I have a decision to make?

Question

Am happy living in Glasgow but having a job and career is important to me and I can only find employment in what I've trained in overseas. Have to decide whether I have friends and family around me and be unemployed or go to the other side of the world and have a job but have to start again. I don't have a boyfriend or anything apart from the above to keep me back but still can't decide, would appreciate some intelligent answers please.

Since you are all asking I trained as a doctor. General public is not aware of the increasing unemployment in doctors of my grade.

Answer 1

Weigh the Pros & Cons make a list of each, see which one comes out in favor of you. it is a long way home.

Answer 2

The job situation is poor in this area for doctors. A little birdie told me that if certain things happen in the next month or so then you may have more opportunities but you obviously can't depend on this. I don't know how long it takes to set this kind of move up but I suppose it would be sensible to put the wheels in motion right now as having something to aim for/look forward to could make any impending stress more bearable. Most people are saying go and come back if it's no good and that is probably what I would say to so long as that is not going to effect your long term carrer aspirations as you mentioned career is important. If you have gone abroad(?for a second stint) is that going to harm your portfolio or will the current job situation be taken into account. Only you can say how the distance will hurt family and friends as you know the dynamics and frequency of seeing them. Being an optimist I am always going to say that things will work out for you and that you will get an outcome that will make life good. Wishing you all the very best.........

Answer 3

You have trained as a Dr. Ask yourself, the world is a smaller place and you can keep in touch much easier, better to be a working Dr. than an unemployed one, after all why did you become a Dr?
New horizons and new challenges, familial ties are strong but as i say you can keep in touch, think of what you can accomplish and experience, if you don't like it you can always come back, a gift of healing should be used, go for it!
You may regret it later if you don't, and depending on where abroad you go, sure, you'll miss glasgow, friends and family, but opportunities are few these days, best wishes and luck no matter what your choice.

Answer 4

its quite simple - you are imagining that if u go abroad to work you will never see family and friends again. Panic thinking. If you apply for an overseas job, it takes some time to process all the visa paperwork, and during this time, you and your people will be adjusting to any potential move. You dont apply for a job and move to saudi arabia tomorrow without any notice. Nor do you have to emigrate. You can easily take a job for 6 months or a year depending on visa etc to gain experience, save your cash, come back and stay unemployed for a while (lol) to visit family. Emmigration is a slow and gradual process that as you gain confidence in working and living abroad you may decide is what you want long term.
In other words apply for the jobs that suit your level of education and life experience - give it a go as nothing is permanent unless you want it to be. You will make more friends, and your existing friends will no doubt welcome the tales you will tell of your experiences and adventures overseas.

Answer 5

Clearly your friends and more importantly your family are important too you. You have to decide if your chosen career is important too you. It depends how far you have to go overseas, but look at it this way, if it is a good job (and I suspect it may be if you will be overseas) and it isn't too far away, you could always fly home Friday night and back to work Sunday night. It shouldn't be too expensive and Glasgow airport has good links. These days there are also many ways to contact home - phone, email, webcams so it shouldn't be too bad. Surely, your friends and family would understand, and if you are as important to them as they are too you then there really should be no problem. Hope this helps!

Answer 6

I sympathise. Making decisions is really difficult, and making big decisions like this even more so.

I can say that if it were me, I would take a chance and go, on the basis that I could always come back if it didn't work out and I wouldn't have lost anything. But if I stayed and never took the chance, I would never know what I might be missing out on.

I expect that most people will tell you the same thing. It's better to try and fail, than fail by never trying.

Then again, the best advice I've got is: don't make any important life decisions based on what people tell you on websites like this!

Answer 7

Quote: "Am happy living in Glasgow but having a job and career is important to me and I can only find employment in what I've trained in overseas."

It sounds like you've made up your mind, but maybe you just don't know how to come out with it.... I mean, yeah! It's a huge step!!! Now all you can do is become as peaceful with it as you can before it happens so later you don't do any second-guessing or have any regrets that have no place in your life. =)

Answer 8

I can't imagine how difficult that must be. But if you are sure you couldn't get the job you want where you are, you would be better off going overseas. At least then you would have a job. You don;t say what kind of job you want but if it's a good one, well paid and everything, you can always come back and visit your friends. I would say, go for it. Save up some cash and if you don't like it, you will at least have had the experience and you can come back in a couple of years to look for something closer to home.

Answer 9

With modern aviation travel, even from distant places, home is only a day away if you have the finances to pay for the fares. Unfortunately, like the Irish, the Scots have always had to travel afar to make their fortune. I did it forty five years ago and although Ireland is much closer, I still did not regret it for one moment. Of course I was homesick for the first year or so, but soon found some beautiful places in the countryside down here in London. I would suggest that you have to travel, make a fortune and in time return. It appears to be the only sensible decision you can make. Whatever you decide, I wish you well, God bless and take care.................

Answer 10

I had the same decision to make a few years ago, and I decided to go for the move. It was the right decision for me.

If your friends are good and true friends, as most of mine are, it will make no difference where you are, and with chat, email and video-calling these days, keeping in touch has never been easier.

I'm sure if you asked your family and friends they would say go for it.

Also, people are so used to travelling now, I'm sure a plane journey would not put people off from visiting you and even making it into a holiday - think of all the fun you could have!!

Answer 11

I think that working over seas is the opportunity of a lifetime. Not many people get the chance to be paid to move across the world. Most people need to pay a lot of money instead. If it's a matter of family, like you say, i would go for it. Life is made of risks, and i am sure you will meet a close group of friends where you are headed. If it doesn't work, what will you be losing? It's not like you cant move back if you don't like it. I would say go for it, or you may regret letting others hold you back from experiencing life.