I'm 34 weeks pregnant with a baby girl. My husband and I couldn't be more thrilled. I'm on Yahoo! Answers a lot getting advice from other moms and dads (which is very helpful, thank you). But, i'm seriously considering stopping, and here's why.
There are so many young girls on here who are obsessed with boys and that it is terrifying me! There is a "could i be pregnant" question from some 13 year old like every 5 minutes, it seems. Thank God my husband doesn't come on here...he'd have a heart attack just knowing what these girls are up to!
This scares me so much to think young girls are acting like this!! All I can think of is my daughter and the constant question in my mind is, "OMG..what if she turns out like these girls?!"
Do their parents not take their jobs as parents seriously? Or is their a very serious epidemic of sex-crazed girls in our society today? Or am I just over-reacting to the immature comments of young teens? What do you think?
2006-07-22 08:35:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I just wanted to clarify...I don't think asking "could i be pregnant" is immature. I just can't believe these young girls are having sex and getting themselves into trouble at such a young age. (sorry, just wanted to be clear).
2006-07-22 08:40:48 · update #1
If you read above, you will see that I did not say ALL teen girls are like this.
2006-07-22 23:56:53 · update #2
I agree with you 100%. I am mortified how girls act these days. They absolutely have no respect for themselves. Unfortunately, many don't realize that a baby is not the worse thing that can come from unprotected teen sex. HIV/AID is growing RAPIDLY in the 13-24 age group. I was just reading statistics on the CDC web site, and it is estimated that 24% of sexually active teens in the US alone may have HIV and don't even know it. There is so much promiscuity that it is being spread like wild fire. Even those who think they are having "safe sex" are at risk. Condoms break, and/or slip off. It's a real tragedy.
2006-07-22 08:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by mslorikoch 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I gave a birth two month ago with baby boy, and was thinking a lot how I'm going to teach him to be right person and was getting scared every time when i thought what will be when he will be 13 or 16 years old. But now im calm cause temper and nurture of kid depends on family behavior (i'm happily married woman). But a lot of parents, because of too much love to their kids forget about kid's discipline. These days society is too much sex-opened, kids begin to have sex very early, and many parents just don't notice such things, also too much freedom spoils them a lot. Just be a good mum and try to be patient and attentive to your daughter and she will grow up a good person.
2006-07-22 08:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by ch_zana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all girls are like that, i am a 15 year old girl and i first asked a question about how i deal with my parents who are always in my business even though i am doing nothing wrong, and i agree, it is disgusting how some parents dont take parenting seriously but a lot of the sex stuff if peer pressure. I mean, i have this friend who is a girl and she is 14 and she acts like a total slut and her parents encourage it! Just remember, not all girls are like that, were you? And i know my questions may make it look like i am obsessed with guys but im not, i just get along better with guys, perfectly normal.
Congrats on your baby girl
2006-07-22 09:49:40 · answer #3 · answered by Bryn H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't think many parents take their job and responsibilities as parents as seriously anymore. I think you've got many dual career couples, with their kids coming home from school at 3:30, but mom or dad's not due home until 6 or so. The kids can't be involved in as many after school activities because no one can get them there, so they're stuck at home with "nothing" to do. I'm not saying that if both mom and dad work outside the home the kids are doomed, but it sure sets up a problem as they hit those teen years.
I think your solution is to start teaching your children at an early age your values for sexual relations. For our family, I've taught my children that it's best to leave sex within the confines of a marriage. Watch the media, it's FILLED with more sexual situations than ever before! You've just got to be a vigilant parent, constantly aware of what your kids are doing, who they're with, and where they're at. Set rules, and enforce them. I'm not saying that your kids won't rebel and go against your rules and you still be dealing with a tragedy, but if you don't set the rules and enforce them, you're almost setting it up for one to happen.
Good luck, you'll be a great mom! You're concerned about it, and you'll take steps to prevent it from happening in your family.
2006-07-22 09:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The very fact you are aware and don't want this for your daughter means that it wont happen.
My partner didn't get pregnant until she was with me and in her 20s and a graduate.
Infact, most of the moms I know are professional people in their 20s and 30s.
The person who says that this is a problem for all backgrounds is wrong. The birth rate for middle to high income families is dropping alarmingly fast, whilst those on welfare are having more kids at a younger age.
Don't worry, you are both going to be great parents, I can tell
2006-07-22 08:49:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations! umm i think its true i agree i mean im 13 but seriously the things people ask. i mean its not as surprising to me just because at school people ask and talk about the same kinds of things. but doing those things at 13 wow. im gonna wait until im married for anything that could get me pregnant. my parents take these things seriously but a LOT of parents do NOT so if you have this attitude right now i think you will be a responsible parent in making sure that your children know what you want them to know or whatever. also remember this is the whole planet asking these things too so ya thats a lot of ppl but anyways thats my opinion. = ) very good point
2006-07-22 08:43:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea there are a lot of crazy pre teens out here and not just on yahoo answers but on myspace and well, everywhere! i'm 20 and when i was 13 i don't even remember being that sex crazed....it gets worse and worse and i noticed they become sluttier and sluttier younger and younger as the years go by. I guess cuz parents are working more these days....how sad :(
2006-07-22 08:41:01 · answer #7 · answered by chica™ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunatly, it's sad...Your daughter wont turn out like that if when she is old enough you shove the facts down her throught. My mother is such a strong woman, she raised me to respect my parents so when she tells me not to do something as big as that...i dont. I took it on my own time to find out the facts about sex...seeing 3 of my friends get pregnant helped too. I'm 16, choose not to have sex...the youngans that do scare me as well.
needless to say that's no reason to stop comeing onto yahoo answers. =) Congratz on your new addition. you seem to have a good head on yoru shoulders, your daughter will tunr out just fine.
2006-07-22 09:04:20 · answer #8 · answered by Miss. Advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. The ones that are really disturbing are the I'm 12 or 13 and I want to get pregnant questions. It's almost like the new cool thing is to be pregnant at 12-14ish or atleast want to be.
2006-07-22 08:40:33 · answer #9 · answered by Jason 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are girls from ALL over the nation and ALL different backgrounds. Unfortunatly much of our youth is this way. You should have nothing to worry about if you raise your daughter in a structured loving lifestyle. These girls are missing either one or both of those things.
Anyways, i completely agree with you. It's very sad.
2006-07-22 08:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by yello_flower 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋