Do you thinks as a spouse, that you have the right to tell your family and/or friends something that your other half has told you in confidence that is private and personal?
2006-07-22 09:49:25 · 32 answers · asked by Married Male 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Your marriage comes before your family and friends. If your spouse told you something in confidence, it is a betrayal to share that information with others. If I found out my husband shared my confidences with his family and friends, I'd have serious problems trusting him again. It would be different if it were a matter of life and death, or if it involved a crime.
2006-07-22 09:55:33 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One doesn't have to be married to answer this question....you do NOT have a right to share what is said to you in confidence by your spouse or anyone else, unless the person is thinking about harming onesself or others. If I found that I have shared something in confidence with someone and it was told to another, I would NEVER share anything else because that person could not be trusted.
2006-07-22 10:02:54 · answer #2 · answered by D L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to keep the trust between the two. If your other half trusts you enough to tell you something that is private and personal, then it should stay there. If you cannot trust your spouse, then who can you trust? Keep quiet, you should feel proud that your spouse has that kind of trust in you.
2006-07-22 09:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right of speech but should you exercise your right or discretion? No you should not tell your family what is told to you in private and confidence. Learn to keep secrets unless it is going to be life threatening.
2006-07-22 09:58:18 · answer #4 · answered by StraightDrive 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your spouse has told you something in confidence, you should respect that. You may want him/her to keep a confidence for you too.
2006-07-22 09:54:41 · answer #5 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on what was told to you. If it is something that would upset the other person by telling it then NO some things are only meant to be between a husband and wife.
2006-07-22 09:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by daydreambeliever0000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends how personal if it is really personal then i think it should be kept between just the two of you and if the other person has asked you not to tell anyone ou should respect their wishes after all relationships are built on trust and if they found out you had told the trust would no longer be there and you could end up regreating tellin anyone xx
2006-07-22 09:55:14 · answer #7 · answered by dawnie u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only three things will decide (objectively).....
The subject matter, its importance, consequence of divulging;
The mental state of the person telling it !
and
Our own mind set regarding the ability to safeguard a secret (some people are able to remain in a balanced state only if they do not hold any secrets(!), and this ought to be borne in mind by the other half !
2006-07-23 00:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
absolutely not. Your spouse is your mate and things need to be kept in confidence if that is how they were meant to be. Why do you feel you need to tell????
2006-07-22 09:53:09 · answer #9 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It is none of their business and will probably get back to your spouse. Learn to keep a secret and be trustworthy.
2006-07-22 09:54:20 · answer #10 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋