget the star signs.

The only important thing is whether you believe him. Its also quite important how big an issue he lied over.

If you have lost your trust and respect in him, then your relationship could be rocky from now on.