My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 yrs Is he ever going to ask me to marry him?

Question

We live together with my two small children he is not the biological father. We have lived together ever since we met for the first year he travelled a lot because of his job so he was only here on weekends. But the last year he has been here everyday and we are very much in love. Is it true why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? Or does this just require more time because of the complicated situation. He is 5 years younger and has no kids and i am unable to have more because of ovarian cancer that was beyond my control. Could he be just waiting for something better?

Answer 1

MAYBE HE IS JUST NOT READY. AS LONG AS HE TAKES CARE OF HOME AND YOU DO NOT HAVE ANY DRAMA COMMING FROM THE OUTSIDE, THEN I FEEL YOU SHOULD BE PATIENT. DO NOT RUSH IT OR YOU MIGHT PUSH HIM AWAY. IT IS UNFORTUNATE THAT YOU HAVE SUCH A MEDICAL CONDITION,BUT THAT DOES NOT MEAN YOU TWO CANT ENJOY BEING PARENTS TO THE TWO CHILDREN YOU HAVE. GOOD LUCK. GOD BLESS

Answer 2

NO i don't think that he is waiting for someone better because it takes some people a longer time to know what they want out of the relationship, most of us don't know what we want when we are in a relationship that is how we end up letting a good partner go by either scaring them away or pushing them away, so if you love him that much you can wait a little longer and see what happens because some guys are scared of the word marriage beacuse they think that they would not be able to stay commited to their partner and many other reasons i can't think of, so just give him a little time he will come around or if your not patient enough try bringing up the idea of marriage to him but try make it sound like one of your friends is having the problem when it is really you that is?

Answer 3

My fiance and I have known eachother for 4 years. I have a 10yr old, he has a 3 yr old. First, every situation is different. You not being able to have any more children should have no bearing on weather he asks you to marry him or not. You need to know that he loves you AND your children regardless of their biological connection. My son and his son know that they are loved equally by both of us, we talked a long time ago about it though and we both firmly believe that you do not have to be the biological parent of a child to love them just the same.
My fiance and I were together for 9 months before moving in together, we have lived together for almost 2 years now. He finally asked me to marry him a couple months ago.

I think you need to just take a look at your situation and determine what is best for you AND your kids. If he is the one, just be patient and don't push. If you have doubt in your mind now, then take a good long hard look at everything (it's hard to put the love aside and see things how they are).

Good luck

Answer 4

Maybe. There is an 85%+ divorce rates for couples who live together before marriage for exactly that reason. "why buy the cow..." It tends to demean the value of marriage because you are already living like it. It makes marriage no more than a piece of paper and a ceremony. TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT OR YOU WILL NEVER KNOW

Answer 5

sorry to hear of the cancer.....2 years is nothing in the book of life.....I've known my fiance since I was 13.....we were together and split up and about 5 years ago we got back together....been together every day since day 1....3 months into it I asked her to marry me....we have 1 child....and we have been engaged for 4 years and 6 months.....don't rush it its bound to happen eventually and if you 2 love each other as much as you make it seem to be then you will have no problem.....hope its works the way you want it too

Answer 6

It is true why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free and also you are carrying baggage (two kids). You should know better if he is willing to accept your kids too. Why rush things with him, let him make up his mind, maybe this is not for him, and he is enjoying the free milk..............

Answer 7

There is not any easy answer to your situation as well as that of your boy friend. As you wrote he is five years younger than you. I feel that despite you mention love if you can't have kids as a result of ovarian cancer and he wants kids.

That is a problem as a lot of guys will not feel right in raising some one else kids as theirs. I for sure don't want to raise any one else kids as mine, as a lot of them once they are older will say you not their father and they can as well ruin relationships and even bring down a marriage.

Which ever decision that comes out of your relationship with him. You can't blame him for wanting some one else as if he wants kids, that will always be a problem. What is sad is that your feelings as well as that of your Kids are in the crossfire, if you two can't come to some solution.

Which ever choice you two choose there are children involve despite the fact they are not his, and the sooner the problem is sorted out the better. If he decides to find some one better you can't blame him for that, as you can't give him kids.

Some times we have to put ourselves in people's shoes. Say you were in a relationship with some guy that have kids from a previous relationship and for some reason he can't give you kids. Would you stick around him if you desire to have a child of your own from some one else ?

Some times we use the word ( Love ) too loosely as it also means that some times you have to let some one go. As in your case for him to father a child with some one that can give him that gift. You are lucky to have yours whats about him as he too have feelings. Love is a complex word don't let the fact it has four letters dupe you.

Answer 8

u dont mneed to be in a hurry is better so then both of you will know better then later when he ask about married both of u are ready for everything.and u know to who u can give ur love life and everything.be patient only is will come the time is happen what u want.

Answer 9

Females of yahoo answers let this be a lesson to you: Never move in with your boyfriend. When you get married you are making a commitment before God and society. When you shack up - you are basically playing house. I know for some odd reason it is wrong to judge in this day and age but you really screwed up your life.

in answer to your question - he will not ask you to marry him.

Answer 10

wait dont rush it! i mean if hes not going anywhere are you? But ive seen many times peolpe together for 7 years then they get married and they fight all the time marrige changes things and alll it is is a title if you think about it dont rush it if it happens it happens if it dosnt then your still together(never take that for granted) good luck!