Ok, In sixth grade, we have to go to P.e And after pe we go take SHOWERS with girls and guys have to take showers with guys too.
Is it normal for me to feel this way!??
I mean Im a little chubby, I have bigger bloobs than every girl in the sixth grade, and ETC!
I mean I already talked to mrs.Bower and she said suck it up.
But for the last few days I've been thinking about it I've been feeling like Im gonna have a heartattack! and like throw up.
I cant calm down!
2006-07-22 09:45:36 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Close the shower curtin and wear a towl until ur in the bathroom
2006-07-22 13:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by tsoddy2013 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Ugh! I remember that too..I hated PE for that very reason...so I can totally relate.
There are a couple of things you can do-
1) you can tell your parents and the principal that you are uncomfortable being naked around other people (this is totally natural.) They will try to come up with a solution. (maybe showering a little later or earlier than the other girls or a shower curtain or a bathing suit you can wash around...)
This will probably draw more attention to you than you might be comfortable with. The other kids could pick on you about being too shy...
or
2) You can pretend it doesn't bother you. If you act just like everyone else when you shower, the other girls will follow your lead. If anyone makes a comment about your body, if you act as it you are okay with it, they don't have anything to use against you.
In order to make that work, you really have to grin and bear it. Its really hard..I remember that very clearly...but if you act as if you are okay with yourself...other people believe you are okay too.
If you give it a try and act as if its the most natural thing in the world, no one will know you are uncomfortable. Girls are sometimes mean..but they can't read minds. They dont know you arent comfortable about something unless you tell them.
2006-07-22 10:08:18 · answer #2 · answered by luckybluebunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
My daughter is your age and she told me she felt the same way, I will tell you the same thing I told her.
1. Those are mean girls that you are in school with. They will make you feel like you want to crawl in a box and hide. This however, is not the solution. The girls that say those type of things are B&%$#@# .
2. Please remember girls and boys are brutal at this age till about 17. This is just a part of life that is uncompfortable, and not fun. I was teased when I was a kid because I was smaller than every other boy in class and most every boy in all the schools I went to. It sucks just remember to smile and do your best in school and you will do ok.
3. This is also true I had the same problem and feeling when I took a shower in Gym/PE class. I had a same problem because I was little, something else was little then too and other boys used to tease me about it. It sucked and I had a hard time with it as well.
4. If you want to chat some more about this my e-mail is drum4u_98@yahoo.com.
Good Luck
dr_rob !
2006-07-22 09:59:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that this is such a difficult experience.
Your anxiety will start to show and then you will draw attention to yourself. Best to shower quicky and get dressed.
This is part of life.....and thousand even millions of young women have gone through the same thing. Eventually, when everyone grows up you will probably be envied for your figure.
Hold your head up and whether u feel it or not don't let them see you suffer.
Most of the girls are so busy thinking about other things to notice you.
When you feel so nervous- take some slow deep breaths and turn your focus to something else.
Fake your confidence until you are actually confident.
Look forward to the years when you will have a hot figure & the memories of 6 grade will fade.
Start taking good care of your body now.
Remember you are going through an awkward phase with your body, but someday those big boobs and curves will be an advantage for you.
Be strong-
2006-07-22 09:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This brought back so many memories. I had the exact same problem. Tell your mom tell the principal in a letter if your too shy. Keep telling people until they figure out a better solution than "suck it up". That was really mean of her. Tell them you feel like your having a panic attack, you sound like it and that is enough of a buzzword anymore that it should get some attention. In the meantime be early or very slow and the crowd will thin out and try to get in the corner. We're all cheering for you inside ourselves because you will outshine the others and I bet you will be more kind and understanding for all this aweful stuff you have to go through now. Good luck and be brave!
2006-07-22 10:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by Laura B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with your parents let them know how you feel. If you feel you can't talk to them, try, it might be better than you think. You may be able to be excused for a bit until you can work out how you're feeling. Taking a shower around other girls in school can be embarrasing especially if some of the girls are teasing you. Some girls will tease because it helps get attention off of them and on to you. Try taking a larger towel like a bath sheet or beach towel this covers more and is easier to wrap around you. It's ok to be conservative about your body. Take a deep breath Honey you'll get through this!
2006-07-22 09:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by caninesuds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I really don't thing anyone in the sixth grade could possibly be comfortable when placed in that position. I'm in my thirty's and I can guarantee you even now I would be completely freaked out if I had to walk into a community shower with a bunch of strangers to bathe. Maybe you should talk with your parents, guidance counselor, or maybe even your coach and see if there's some alternative. In this day of "sue crazy" people things can generally get worked out if you bring it to someones attention. Good Luck.
2006-07-22 09:53:40 · answer #7 · answered by tripping_00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is such a normal reaction. If the other girls would open up and talk about it I bet you would find out way more than half would say they feel the same way. You are going to look back on this one day and think..."what was the big deal?". Think about this...the other girls don't know that your embarrassed unless you show it...I would just take my quick shower and act as if I didn't care what they thought....it will get easier.
2006-07-22 09:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Sassafrass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable, talk to your parents about it. Maybe they can help the situation. But it is natural to feel uncomfortable. I had the same problem for for the opposite reason. All the other girls developed before me and I thought there was something wrong with me. But I caught up. We can't all be the same. You never know, the other girls might be a little jealous of you.
2006-07-22 10:10:10 · answer #9 · answered by shirley_corsini 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal when i was in sixth grade i was a 40D cup and a 42DDD by the time i was 16 so i know how u feel and your teacher should not tell u to suck it up u should talk to a school counselor or your parents about this. You do have a right to privacy if u feel that uncomfortable.
2006-07-22 09:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by tang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Def have your parents talk to the teacher. What in the world could you possibly be doing in gym to have to take a shower?
2006-07-22 09:49:56 · answer #11 · answered by q-n-a caka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋