she is very controling adn if she doesnt get her way she gets mad you cant tell her shes wrong or she will yelll and if i yell back in a while she acts like nothing happened. what should i start telling her so she doesnt get mad what should i say?
2006-07-22 09:00:40 · 18 answers · asked by Sami ☮<3 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You should say nothing. You should take action. . . .like walk away until she gets the message.
2006-07-22 09:02:11 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't yell back. That only fans the fire...you want to extinguish it.
Try to stay a little bit away when she blows up at you. But try to bring it up and ask why in a very calm voice. Make a best-friend pact: that you'll both listen to eachother when deciding something that involves the other friend.
Don't ever tell her she's wrong, because that will separate you two even more. Try to see her point of view. Don't spoil her as much, and be VERY appreciative when she gives you something or does something she wouldn't normally want to do.
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2006-07-22 16:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by LizElf17 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your best friend? Is this something that's come up lately or has this been going on from the beginning? If it's just started happening then you may want to figure out why....if it's been going on since the beginning then I'd be looking to put some distance between the two of us.
A friend is a reflection of ourselves; they prop us up when we're down, they support us, they celebrate with us: your accomplishments are their accomplishments.
You may want to rethink this whole friendship if this has been going on for quite sometime. You are your own person and no one should expect to have that kind of control over you (and that goes double for boyfriends!)
2006-07-22 16:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by baciandrio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, words sometimes really do not work. if you cannot make her listen to you, you can either try doing something like "walking away for a while" or you stop listenning!
it is hard to handle situations like this when it is your best friend you are talking about - try softly. may be you can try chaging the approach you are using while telling her how things are.
you can also pretend to neglect her for a while. this will probably help her to come back to senses. you can expect her to come to you and demand why are being mean! you can try explaining things to her then .. all the best! :)
2006-07-22 16:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Mirage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you do, be respectful and gentle. She's probably insecure about herself and finds the fact that she has control over something comforting.
But if she doesn't drop the act, then you'll have to drop her.
Hope I was of some help.
2006-07-22 16:06:32 · answer #5 · answered by wwk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time she does get mad, just walk off and tell her when she grows up you will talk to her. Then tell her how much you love her.
2006-07-22 16:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by ob10830 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, confront her...tell her how u feel
i mean wat's the point of saying she's ur best friend if u can't talk to her openly? a best friend is like u but in a different body
if she doesn't respond then keep her as a friend if u want to but not as a BEST friend
2006-07-22 16:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by ChEkNa . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay in a calm voice and let her know that these immature actions are going to eventually push you two apart if she cant just let you know whats upsetting her in a calm way. also, if she cant stand not getting her own way, life is on its way to hit her in the @ss so stand back...theres nothing you can do for that one.
2006-07-22 16:05:56 · answer #8 · answered by mello83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be more of a friend and tell her this upsets you when she acts this way. If she does not change she is not worth being a friend.
2006-07-22 16:03:44 · answer #9 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she can't handle the truth then forget about her. If she's that controlling, then get better friends that will treat you with respect.
2006-07-22 16:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by gwen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋