juz look wt one of my best frnds told me..wt do i do?

Question

i m a very sensitive person ofcourse...but y do people comment me?n i m poor at handling them..
i m good looking n i hv a good hold over language..but i deserve self-respect..hw do i protect it without being rude?
juz some examples from my daily life.....here they go
1>frnd:i m goin out wid computer students 2 c a movie
myself:hey i`l also go..ok?
frnd:if no one goes then i`ll take u only!!
(everyone laughs)
2>myself:ok i gotto go..lets go together
frnd1:no i can`t
myself:its ok..i`l go
frnd1:no no..juz wait
frnd2:is she a baby..that u hv 2 carry her in ur lap?
(everyone laughs)
there r many incidences..i dun know where is my fault?is it me or they who r insensible?
i lack self-confidence ofcourse..but i juz can`t live without self-esteem..hw to preserve n show self respect?wt to do when someone insults u?
plz dun b rude

"THANX EVERYONE FOR YOUR REPLIES,
ENCOURAGEMENT
AND SUPPORT"

Answer 1

ANKITA, you seem like a very nice person, you're "friends" are complete jerks.
You do lack self- esteem, but you can find it in you.
You need to stand up for yourself, and not let ANYONE walk over you. You have to like yourself enough to tell the next person who puts you down that they are no better than you, they get dressed the same way you do, brush their teeth the same way you do, etc. In short, these people have low self-esteem, that's why they put you down. Nothing is wrong with you, remember that. Stop blaming your self for their behavior, and stop believing it's true.
The first time you stand up for yourself, you will have such a good feeling, that you'll wonder why you haven't done this before. Lastly, you might find a good therapist, not a psychiatrist, to help you with some assertiveness training. Good luck, and I think just stating your problem shows you can do anything!!

Answer 2

I think the problem is that you are sweet and innocent (maybe naive) while your 'friends' are a little cruel. Maybe these aren't really your friends? It is better to wait for a good friend than to try to turn a bad friend into a good one. Another possibility: You are not from the same country as your friends? If so, you may misunderstand some of the jokes. Americans LOVE to play mean and talk mean to their friends and family. If your friends are being jerks, but they still call you or ask you to do things with them, then they are probably just trying to have fun. Poke fun at them! And laugh! Whatever you do, don't be sad all of the time, because no one likes to be around someone who is sad.

Answer 3

had a tuff time reading it, but i no wat u mean. I had experiences like this. Keep going, usually it gets better. If you punch one of them (if youre a male) u gain respect. If you're a female, ur pushing too hard to be their friend. A male may also have both problems. Light up. If its your best friend, look for new friends, because eventually the friend will start to consider u an enemy through natural instincts (though they may not mean it). This friendship is 90% guaranteed to crash and burn. Don't push that 10%.

Answer 4

Well, it doesn't sound like you lack self confidence, if you offer yourself to go! I think that's great. But, the supposed friends are not being receptive. You are fine honey, it's the losers you have for friends. Find someone who treats you with the same respect that you give!

Answer 5

I think your "friends" know that you have low self esteem and use it to their advantage; don't let them! Change it up; next time you make a suggestion, to say, see a movie and all of a sudden THEY don't want to go, you just get up and say, "well, I'll see you later" and go by yourself! There's nothing better to build self esteem then realizing that you don't necessarily need other people by your side constantly to have fun by yourself; plus, you'll meet new people who will appreciate your independence and then you have a whole new class of friends....

Answer 6

It is very rare to find real and true friends. Don't give up your friends for something like that. It seems to me that they are just kidding with you. If you dont like tell them and THEN if they dont stop you should lose them as friends. They won't know that they are offending you until you tell them. I joke with my friends like that all the time but I would hope that if I was offending them that they would tell me so I'll know. Talk to your friends and let them know how you feel. It will make you feel alot better.

Answer 7

First of all, this was incredibally hard to read since you didn't spell things correctly. Secondly, those are not friends if they treat you like that. You need to drop them, and find people who will like you for who you are, and stop laughing at you. Again, these people are NOT your friends. Friends don't laugh at you, and call you names. You would be better off not having any friends at all than people like these b-i- itches.

Answer 8

This is the life babe. don't take such persons seriously.Try to get self confidence,be bold to give pertinent reply.Try to pull throe legs ,Gradually you will develop a differed personality &people will not after you then.

Answer 9

with friends like that, you certainly don't need enemies . . sorry to say, hun, but you need to dump those idiots and find a new group of people to be friends with . . . find out if there are organizations in your area that you can hook up with . . . what kind of things do you like? find something of interest to you . . . people who are interested in the same things as you will be interested in you for who you are . . . try it . . . good luck

Answer 10

Number one, if this is your best friend, then you need to be looking for other friends.
Number two, don't allow others to define your happiness.
Number three, love yourself enough to not worry about what others think of you!