ok, i'm 17 yrs olds, i'm with a guy (and i have his child). we've been 2gether for 2 1/2 yrs. he lives about 18 miles away, and for the last week or so, he has been making up excuse for y he can't come see me and his son like.. he couldnt get his fathers car (yes, he's 20 & doesnt have a car of his own, or a job at that), & the day after that he was sick, the next day he want to the hospital, & then, he finally got his dads car and he was feeling better, he drove his dad to work, he called me and told me that he would be at my house at 3, well 4 o'clock comes and he still isnt there, so i called and he said, he went home, got something to eat then the car wouldnt start. he is leaving for FL aug 2, and he is gonna be there for 2 months, & i'd think he would want to see his son a lil b4 he goes...
do u think the excuses are really true or are they just lies, what do u think he is doing if they are lies, & what should i do about me & him (should i stay with him, break up with him)? HELP!
2006-07-22 08:35:01 · 6 answers · asked by XxxManDiiExxX 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are feeling that insecure about the guy and that unsure after you have been together for that long and had a child together and so on and so forth, then something is most definately wrong. I would think that you would trust him better than that and take him for his word.
My suggestion to you is to be cautious. Do you feel comfortable enough to confirm this with his parents.
I would not consider breaking up with him just yet until YOU ARE SURE of what is going on.
If I were you, I would be having a calm heart to heart talk with him. Fish around and find out what is going on and again maybe there is a way you can confirm everything without making him angry
Keep in mind. Trust is a very essential part of a relationship.
2006-07-22 08:42:30 · answer #1 · answered by HappyCat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he's never going to grow up and take responsibility for his life. He's going to live off his parents until they kick him out, then he'll want to live off you. If he can't set his priorities right to do the things a father and boyfriend should be doing, dump his stupid butt and sue for child support. Otherwise, he'll keep doing what he's doing now, you'll probably end up with another child, and he'll take off leaving you to fend for yourself. Or worse yet, he'll move in and expect you to take care of him as a third child. His excuses have always worked for him at home, and he figures they'll keep working for everything else in his tiny little life. Don't put up with it. He needs to get a job, move out from mommy and daddy's purse strings, and start acting like a father and boyfriend should, not like a 12 year old.
2006-07-22 08:48:21 · answer #2 · answered by fishing66833 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he was ever ready to be a dad, and I dont think you guys should have relations in the first place he could be in alot of trouble in my state. You might have to move on b/c your child is going to need a better role model and you are going to have to pick up the slack , which is sad most single parents are mothers. I would change my atitude and not count on him for now and do for your son, hes important right now.
2006-07-22 08:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by Eta_11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call him to see if he is home (don't tell him you are coming over) and go over to his house to see him and what he is doing. u could also ask the dad what is/was going on.he is making up all kinds of excuses so some action has to be taken.
2006-07-22 08:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by ...♥melissa♥... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a flea, kick him to the curb, tag him for child support. if nothin else the child deserves much more than that.
2006-07-22 08:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
big no no break up and put him on child support
2006-07-22 08:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋